Does it make you sad or mad when a fellow ABer takes you off their friends list with any explanation? see my answer
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MIA
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I doubt I'd ever notice, unless it was one of 2 maybe 3 people. This isnt myspace.
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Ok I personally think that we are adults here and if someone for whatever reason no longer wants to be my friend they should just have the guts to tell me through an email or however and not slither away. If I have done something to offend someone I would rather know up front than be left wondering.
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Do we get any kind of notification if someone removes us from their friends list? I think it would concern me and I would wonder why.
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I'd feel sad, yeah. I'd also feel really worried I'd offended someone, that I obviously thought I got on well with.
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Honestly, unless the person is a real-life friend I would just assume that the person no longer needed or wanted to keep track of me. If a person that I've been chatting with, met, talked to on the phone, or emailed a lot took me off with no explanation, I'd be pissed. That's pretty rude if you ask me.
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I have had it happen twice that I know of. One instance I am fully aware of why and I am OK with it. The other is still a mystery to me. I was one of the first to invite the person, encouraged them, posi-trolled them multiple time to help them get established, and had nothing but positive interactions. I was the second friend on their list, then one day poof, they just dropped me and after 3 inquiries as to why I still do not know. This one bothers me a bit.
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I don't look at my list so I would have no idea if someone took me off or not. I am sorry it happened to you....especially with no explanations .
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It never occured to me to check that sort of thing, but I have done it and it hurt the person very much and I felt terrible. It took her a while to accept my invite to be my friend again. Everybody on my friends list are there to stay and are etched in stone unless they tell me theyaren't coming back to AB.
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I wonder why but I am neither sad or mad. I figure that if I somehow offended them and they do it but they do not come to me first, they were not a friend. I have had a couple take me off because I had an argument with one of their friends. *shrugs* I have also been taken off of friend's lists where they have deleted a bunch, if not all of, their friends. I guess that popularity is not that important to me. I continue to interact with them as I always have.
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No ! Not really . As far as I know , it's only happened to me once and I didn't even notice it for a while. When I did , I actually got a little chuckle out of it because truthfully , the guy was one of the most pompous self-righteous douchbags I've ever seen so, it was no big loss ;-)
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It would make me curious. Not mad, I would be wondering what happened.
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Yeah. I'm still not real sure how that works. I agree though. They should tell you face to face. (so to speak)
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No. I take people off regularly. It has nothing to do with who I consider a friend or not. If I don't have much interaction with the people on my Friends List, I remove them. Clutter control--nothing more. I state this in my profile, so hopefully it won't hurt anyones feelings. My friends know who they are. I am also somewhat selective about who I accept and that is also stated in my profile. If somebody needs to be on my Friends List to feel that our friendship is secure, I don't need that friend. I also see the Friends List as collection for a lot of people and that doesn't sit well with me. It's just a list.
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There is a friends list?
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Doesn't really bother me. While the people on my friend list are there because I think they have some great input here on AB, I don't delude myself into thinking that any of them are real friends. They are just people that are either smart, smartass, funny, or respectful of other people to a greater extent than I tend to be. Now, if I ever do meet or hang out with anyone who is from AB in real life, then I would be kinda hurt if they dropped me from their list.
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Mildly sad. For like a half a minute. I think it's happened a total of three times to me. One time it was for a dopey reason. Another time it was probably deserved. And the last time I don't really know what reason it was for. As far as who I've taken off...well, I've made a couple of mistakes, I'll just put it that way. I remember one time Fun took all of her friends off of her Friends List. That was kind of funny.
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I cannot honestly say that I check to see if people have taken me off the list. I would be sad but it is their decision and they must feel they have a reason for so doing. I would not enquire or make a fuss about it.
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Not at all. I don't have "real" friends on Answerbag.
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I probably would not notice for a long while, but if that's what they want..............its quite ok. It's not going to ruin my day. I feel fine knowing that I didnt do anything to hurt their feelings.
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where does one have to look to see if they have been de-friended?
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Honestly i dont care anymore
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Its only happened once to my knowledge...when Sis left...
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not sure if i would notice as i never check it-do check to see if any are asking or answering questions in case something interests me but i only see the lastest ones then so i wouldnt know if anyone did tke me off-good question and i have to think i would be sad and would if i noticed check and ask them if i offended in anyway but that is me----smile and enjoy the night
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its comes down to a lack of manners and some people just have no clue as to what they are ... and are quite happy to go through life just being rude!
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It's happened to me twice - probably more than that, actually...but the two times I noticed it, I got no explaination. I never asked for one, though. I'm sure they had their reasons, but it did sting at first. Then I started noticing that one of the people was really arrogant and full of themselves, so I didn't really count it as a loss, and the other...well....*shrugs* who knows.
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No I just figure maybe we no longer have a common interest or they have some issues or something. It's all cool with me if it happens, I'll just catch em up somewhere around the place :)
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