I am a new single parent does anyone have a few words of advice for me? I want to protect my child but still live my life.
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Yes, assuming that your child is in good hands, don't feel guilty about allowing yourself some time to be yourself and not only a parent. Build in time for yourself as much as for your child and make as much use as possible of any resources available near you. For example, there may well be a single parents group that provides baby sitting and other support - join it, contribute, make it a real resource. Above all, don't think that you have to stop your life for the child's sake. This is not only unhealthy for you emotionally but might in time result in feelings of resentment that are projected onto the child, in turn causing guilt in you and thus becoming a vicious circle.
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I grew up with a single parent and I would say that the one thing I wish I had the most was more individual time and attention from my mother. She was always gone working and I grew up alone because of it. The most important thing for a child is a sense of security and closeness to the parent. Good luck to you.:-)
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make sure there is always a special day that its just you and your child (different day 4 each if you have more then 1 and if you can) tell your child that its there day to spend time together!
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also find somebody else that has kids and take turns in looking after the kids so they can go out and you can go out and your child will still have company!
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I have 5 kids........ The one advise I can give you is make sure you have close frinds or family. They will be there to help when you need a break. And stock up on alot of safety gear. When they get older they love the frig!!!!!!!!!
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spend lots of time with your child, trust me, they can not wrap their little brains around what's happening between you and their father. second, make time for yourself. if you and the father have a visiations schedule, make sure you take that time that you're not with your child and do something for yourself. whether it's going out with your girlfriend's or going out on a date. if you choose to go out on a date, make sure you don't introduce your child to your new mate until you're sure that your relationship has the potential to go somewhere. the last thing your child needs is another man coming in and out of their life. it's hard work balancing having your own life and being a single mom, trust me, i know. good luck!! **kisses**
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You can still have a life you just have one with your child. I was a single mom at the age of 21 which was crappy for the bar reason. Then I realized I was given something so much better, my lil girl. She always tries to make me laugh and gets my mind off things if I am down. She is the best thing in my life and I was given her for a reason. Spend as much time as you can with your child because if you choose other roads you may regret it later.
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