Make yourself horny before you try. Have him use his mouth on you to start, then using lots of lube have him use his fingers first, first one then two then three if needed. it will feel better at it goes, then once your there his penis shouldn't hurt so much. The worst part is when the head goes in so do it kinda fast.

You are very kind to want to do this for your husband but I think if something hurts you shouldn't do it and he shouldn't ask you to try further. It doesn't sound like you enjoy it at all but he wants you to and you wish you did.

it will get better, just try to relax and go slow. have a couple of glasses of wine, and lots of foreplay first, also lots of lube helps. it will always hurt the first few times, but the pain will get less and less as long as you relax! as soon as you tense up and thing "this is going to hurt" then it will hurt!

All good advice, try a few more times but have an out clause so in time if nothing helps he will give it up. But really it can be a really great experience if done correctly. First question is how big is he? If he's big or thick it might never happen. The thing is some people enjoy the pain. In extremely heightened sexual states pain becomes pleasure, the body chemistry and brain changes. Pain causes endorphins and that can make a more pleasurable feeling. For instance, working out can be painful but you get this runner high from it once you past a certain point. This is going to take a few times and graduate slowly step by step. Not even in the same week, maybe once a week or every other week, he has to be patience. So, relax, have a few glasses of wine. Have him give you a full body massage with oil. Have him perform some great oral on you including some anal penetration with a well lubed finger. Just have him insert it and not anything else. That will get you used to having an object in there. Graduate to a small anal plug, well lubed it will stay in by it's self. Have him use a vibrator on you or rabbit while doing this after the oral. After a few times of this and once you have learned to relax your anal sphincter muscles and are used to having something in there he can proceed to using a finger or two in you anus but with the in and out movement. You can also use a dildo now that is approximately his size or less with the in and out motions, but slowly and well lubed. The next step is to insert his penis when you are fully comfortable and just leave it in their while he plays with you, erogenous zones like breasts, nipples, clit and even uses the vibrator on you clit. Then it time for you to hold the vibrator on your clitoris while he slowly does the in/out thing, slowly until you are used to it. Once you have gotten to that point it's time to go for it full out. If you can't get to that point it will never happen, if you do by that time you would be used to it and even if it's not number one on your list all the other things like massages, rabbit's and vibrators maybe even a little B&D thrown in might make up for it. Then again he may unleash something inside of you that makes you say "fuck my ass, pound it baby, ram it hard in me", it has happened, believe me. But always use an enema to clear your bowels first and be careful anything you eat that day isn't something that makes you have any type of intestinal problems. If you cannot get to that point but have given it a real try, make a deal with him. You will let him fuck your ass if he lets you take a similar sized dildo and fucks his with it, it's only fair you know. He might get into too, you never know. Some men love a vibrator in there too. It doesn't mean he's gay believe it or not.

My lover and I have anal sex most every time we are intimate. If he is slow and patient and if you relax and be sure he uses enough lube you will be fine. They don't recommend the numbing stuff cause it may not be healthy. I am not orgasmic every time however the mutual turn on of how much he enjoys breaking the taboo and the tightness should be something you relish in. Try looking at it from the perspective that you are going to relax and allow him to enjoy it, you will find yourself enjoying it too!

In regards to the numbing lubes, they don't numb his penis (the ones I've used anyway) only your anus. But you still have to be careful with these, if you use them it doesn't mean he can pound away at your ass with abandon, he can still do damage the same way if you weren't numbed. For me, it takes away the pain but I can still feel him back there which makes it great. Just use caution.

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Generally I start with one finger and loads of lube then two working it slowly then three...always lots of lube kind words and gentle workings...finally after I have fisted her for 4 or 5 minutes...we are ready to try to slip it in...always slowly....alternatively I slip her a roofie and bang it six ways to Christmas and in the morning look innocent, and blame that fucking dwarf.

Some of these tips may help you.. I explain how to make it less painful.

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Get yourself some pain medication or muscle relaxers..