He has moved forward how? Got a Job, get a car,find an apartment. Your friend needs to find his own resonsibility for his own life. Once he finds himself self sufficient he will find great rewards for himself and you.

This is a complex situation with no easy answers. It's also difficult to say without more information but I'll give you a few possibilities. A. Having suffered from health issues myself, I can tell you that it is very hard to get up and go to work when you feel like utter crap. Depending on what condition he is suffering from, there may be other symptoms you aren't aware of (even though he sounds like he'll tell anyone that will listen about what ails him). Once I figured out what was wrong and got proper treatment, I had enough energy to get on with my life again. It may not be a crutch, he may really be suffering. B. He could have depression. It doesn't have to be severe, even a mild case could put him into a do-nothing funk. Depression is an imbalance in the chemicals of the brain. If he does have this, he can't help the way he feels and may think there's no hope and no point in trying. You seem to be a good friend that cares about him and this situation could be serious. He may really need your help. Here are some symptoms of depression to watch out for (from http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=18543 and http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/Depression_Information/symptoms.htm ) -Persistent sad, anxious, or \"empty\" mood -Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism, guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, anxiety -Feeling like a burden to others, a failure and/or feeling guilty a lot of the time -Feeling that life is unfair -Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, including sex -Feeling exhausted a lot of the time with no energy -Feeling as if even the smallest tasks are sometimes impossible -Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions, thinking clearly -Problems sleeping. Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping -Appetite and/or weight loss or overeating and weight gain -Restlessness, irritability -Not wanting to see people or being scared of being left alone. Social activity may feel hard or impossible -Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain -Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts If you think he may have depression, here are some things you can do: (from http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=18545 ) -Don't lecture or moralize. He can't just 'snap out of it' -Be available and willing to listen. Say something like \"I have noticed lately that you seem down. I care about you. I'm willing to listen.\" Then follow through on your word and be a good listener. -Saying, \"I know exactly how you feel,\" is trite and most likely untrue. If you've gone through some hard times, share those experiences, how you overcame them, and say, \"This is something that helped me, maybe it could help you too.\" -Urge him to seek professional help. Depression may get better on its own but he will be at higher risk for another episode if he doesn't get help. Offer to go with him the first time if he's nervous. -Most importantly, if he has any of the signs of suicide or threatens to do so, stay with him and contact a mental health professional immediately! Some signs include giving away cherished belongings or saying things like, \"After I'm gone...,\" \"Would you take care of my pet?\", etc. To find help: -Ask people you know (your physician, clergy, etc.) to recommend a good therapist -Ask people you know (your physician, clergy, etc.) to recommend a good therapist -Try family service, health, or human service agencies -Try outpatient clinics at general or psychiatric hospitals -Try university psychology departments -Try a family physician -Look in the yellow pages of your phone book for counselors, marriage and family therapists, or mental health professionals C. He could be using it as a crutch and an excuse to leech off his parents. Telling him he's a loser isn't going to make it better, though. Eventually, he'll either mature enough to realize he's taking advantage of them or he'll decide he wants something more in his life (the fairer sex isn't impressed when she has to take a bus with her date to the restaurant and then be quiet sneaking back into his place so they don't wake up the folks).

Ever heard of the word hypochondriac these people complain if the wind shifts one direction to another. has your friend had a complete mental and physical examination, by a medical doctor? if not, he apparently is overdue. you know your friend better than anyone. do you believe he is for real or just pretending, in order to elude working and dealing with society? If all the above is normal, he may be heading where many people feel absolutely at home.....homeless. there are some very intelligent people that are homeless. some homeless people cannot deal with society and most have health problems. take care of your friend, even with has faults. he may not have anyone else.

Darkling gave excellent information! follow that advice. I have a friend she always talked about depressing things, sad all the time. I encouraged her to document what she was thinking,doing and feeling before and after. Once she recorded a month of data, I went with her to see a physician,she gave the recorded information to the physician. She was prescribed a mild dose of an anti-depressant which for her was a blessing! Her personality,humor and attitude toward life itself changed dramatically,improved! She went back to College now with a Masters degree. Surely the effects may vary, but it helped her! support your friend,encourage him, by all means don't grade his behaviors, this could be an uncontrolable condition for now. Read Darklings response. No garantees, but maybe worth the effort, (testimony above).