I want my boyfriend to come over, but my mother hates him. He's an awesome guy but she openly expresses how much she hates him all the time and it hurts him very much. I already talked to her with no luck. We've been dating for a year!
by 
Meg
ANSWERS: 8
-
WHY does she hate him? If she has never met him and knows nothing of him -- she's just being blindly biased against him for reasons that have no foundation. Ask her why she wants to be so blind to meeting him, if she doesnt have a good answer you might just fluster her.
-
have you ever sat down to talk to her and ask her why she hates him? like not all argumentative, but actually sit down, listen to what she has to say [even if you think it's total BS] and then once she's done, work with her on what kind of compromise you can reach. honestly i'm sure your mother only has your best in mind, but yea it seems really unfair. hopefully you'll both give each other a chance and reach some middle ground
-
Your mother is a spoiled brat loudmouth bitch just as my mother. She didn't like him when I was dating, was furious when we got engaged and was hoping that the wedding day would never come. Well, that was 1984, 1985 & 1986. I am happily married for over 21 years and I am convinced that my mother isn't a good judge of character. Some people just are set in their ways. Hopefully, some day your mother will come around and see the qualities you see in your man.
-
Sometimes parents are like that. I can think of two people who's parent/s totally disapproved and let it be known. Not a good situation at all. You're the meat in the sandwich, so to speak, but I can also imagine how your boyfriend feels. Has anything happened in the past to create the animosity? If so, can it be dealt with? Perhaps your mother is afraid of losing you, and sees your boyfriend as the one who will take you away. If it's a racial or religious thing, then you're on really touchy ground. A lot of my relatives of the older generation still harbour ill feelings to other races and cultures. All I can say is that if you've been going with this guy for a year, that's pretty steady and worth a lot.
-
to be honest, the answer to this is not to bring him back to the house because it is HER house, not yours and she does not have to like this guy nor allow him into her home. Go somewhere else instead and you must both learn to tolerate each others views. Negotiate a comprimise such as she agrees not to slag him off all the time if you agree not to keep bringing him home 7 days a week. Go elsewhere on dates. When you own your own home, then you can set the rules but not if you are living in her house.
-
I suggest you don't bring him over, you don't want to make the situation worse. YOu live in you Mum's house so you must abide by her wishes. Forcing your boyfriend on her is only going to make it worse. Time will tell and if your boyfriend is still around you Mum will gradually except him.
-
Most parents are different. Your mom probably dislikes him for several reasons that you havent mentioned to us on answerbag. But anyways, your mother could be the traditional/conservative type, for example, a mother who wouldnt like her child to marry someone outside her race. Maybe it could be that your young and the thought of you having a boyfriend is out of the question.
-
Why does she hate him anyway?
RELATED QUESTIONS
Copyright 2023, Wired Ivy, LLC