Lately, I've been hearing many people criticising others for being insecure. Do you think it's fair for people to judge eachother in a harsh manner because of their insecurities?
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Actually, I have had a personal experience with this one. A friend and her boyfriend came to visit and he was a real jerk. Not wanting to have a strain on my relationship with my friend, I tried to maintain a good attitude and make them comfortable on their visit. I admit that it was upsetting that my friend would let her new boyfriend be so rude to my husband and myself. I probably did go out of my way to try to make him friendlier (which, I realize, was not my job!).I was later criticized (by alleged friend) for being too insecure. She said it made her boyfriend uncomfortable and she was angry with ME. I can see how insecurity can be a turn-off in certain situations, but I generally see it as someone needing reassurance. It's certainly not something to be disliked for.
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to quote that great philosipher Bart Simpson "No way, man!"
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Geeze.... don't you think that would just cause MORE insecurities?
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no people are not insecure on purpose.
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Often the issue isn't that someone is insecure, it's that they're "acting out" or hiding their insecurity in ways that cause problems. To be insecure (i.e. to have self-doubt about something) is pretty common, and you can't wave a magic wand to make it go away. But you do have a choice about how to relate to it. Often people get caught up in trying to compensate for their doubts or hide them in some way, and those strategies can cause problems. The best thing to do if you're insecure is to be insecure: just be straight about it. With awareness and effort, it's possible to resolve the doubt in time. But to cover it over, pretend it doesn't exist, or act it out in ways that are irritating to others is indeed worthy of criticism.
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I don't hear people talking about it as a criticism as much as I do a reason to explain why someone may be acting a particular way.
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I'm guilty of accusing others of being insecure. I guess you're right. My bad.
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Judge not, lest ye be judged.
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