My new BF speaks to a female friend nearly every single day, sometimes for hours. This friend tells him things she should be talking to her own boyfriend about and I believe is highly inappropriate talk. My BF has many many female friends & no guy pals.
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You need to tell your bf what your expectations are in terms of his behavior. [You can't change it, however, he has to want to.] If he chooses to ignore your needs and your feelings, perhaps you might want to re-examine this relationship.
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If you don't like how your boyfriend lives, and who his friends are -- why not just forget about him? I don't see why somebody has to change, just because you are his girlfriend.
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I talk with a guy friend every week and sometimes more than once a week.. and we tie the phones up during those calls. I am more comfortable talking to him because of the type of friendship we have.. not because he is male. However, I have to say that I have more guy friends than I do male friends and my guy has no problem with it because he is confident and secure. Sorry but I do not think anything is wrong with it. Some guys are just really easy to talk to.. just like chicks.. and he may be one of them. I truly do not see what the problem is if they are friends.. obviously they are good friends if they can talk about different issues. I would be proud that he is someone people feel they can turn to.
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'green' doesnt suit you or anyone ....jealousy is a hideous disease and you need to get rid of it right now .... you seem to forget they were friend way before you came along and its a bit rude for you to try and change this all because of unfounded jealousy ... grow up and stop this childish behavior before YOU destroy your relationship that you have now and any other relationship you have in the future
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More Info: they aren't 'great' friends. She hasn't been in his life very long and he talks to her b.c he says she likes to talk, is chatty, needs someone to talk to her on long car drives so she doesn't fall asleep and she loves to call him when she is drunk. He never mentions anything that he just really enjoys her friendship or that they have been best buds for years or anything.
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if they haven't been friends very long, you need to be straight with him about this stuff. there should be boundaries in a romantic relationship - it's not like they're 'like brother and sister'. it sounds like she's probably after him and it would be better for you to lay down the law with him now as far as emotional fidelity goes and get her out of the picture, and risk losing him early on than to risk your own heart later on should she steal him and or/cause him to cheat on you.
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He is going to be this way no matter how much you try to change him. If you can't stand his behaviour, maybe it's time to end it. I guess you could talk about boundaries but if you don't agree to the boundaries you want set, then what's the point in continuing the relationship? I know a guy like this and he has a lot of girls that he is friends with and not many guy friends because he grew up around his mom and sisters and so is more comfortable around girls than he is around guys. I think I need more information about him before I can even begin to judge him negatively. To me, it sounds like you are jealous and you don't trust him and he was just that way that he is all along and you aren't happy with what he's like and is most likely going to continue to be like in the future.
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It's a hard one. My BF has mostly female friends as well and speaks to two of them almost every day. He is much more in touch with his feminine side and really easy to talk to in comparison to most men. So, he connects very easily with women as friends. It's hard to know someone's intentions/desires with these kinds of friendships, especially if it's a new relationship. I've talked to my BF about it. He clearly states they are only friendships , and he is not looking for a dating relationship with anybody else. Since it is still new, all I can say is that I think time will tell. And if things generally feel pretty good, as they do in my situation, it's worth hanging in there to see.
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