I'm 17 and My Boyfriend Says He loves me, and he wants to Prove it By having Sex, he Also says I'm the only one that makes him Feel this way,..Does He Just want to get in my Pants? What Should I do?... I love Him, But I also have Trust issues.
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I don't advise you to listen to him. That sounds like a pretty lame way for a guy to prove to a girl that he loves her. Then again, that's my opinion.
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Oh my od he wants to prove it by havin sex?!?! he is SO LAME! if he REALLY loved you he'd be cool with you guys taking it slow. dump him, you can find hotter, less-lame guys.
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there is a million of other ways he can prove his love dont give into the pressure. if he loved you he will wait untill both of you are old enough and ready. dont do it if you really do not want to
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If he loves you he should not be pressuring you to have sex. You have to be ready yourself. Sounds like your intuition is kicking in if you feel you can't trust him. Stick by your guns. Imagine if you slept with him and then he took off. You would feel terrible. Don't do it. If he loves you, he will wait until you are ready.
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sex is not "proof" of love, or of anything else. it's supposed to be a result of love, although a lot of the time it's sadly just a result of lust. anyone who tries to tell you otherwise is just trying to get in your pants. don't have sex until you feel it's right.
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how old is he? also dont listen to what he wants, do what you want to do, when your ready and you want to, then you can, dont be pressured, sex is not proof of love and neither is marriage for that matter. him saying that is him trying to get you into bed, if he loves you he will wait till your ready other wise he isnt worth it anyway.
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Did he say he wants to prove it by having sex with you? Uh-uh! The guy I've been seeing hasn't even said he loves me, he just wants to have sex with me- an example that one does not need to have sex with someone to prove they love them. If you have trust issues then obviously you are not completely secure with this guy, even though you do love him. Consider how long you've been in a relationship with him and if the time feels right- of course it doesn't matter how long you have been together, if you're not ready to sleep with him, he should respect that, and if he really loves you, you telling him you're not ready should not be a problem for you because you'll know he'll completely respect that. Stay true to your feelings :)
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Make sure you read this next line very, very carefully: At 17, all guys care about is getting laid. There are no exceptions. Now it's not impossible that he DOES love you. It's not impossible that the sex would bring you closer. But the best way for him to prove his love to you is to request your wishes, particularly if they involve not having sex. That's the real test. Wanna find out if he loves you? Tell him you don't want to have sex. See what happens. Just tell him you're not ready. I've literally forced myself to cry as I proclaimed my love for a woman I cared nothing about just for sex. Seriously. Guys are scum.
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He may not only want to get in your pants, but that is most likely his main motive.
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yes, u have to take time to make u confident on him.
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Love isn't all about having sex, if he truly loves you he would wait until ur ready
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Such a stupid excuse to have sex. LOL
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Hon, boys at that age are notorious for telling girls whatever they think the girls want to hear so they can "get in their pants."
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You never ever PROVE love by having sex.
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Its like most of them said at 17 all guys are about getting laid so make sure you're ready. Not just that they claim to be inlove with you in like 2 days...unless he demonstrates it to you dont believe him he might just be sweet talkin you.
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Tricky one. For some people, a physical act like sex is the most intimate and special thing that they can possibly share with someone. However, places like hollywood have permanently implanted this idea that all males are permanently sex-crazed arseholes. You say you have trust issues. Is this because of him or someone else?
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He just wants to get in your pants. There is plenty of time for sex later after your education is in the bag and you are married. If he loves you he will wait.
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He wants to prove that he loves you by having sex? Lol, that's one of the worst lines I have ever heard!
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Well...here is a great way to find out. Tell him that you want to wait until your wedding day. If he cannot wait, then he doesn't love you the way he ought to love you. He loves you body. It is better to live your life alone than to live it with someone you will have major problems with later on in life. There are signs you can find early in your life to see if there is going to be any major problems.
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If he really loves you than he would wait for you when your ready.
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I'd use the 'i don't want to have sex until I'm married' line on this one. Even if it's not true. It'll let u know for sure if he's committed and by all means wait as long as you want. It does kinda sound like hes trying to get into your pants tho... But see how the saying you wanna wait until your wedding night thing goes. If he runs you'll know for certain hes not right for you.
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I'm going to agree with all the comments above. Seriously hunny, the best way he could prove his love is by respecting your wishes. If you have trust issues this is the last thing you want to be doing. You also have to ask yourself 1)Will I regret this after its done? 2)Do I love him in return? 3)Are we on the same level about this? If number one is a yes, I wouldn't even move on to the next questions. I'd tell him this "I want to wait, and if you truly love me, you'd respect that." TRUST IS A MUST!
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If he really loves you he will stay with you throuth thick and thin and if he really loves you he doesnt NEED to have sex.Good Luck.=]
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He can prove it to you by NOT having sex with you. He can prove it by being true, and attentive and caring. He can prove it by waiting until you are ready.
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Ha ha... Fifth grade sex ed, we had two teachers, a man and a woman. The male teacher gathered all the guys up, the female all the girls, each on separate sides of the room. After a couple minutes of rehearsal, there was the following exchange: "Boys, on three. One, two three..." "BUT, I LOVE YOU" Girls: "I SAID NO"
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tell him to prove it by waiting until you're ready...anyone that loves you wouldn't try to make you do anything you weren't ready for
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as a guy i can tell u that we would do just about "anything" to have sex. People always say that love has to do with sex when it really has nothing to do with sex. you'll kno if he really loves u if he can wait. but make sure u make him wait a longass time. if u guys are together by next year than i say go for it. but for now homeboy will have to wait.
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It's amazing how some things never change. I recall being a teen and saying ANYTHING to get laid. Sex proves nothing except that he is a normal, anatomically correct boy who is capable of erections. If he loves you so much and not what's between your legs, he will be just fine waiting until when and if you ever decide you are ready for such things. never have sex due to pressure.
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ok...he probably does have feelings for you to some extent im sure...but, he is using those feeling as an excuse to try and get laid. Girls, the idea of having sex with a guy to get him to like you better is a naive one at best...the only thing the guy is going to like is busting a nut...I think its best you try to use your better judgment here.
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why don't you trust him? anytime we do something that we really DON'T want to do for anyone, we regret it! (specially if it's a life changing action) if it's real love it will stand the test of time.. good luck to you..
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He wants to prove that he loves you by having sex? LOL that's so funny! That's something I would say. Come on, your old enough to know... Really come on.
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He really, really loves you. Not.
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He may or may not just want to get into your pants... I can't say as I don't know him... If it turns out that that's all he wants, then I'm sorry... You and you alone can make the choice to have sex... If you choose to; don't go unprotected. Take birth control pills and have him wear a condom. Also, be aware of STDs/STIs... Hope this helps... :D
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Love and lust are two peas in a pod and the real nature of trust for you depends only on you. Good luck.
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If your not ready to have sex... and you love him... If he really loves you he can wait untill your ready. You are 17 and you don't need that kind of pressure in your life if your not sure your ready for that. Trust issues are a big deal at your age too. What exactly don't you trust? Why do you think you have those trust issues? Those are questions you should ask yourself.
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of course he does. tell him your saving it for the highest bidder.
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If you really want to know how he truly feels test him, tell him that if he truly loved you he would wait. then check out his reaction to that you will definitely know how he really feels about you. Just as a reminder to the real truth, my sons father said he loved me and since our son has been born I haven't seen him once and our son is three years old know. Think about it
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If he wants to have sex and you definitely don't want to have sex, maybe you guys shouldn't be together. It's natural for a 17yr old boy to want it. It's natural for a 17yr old girl to want it too. If you're leading him on and he thinks it's possible then he'll stick by you (as opposed to trying to find it elsewhere) because he loves you. If you know that it's no a possibility, however, you should tell him that and let him go.
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dont let him do it for a while longer honestly you have to make him work for it the longer he waits the more respect you will get I dont mean for like another year or anything but dont let him choose when either make sure that you plan it out and not him so you can then 1) make the situation more erotic for him making it better and 2) it gives you the power and lets him know that you choose what happens not him and also make him wait a little while for the next one too not that long but you know and dont tell him when you plan it
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If you want to have sex with him, have sex with him. There's nothing wrong with sex IF YOU WANT IT and YOUR PARTNER WANTS IT. Just make sure he wears protection. That said, he's probably just trying to get into your pants. Anytime anyone, at any age, argues you should have sex because of love, you can be pretty sure he (okay, sometimes maybe she, but usually /he/) is trying to get into your pants. With young males in the teen to early adult phase, this argument is very frequent because girls are still naive about sex (and the guys are probably too naive to realize it wouldn't work on a mature woman). Unless you're trying to get pregnant, sex really doesn't need a reason and shouldn't be something forced. So IF YOU DO HAVE SEX WITH HIM, it's very likely he'll leave you for someone else. It's by no means certain, but it's possible. But he may do that eventually anyway if you don't have sex with him.
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I do not think that it si the right way of proving ,trust is the big issue in the relationship.
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tell him to wait , then see what does he have to say about it .
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Nah, he just wants sex from you. Make him commit first. Tell him you're waiting for marriage, it's the best thing to do for you.
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lol that is the greatest line i have ever heard and yet its so simple. Why didnt I think of that?
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At 17, all they ever want to do is get in your pants. Your virginity is your own... They will say anything they need to to make what is yours... Theirs. And once you give it away. It's not yours anymore to give the one man who deserves it. Only you can determine who that man is.
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If YOU want to have sex with him, TRULY want to, then that's fine. I see no reason not to. However, if you have ANY doubts whatsoever about it, then don't do it. You aren't ready. Also, I've hard that teenage boys use the whole 'I love you' thing to try to get girls into bed. It possible, maybe even probable, that he just wants to get into your pants. It's also possible that he genuinely does love you. The choice is yours. Whatever you do, it should be what YOU want to do, not to please anyone else.
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the fact that your posting this question tells me that your uncomfortable with the situation and that your not ready. so, i'm going to tell you to go with your heart here. you have trust issues and sex isn't going to fix them. don't do it until you know it's right. let's face it, guys will say anything to get into your pants. he's a horny boy.
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Keep your pants (and shirt) on. 17 is way to young to think about babies and STDs. You have your entire life ahead of you and you are going to see the "real love" at least 6 or 7 more times.
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