ANGER IN RELATIONSHIPS: I am curious to know how many couples name call when things finally reach a boiling point. I had asked a similar question a while back & received little response.
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I have a tendancy to lose my temper and do just that. Recently it cost me a relationship. I don't understand, how angry words, name calling the first time, would make someone leave a realtionship so quickly. Everyone gets mad.
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I make it a habit never to give into the momentary impulse to call my husband names. It means that i have to be somewhat in control of myself when i'm angry..but I think thats a good thing. I have been involved in relationships where there was name calling, and i found the whole thing to be very distasteful...calling someone you are supposed to love and respect nasty names just isnt my idea of loving behaviour.
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My wife and I never name call. Before we were married we were advised that whenever we needed to fight or argue we should agree to argue and hold eachothers hands while at it. It really helps.
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My wife and I never engage in name calling when we are angry or arguing.. It's never been my personality to do so (I'm pretty easy-going by nature).. It's just never a good idea to name call in relationships.. Because even after the fight is over the names that have been tossed back and forth still linger in the back of your mind and continue to do damage..
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dont ever call each other names unless we are joking around come to think of it we dont ever really argue that much either.
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It's really easy to lose your temper and resort to name-calling. I've done it in the past and I always regretted it. Sometimes the damage was irreparable. The best thing one can do is apologize and think next time you get angry. Ask yourself "Am I going to really regret it afterwards if I call this person a name? Don't look at now, look at the future consequences of your anger and name-calling. Still, I know what you mean. It is very difficult to hold back your tongue when you're angry. It's even harder when the other person calls you names first. But think of the consequences then think of that question I posed.
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I have to admit to being guilty of name-calling in the heat of the moment. Of course, I didn't mean it when I called him a dumb-a**ed, needle-di**ed, mother fu**er, but hey, he pi**ed me off. In retrospect, maybe doing that whilst I threw my wedding ring at him wasn't such a good idea.
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nah! that's just childish and it doesn't solve anything. it's stupid. we will usually do what i call "yell intelligently". we will offer evidence and complex arguments as to why we are right...but we do so very loudly. haha. i realize that yelling is not necessary but at least we are offering support for our argument and not just randomly yelling stupidly and calling each other names. and this way, we learn a little more about each other and understand the other point of view even if we don't agree with it.
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I personally couldn't give you a BS number, but I know that alot, ALOT, do the name calling and saying things they don't mean. That's why alot of relationships end so badly, because there's just too much hurt and too many things to remember in the heat of the moment. I personally try not to say things I don't mean. I may say things that may be hurtful, but never anything that shouldn't be said, or aren't perceived to be true. If someone does something that bothers me, I would say it. Not just take it back, because I realized the repercussions of actions.
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No, we avoid that. I get very violent when angry and fighting however, but dont take it out on my partner, just inanimate objects. Possibly name calling would be a better option :)
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