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by mermaid baby on January 6th, 2008

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I dont want to leave him. i love him so much. but i am miserable. i cant stand the lies. I dont trust him. please someone tell me to sit down shut up and take it up the ass.... ok not litterally. i am 29. he is 46. god he is so inconsiderate!

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  • by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on January 6th, 2008

    DA BEN DAN yanggui zi

    How can you love anyone who obviously doesn't love you back. There are limits..I think you need out of this one FAST.

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  • by girly_girl on May 6th, 2008

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    I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years. we were engaged for over one year. we lived together for a year. I was 18 when we met i am 24 now. I don't even have any memories without him. He's been a part of my life for a long long time. And guess what, he is not a bad person, he just can not tell the truth, and I am a very honest and open person. Just like you, we argued constantly, I was miserable, i loved him, still do, but as somebody else said here, love is not everything, if you cannot live together than that's the end of the road. i had the same problems, he lied from day 1, to me, my parents, everybody. He was also bad about money, selfish, inconsiderate, he thought only of himself, made me cry every day, with the lies, with the fact that after making good money at work, i still had to live paycheck to paycheck. Everybody will get what's comming to them. Please, just leave him, you are 29, you can start over, leave him alone and don't look back. Trust me, you've been together for 1 year, i've been with my ex for 6, and I still did it, and if you think it will take you months or years to get over it, its not true, i broke up with my ex a little over 3 weeks ago. I am so much happier now, i feel bad for him cuz i know that he wont amount to anything but i tried to help him and i couldnt. good luck

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  • by miRi hates social norms and regulations on January 6th, 2008

    miRi hates social norms and regulations

    you already seem like a smart woman to know you need to get out of this relationship, it's just a matter of finding the strength and support you need to help you know you'd be making the right decision. pep talk i guess you'd call it?

    leave a man who isn't worthy of you, because you deserve better. EVERY HUMAN BEING deserves the truth, whether they can handle it or not, it's ALWAYS better than a lie. even a small one. if you can't trust him now hun, how are you going to be able to trust your future in his hands? every woman [and man] deserves honesty and respect and compassion...
    call your mom or your best girlfriend or sister or whoever, have them help you through it because you know you shouldn't have to go through a heartbreak alone.

    i hope for the best for you

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  • by Meg is exhausted on January 6th, 2008

    Meg is exhausted

    You know, deep down, that this relationship is toxic for you. I can sense that in the phrasing of your question. Follow your instincts and leave him. You say he is untrustworthy and inconsiderate. Is this the kind of person you should trust with your heart? You know the answer to that.

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  • by joy14_spl on January 6th, 2008

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    A good relationship is based on trust. If you don't trust him then your relationship is doomed to fail. If he isn't trustworthy, why bother? I've been in the same situation and I also felt miserable. Now, it's not a good thing if you feel miserable in a relationship and it is a sign that either something's wrong with him or with you.
    Love isn't enough. Evaluate yourself if you're feeling true love or just a sort of dependency to that person. Love is the extension of oneself for the growth of the other person, but it doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your own growth. If you don't see your relationship defined by that love then you don't have love at all. Good luck!

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  • by I love my baby on January 6th, 2008

    I love my baby

    Damn...... I think you have been listening to him too much if you are wanting us to tell you that! If he is that inconsiderate just dump him, there is better love than that out there. I do wish you the best ofluck.

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  • by alisacwilliams on October 5th, 2010

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    I was only 29, when I was put in your shoes. He was 52, & married. He had beed married for 32 Yrs. Told me I was his EVERYTHING! After 3 yrs. of trusting his every word, I was devistated!!!!!!! He not only liied to me, my kids, but lied to his wife & kids. Since he totally fckd my world up, he fckd me further. Used Paula Bond, from Montgomery , TX. Used her for 5 Thousand Bucks.He then lied to her about being with me. What a WINNER! ( Please do not put yourself through this! ) No man will ever put you first. He will cover himsef always. This I Promise You!!!!

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  • by anoyonous on May 6th, 2008

    anoyonous

    You do want to leave him your just too scared ;)

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  • by val gal on July 12th, 2008

    val gal

    Do not break up with him because it is obvious that you enjoy the drama. You are getting something out of it which is what keeps you around. You are allowing him to mistreat you. He can't do it on his own. two to tango.

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  • by lisa2950 on January 13th, 2010

    lisa2950

    I am in a similar situation myself. Spend so much time thinking about leaving and have it all in place, just cant go. My boyfriend isn't nasty, we are just going nowhere. He still sees his friends all the time and smokes weed, what a waste of time! God knows why I stay. Women are devils to themselves sometimes!

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