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by kellylu on January 6th, 2008

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My hubby never tries to have sex with me, when we do i start it. i found that he has been watching gay porn on the internet up to 3 times aday mostly when i am in bed or not home. do you think he is gay? and if he is would he be able to perform with me?

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  • by Stillme FBB on January 6th, 2008

    Stillme FBB

    I think you should talk to your husband. Ask him these questions. You two need to talk, really talk to each other. And whatever you do.......also listen. Do this soon. Sometimes we let our imagination get the best of us. Talk with him. Let him know you are still his wife and tell him how you feel. He cannot read your mind. Good luck.

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  • by JTP on January 6th, 2008

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    Talk to your husband, in some studies there are showings that only 10% or less of the total population are actually completely straight.

    Don't let your mind beat you, talk to your husband and listen to him, he may be going through a hard time in his life trying to accept a part of him that he has denied for a long time.

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  • by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on January 6th, 2008

    asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson

    There isn't much I could add to this that stillme hasn't already covered in her answer. You do need to have a serious chat with him and figure out what is going on.

    Just because he is watching gay porn doesn't mean necessarily that he is gay. Maybe something about it intrigues him who knows.

    As far as him not taking an interest in you sexually there could be a number of reasons for it and none of them have anything to do with him being gay. I wish you luck with this.

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  • by gone on January 6th, 2008

    gone

    In my experience (my 1st husband left me and our two babies for a man) straight men are completely grossed out by gay sex. Trust your instincts and get some mediation if you can't get him to talk to you about this. Good luck!

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  • by Wilde on January 6th, 2008

    Wilde

    Are you serious? You still want to have sex with a man who might potentially be infected with a life-threatening disease? My suggestion is to get an HIV test and then a divorce. Face the reality that he's out of the closet now and not likely to venture back. He may have been your most precious possession at one time - but now it's your health.

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  • by My Favourite Life on August 6th, 2008

    My Favourite Life

    A little more communication seems to be the prescription here.

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  • by Wilde on January 14th, 2008

    Wilde

    Wow! I can see why you chose the handle “Pyro” -- you’re a regular human flamethrower, aren‘t you John? First I'm an ignoramus, now a bigot, and a simpleton to boot! What's next -- a raving lunatic or perhaps even a terrorist? You should be aware there are laws against directing such hateful statements towards others. For all you know, I could be Jewish as well, so you could in fact be treading on some very thin ice here. lol!

    I actually wondered when the bigot/homophobe allegation would arise. Well, you have my sincerest condolences. It’s always a shame to see another victim of social engineering; in this case one that's led to believe that promiscuous sexual activity between males is a normal and worthy pastime. Of course, if you're somewhere between 2 and 6 on the scale of the study you cite, your motives would be even more questionable and spurious.

    By the way, this infamous study that you cite would seem to correlate with the opinion of many experts who believe that a distinct classification of "bi-sexuality" does not exist in society, and in fact, homo-sexuality crosses over many lines of sexual preference.

    To have any credit, this survey would have had to encompass a very large study group to make the assertion that the findings represent the general population. It stands to reason that some of the respondents would have been of a different sexual persuasion other than hetero or homo, so did they not qualify to take part in this study? Was this evaluation intended for the male population only or were females included as well, and those who had lesbian tendencies swayed towards the upper (gay) end of the scale? Was the study a legitimate one taken over a cross-section of the U.S. population as the one I cite below, or from just one city, such as San Francisco? Judging from what you've stated, there's far too much ambiguity about this study to give it any credence, or is that just my ignorance showing through again?

    The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services has estimated America's gay, lesbian, and bisexual population at around 8.8 million people. That translates to somewhere between 2.5 and 3%. That's a far cry from the 90% your study would indicate, regardless of whether or not women were included in it, or the level of apparent deviation from “normal”. I find it hard to believe that over 80% of the U.S. population are "in the closet" or sitting on the fence when it comes to acknowledging their true sexual identity.

    It never ceases to amaze how minority agendas, aided by government and media, can brainwash even rational people into believing practically anything they want them to -- like for example, if you invade another country and kill and injure thousands of innocent civilians in the process, you create peace and a better world. Did you buy that one too John?

    Contrary to your assumption, I am not a religious wing-nut with a holier than thou attitude about the way people cohabitate. I just happen to come from the old school where a man is not afraid to call a spade a spade or speak out against what he feels is unjust or immoral. I am by no means a devout Christian -- but I’ll be damned if I tolerate a militant minority who seek to restrict freedom of expression and censor a cultural tradition by attempting to abolish "Christmas".

    Nor will I accept a conviction that a licentious lifestyle, largely responsible for a disease epidemic, is a behavior that my family and I must tolerate and accept as an equal. (median age of death is less than 50 years for those involved in homosexuality - National Institute of Health)

    Truly, I could care less what consenting non-hetero adults do in the privacy of their own home, but when they’re given free reign to parade half-naked with chains and whips down Main Street for all to see, and when school kids are taught that being raised by two dads from this same “special interest” group is acceptable, that’s when the line has been dangerously crossed, and seriously abused.

    John McKeller, the President of Homosexuals Opposed to Pride Extremism (HOPE) has publicly stated he staunchly opposes gay activism and the "union" of two men to be considered lawfully the same as the “marriage” of man and woman. In your line of reasoning, would Mr. Keller be guilty of intolerance or bigotry, or is this one of those double standards that in this case, only applies to “straights”?

    Out of curiosity, I thought I'd check my old dictionary for the term 'homophobe'. Sure enough as I figured, it wasn't listed. Not modern enough to keep up with all the new politically-correct buzzwords that constantly evolve. An internet source states homophobia is "an unreasoning fear of, or antipathy toward homosexuals and homosexuality". The word "antipathy" can be defined as a natural, basic, or instinctive aversion or repugnance. That's an interpretation that I have no problem attesting to. No hatred or fear, just an instinctive aversion to homosexual practices and something I prefer not to have shoved down my throat by an activist group.

    At any rate, what reason on earth would the average person have to consider this type of lifestyle to be virtuous or acceptable; when gays themselves consider it to be anything but normal. The term “queer” that they routinely refer to one another as, is defined in the dictionary as the state of being "demented, unnatural, unbalanced, freakish, psychotic, deviant, phony, twisted and perverse". Who would know better than they do?

    That’s all I’ve got to say on the matter and though you may have a response to my post, for me the debate is over. Resorting to name calling and false accusations doesn't make for constructive criticism. Just one final comment that you should give careful thought to -- in your quest to show tolerance to all those who plead oppression and persecution, be careful you don't bend too far over backwards because instead of attempting to correct the ills of society, you may in fact be increasing them. But don't take my word for it -- you can hear it straight from the horse's mouth at: http://theroadtoemmaus.org/RdLb/22SxSo/PnSx/HSx/McKellarJ%20HOPE02.htm

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