Loving yourself a little too well

I dont know but i think i may be one. =(..=) lol

Possibly a neglectful childhood?

According my Abnormal Psychology textbook (Comer, 2007), this is the theorists' explanation of Narcissistic Personality Disorder: "... [psychodynamic theorists] propose that the problem begins with cold, rejecting parents. They argue that some people with this background spend their lives defending against feeling unsatisfied, rejected, unworthy, and wary of the world. They do so by repeatedly telling themselves that they are actually perfect and desirable, and also by seeking admiration from others... A number of behavioral and cognitive theorists propose that narcissistic personality disorder may develop when people are treated TOO POSITIVELY rather than too negatively. They hold that certain individuals acquire a superior and grandiose attitude when their "admiring or doting parents" teach them to overvalue their self worth. Finally, many sociocultural theorists see a link between narcissistic personality disorder and "eras of narcissism" in society. They suggest that family values and social ideals in certain societies periodically break down, producing generations of youth who are self-centered and materialistic and have short attention spans." Comer, R.J. Abnormal Psychology, Sixth Edition. 2007, Worth Publishers.

Driving through Houston.

The concept of narcissism is used in evolutionary psychology in relation to the mechanisms of assortative mating, or the non-random choice of a partner for purposes of procreation. An article published in 2005 by Alvarez summarizes the work in this field. Evidence for assortative mating among humans is well established; humans mate assortatively regarding age, IQ, height, weight, nationality, educational and occupational level, physical and personality characters and family relatedness. In the “self seeking like” hypothesis, individuals unconsciously look for a mirror image of themselves in others, seeking criteria of beauty or reproductive fitness in the context of self-reference. The study of Alvarez indicated that facial resemblance between couples was a strong driving force among the mechanisms of assortative mating: human couples resemble each other significantly more than would be expected from random pair formation. Since facial characteristics are known to be inherited, the "self seeking like" mechanism may enhance reproduction between genetically similar mates, favoring the stabilization of genes supporting social behavior, with no kin relationship among them. Heritability study with twins: The study subjects were 175 volunteer twin pairs (90 identical, 85 fraternal) drawn from the general population. Each twin completed a questionnaire that assessed 18 dimensions of personality disorder. The authors estimated the heritability of each dimension of personality by standard methods, thus providing estimates of the relative contributions of genetic and environmental causation. Of the 18 personality dimensions, narcissism was found to have the highest heritability (0.64), indicating that the concordance of this trait in the identical twins was significantly influenced by genetics. Of the other dimensions of personality, only four were found to have heritability coefficients of greater than 0.5: callousness, identity problems, oppositionality and social avoidance. The study generally concluded that, in agreement with other studies, some personality factors have significantly high heritability coefficients, and there exists a continuum between normal and disordered personality. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissist The benign form form narcissism is true selfishness. True Self-ishness always leads to joy, because it is motivated always by the desire to feel as good as possible. It is only when we are Self-ish enough to be, do and act in accordance with our desires (not someone else’s) that it is possible to stay balanced. Energetically speaking, a desire is a rush of life force energy, a connection to the divine inner self, which can never result in actions that are harmful. It is only when true desires are blocked that they become twisted and ugly. This statement goes against the common wisdom that human nature is greedy, violent and primitive. Human nature is precisely the opposite: we are born knowing ourselves as powerful, eternal, spiritual beings. Petty, competitive, churlish and violent behavior must be overcome with suitable practice. Observe your family, friends and coworkers. Almost all of them are good people, trying to do the best they can. It would simply not be possible to build a sophisticated society if human nature was so base. All successful societies are based upon cooperation, not competition. Competition works not because it is adversarial, but because it inspires teamwork. Ask two angry guys to get something constructive done, it is not going to happen. All success is based upon cooperation. That is because we live in an attraction based universe. These natural impulses are supposed to be dangerous because they stem from a primitive survival instinct. But human being has a better mind than animals. Just look around at the mess the world is in! But that is a delusional assertion, a denial of the basic nature of consciousness itself. The natural impulses of human nature stem from a connection to life force, and it is resistance to this divine impulse which causes the selfish behavior people object to. If you observe people you will quickly see that those persons who are most alive are full of desire, and those who look lifeless have little or no desire. Desire = life force. Shut off desire = selfish behavior. It's ironic that selfish behavior actually results from self-denial. Human nature is not a primitive, biological instinct based on survival of the fittest, it’s a pure connection to source energy. It is divine. It's only when that connection is closed off that selfish behavior is demonstrated. Every one of your desires is, in its non-resisted state, joyful and balanced, because that is an inherent property of consciousness itself. True selfishness is allowance of desire, without resistance, and results in the impulse to give freely to others. But it is first necessary to allow that impulse within yourself. http://kjmaclean.com/Selfishness.html True selfishness comes from the inner voice. It is deeper than ideas generated by conscious mind. It reflects the higher consciousness in us. It raises the psyche and Self to a nobler level. True selfishness transcends the limitations of sub-conscious instincts. It speaks of what you are as soul. http://www.search.com/search?q=Psychology+Inner+Voice