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  • If the child is adopted then the law is on the side of the adoption parents NOT the blood parents.
  • I gave my child up for adoption many years ago and I can honestly say that in my opinion, when you give the child up - you give up all rights to that child. If when the child becomes an adult and they chose to come find the biological parents then that is their choice
  • The child should remain with the adoptive parent.. The birth parent gave up all rights when the baby was put up for adoption
  • The birth parents gave up their legal rights at the time of the adoption, but that is just the legal stance. If the birth parents want to become a part of the child's life again, I would suggest that the ideal solution is to have the child continue to live with the parents who are raising him/her and begin having contact with the birth parents. Then increase the amount of contact, the birth parents eventually assuming a role similar to a favourite aunt and uncle, being included in family events, etc. There is no reason for making an either/or decision about this issue. Both sets of parents can be part of the child's life. The child, of course, should be fully informed about who all the adults are and why it was not possible for the birth parents to keep him/her with them. All in an age-appropriate way, of course!
  • I am an adopted child .... if after a while my birth mother wated to take me back i would refuse, i would still like to spend time with her and what not .. but i would never leave my adoptive mother, never. cause really ... i think it all comes down to what the child wants.. and i dont think theyd wanna go with a stranger .. cause really.. thats what they are. a stranger .
  • My sons father was adopted and didn't know till a couple days after his 30th birthday when his natural mom found him. That was quite a shock for him. It did answer a lot of questions though. His natural mother was not trying to take back her son, but trying to get to know her son; she is a wonderful lady. I do think though, that if a woman gives up her child for adoption and then a few years later decided to try to take the child back, it is pretty selfish. Imagine how confused the child will be and how hurt the parents who raised that child would be. I say wait until the child is of age, put the feelers out with the adoption agency or lawyer through which the child was adopted and wait. If the child wants to find his or her roots then fine. Most children do like to know where they came from.
  • The adoptive parents. If the child really wanted to live with his or her real parents, I guess the adoptive parents and the real parents could talk it out, but for some reason I don't think a lot of adoptive children would want to leave what they are familiar with for someone who gave them away in the first place.
  • With the one who has raised them <and hopefully loved and cared them> :)

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