My parents have been arguing a lot lately and I know my Mom is not happy, I dont want them to get divorced. Should I do something, say something, or talk to a professional?
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You should tell your parents how you feel, as honestly and simply as possible. It's hard to be in that situation: you don't know what will happen -- they may get divorced, or they may just be going through a hard time. All you can do is be yourself -- make sure that they know how much it hurts you when they fight, share your fears about the divorce, etc. Try not to take sides, and avoid giving them advice.... focus on YOUR feelings and thoughts, rather than trying to "help" their marriage. Good luck.
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Do what feels right to you. If you could persuade your parents to attend family therapy, it might be a solution. A dad is so very important in a family (hey . . hey . . hey . .. I'm not discounting mom . . it's just that mom usually gets the kids and lotsa times dad doesn't see them as much for whatever reason.) I'm stickin' with trying to get everyone to go to family therapy . . . that way you can get your needs identified also. Good luck and whatever happens, it was not, not, not your fault! I neglected to determine your age, so if I've been condesending, please allow me to apologize.
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you might want to do both...but dont expect that because you do they'll stay together,but the outcome might be better.
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Talk to them both at the same time. Tell them how you feel. They are both your parents, don't ever take sides. Alot of couples go through a bad patch, they need to air things out. I'm sorry they have chosen to do so in front of you or at least within hearing distance. Sometimes this can't be avoided living in the same house. Just let them know how this is affecting you. They both love you.(((((((HUG)))))))
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unfortunately hun there isn't too much that you can do in your situation - its more between your parents. Your mum and dad would try to stay together for your sake i'd say but if they stay together and they're not happy and there's a lot of arguing going on at home is that a place that you really want to live. Some time apart from each other might do them some good, time apart makes the hear grow stronger and all of that. Sometimes something small could get them back together. My parents nearly broke up when i was about 6 - my dad told me a couple of years ago that it was something that i said to him which made him change his attitude - they talked and got back together. not saying that is the case for everyone but you should still have hope. In the meantime i would talk to your mates, even your teacher and especially your parents. Tell them how you feel, there's a chance they may be so caught up that a voice of reason (yours) might be just what they need to hear. Things happen for a reason and you have to trust that things will work out how they are supposed to.
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They might get divorced... there's probably nothing you can do -- I wouldn't want to get in arguments all the time -- one, the other, or both have lost respect for the relationship -- there's no telling how this happened, or how long it's carried on for. You should say something to them, because they might respect you -- but you should also talk to a professional, and respect whatever decisions your parents make -- that would be the easiest for everybody.
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oh well i would talk to your parents together. Maybe they can make you feel better about the whole thing, maybe not...but it's best to talk to them. Also if there is someone at your school you can talk to that would also be helpful to you. (if you are of school age)
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