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EVERYONE wants to know that they are loved and that their life has made a positive impact on others.
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That you love them and that they are in your thoughts and prayers.. make it silly, make a joke, more importantly make them laugh..A smile is worth so much!!!
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The hell with all that. Try to go all out and go see them and the words will probably come out much easier and in abundance.:-)
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You sit down and think of old times and talk about that in your letter. You take the opportunity to tell the person how much he/she has meant to you in your life. Give him/her some laughter in your letter when you talk about old times. Let him/her know you think of them often and will never be forgotten.
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Write a letter to reflect the fond memories you both have shared, with of course a little sympathy but not to much, don't dwell on his condition.
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If you can't pay them a visit, make a phone call. Honestly Ruby, we are all dying and could all drop dead in a moments notice. Just let them know that you value them and that you have hope and optimism that they can enjoy the days ahead. I sure would appreciate that if I was terminal. If they have email, you might be able to make them a little "home video" showing your house, kids, pets.. something they would watch over and over again if they feel sad.
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I agree with what others have said... Let him know that him and his family are in your thoughts and thank him for the difference he has made in your life. Sometimes thats the best anybody can do.
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You go and see him. You might not get another chance. And you tell him everything that he did to make your life special and that you will miss him.
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you tell him not to give up..Doctors are not always right only God knows when it is our time..im dealing with a similar situation with my neighbor now..they said she wouldnt make it to december 1st..and she's still here...the worst thing your friend can do is give up..there have been miracles all over this world and that in itself is a reason to keep hoping and praying :)
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I'm so sorry to hear that. I can only expand on the other fine answers here by saying let your heart lead the way and the words will follow.
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Telll him how much you care for him. Maybe share some memories with him. Tell him how much he means to you. Just don't bring up the subject of death.
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Talk of old times, but don't sound so sad. Also, don't talk as if he/she is already gone or on the very verge of death. I'm sure he/she doesn't want to think of their life ending so try and make the letter full of more pleasant and funny memories than others. Plan to meet for lunch or something. In fact, you could do one step better and call them instead of writing in a letter. Then again, the letter is something he/she can read over and over whenever they are at their lowest point and need a "pick-me-up."
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Say what is in your heart. Your friend will treasure it I'm sure.
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Tell them how much you care. Keep it upbeat. I made a mistake of calling up a friend who was dying of AIDS years ago after I had too much to drink and I started crying. He really told me off and said he didn't need this. I really saw myself for the first time as an arrogant slob thinking only of my own feelings. Thank God, we got past that, he and I and I was with him to the end and I never cried or mentioned anything negative to him again. Be there if the person needs you for THEM.
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...Give em inspiration. Tell em how much you care. Remind em of some big impact they made on you (if they did) Let them know you appriciate them. If they live near ya, ask em to go do something super special. Hint here and there...that "its just a doctor"...(cuz honestly I know about 5 people who lived WELL past their "date") My grandpa for one had 6 months 4 years ago. ...and hes doin awesome. He rid the disease (that was very deadly)...but the thing that hurt him the most...was he broke his hip bone. But hes still hangin in there strong. Alot of it is in the head...keepin it optomistic...and being positive, and wanting to survive. Doctors dont have a date. Theres always hope. Push that into thier head. Itll help him out alot. We ALWAYS talked to grandpa like he wasnt ever going anywhere...like nothing was really different. Like he was gonna live on and on and on. And I guess he got that in his head too...and well, hes still here. lol. So yes...inspiration, positivity, enjoy the time. And make the best of it. Keep it chipper. Keep it simple, and just like there gonna be around forever. But yet...about how much you care.
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