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The question of whether or not it's bad for you to be upset is an irrelevant distraction. The question you need to work on is "how can we resolve the disagreement?" It's completely understandable that he would want to participate in choosing the house. It's completely understandable that you want to get the process moving as quickly as possible. So these two goals are in conflict with each other, and both goals are legitimate. Nobody is "wrong", you just have different priorities. In a relationship, negotiating these differences is the day-to-day work of getting along. So what can you do? When is he going to return? Can you delay a bit? What about alternatives -- what if you took lots of photos of the house and the neighborhood and sent those to him? What if you took a friend along and asked the friend to describe the house for him (an impartial opinion)? Sorry, but sometimes there's no easy answer to these things -- somebody may just have to give in, or trade some other thing that they want for a compromise. That's love for you :)
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