I don't know if one is ever "ready" for a threesome. I did it once with two friends...all females. They started it and I didn't stop it. It was spontaneous, we were all three lesbians. Personally, I didn't get anything out of it and wish I wouldn't have bothered to go along with it. Poor judgment on my part! All three of us were single at that time. As far as bringing a third person into an established relationship of a twosome...I really don't like the idea. I guess I'm getting too old, moral or something. I just figure that if I'm with one person, if we are supposed to be committed to each other, then there is no room emotionally or physically in a sexual manner for anyone else. Sex is part of how I show my love to the person I love and I don't want to share that with anyone else, nor do I want my partner doing that. I feel like opening those doors negates the special feelings that we are trying to create, maintain and enjoy only with each other. Maybe it's being older and at least somewhat experienced already...NO ONE has ever made me feel the way my partner does sexually...if I have the best already...why look farther...second best even would be a let down and could not enhance what I already have.

"Ready" Is not the word I would use. I found threesomes to be exciting, and therefore, enventually I had one. The first wasn't bad, but it was the worst of the bunch. As long as the encounter is done safely, and consentually, I'd say go for it. As far as letteing your partner pick, I think that it should be a joint decision. If you let your partner be the sole decider it is likley to cause problems.

yep i gotta agree again with wickles do every step together that way nobody lay blame or anything like that

choosing somone to join you and your partner in a threesome is not for just 1 to choose you mush agree on who joins you. if this rule is broken it can cause alot of problems afterwards.

When you decide you are ready, you are ready. I fafterward you decide you weren't, you should then know why. Would I let my partner do the picking? Absolutely. She likes to please me more than she likes being pleasured, and she knows exactly what types of physiques I like, so I know I could trust her completely to find a friend we'd both enjoy having some real fun with.

I think you know you're ready for a threesome when you know deep down that you would be doing it to add to your sexual relationship, not just get your own fantasies fulfilled. Once you can feel pleasure from seeing your partner fulfilled by another, then you can start to arrange for this. Would I let my partner make the selection? Yes, I would, but that is perhaps a rare opinion on that front.