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It is impossible to "figure out" who you are. "Figuring out" is one of the bad habits you have to drop along the way when pursuing the quest for true self. True self is not an idea, an image, a concept. There's no way to reduce it to a bunch of words or thoughts, therefore it cannot be the object of words and thoughts, except in a very metaphorical way. The technical way to say it is "this cannot be grasped conceptually." The way it works is that you exert your best effort to understand, year after year if necessary: to pay attention, make the effort, let go of fixed ideas, try to be honest with yourself. If you persist with that, a series of insights occur: moments of clarity which begin to integrate previously disparate things. At some point in this process, the notion that there is a "self" for which you are searching becomes transparent nonsense, and the problem of "who am I?" disappears entirely.
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To figure yourself out, keep a record of your interactions with other people. This could mean saving your sent texts, looking back at your answerbag responses and questions, reading old IM conversations, reflecting on past and present events and what your thoughts and decisions were on them, and why you thought, said, and decided the way you did. Pay attention to how the people around you treat you, and why they treat you in the way that they do. Going to a Psychotherapist is also helpful. To figure someone else out, the only way is to spend more time with the person, however long that takes.
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