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  • In my case never.
  • stormy: cry so much you have to. Some people are unable to cry and I don't want to be in their place. It could take various time depending on the situation. The most important is not that they are gone, it is that they have been.
  • It really varies from person to person. There are times that even when you reach the point that you can smile, you'll still break down and cry at some point. I can look at pictures of the people I've lost, and smile one moment, then break down the next. The hurt doesn't leave us, simply because time has passed. I know that's hard to deal with. I can assure you, it lessens in time...becomes more manageable...I wish I could lie and tell you it's going to be okay at some point...but telling people what they want to hear, just isn't me. I'm very sorry that you have to go through this.
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. In mid 2004 I lost my dad to cancer and my gran to a stroke 3 weeks apart. I really empathise with what you're going through. For me, I'm only now starting to get to that point - so for me I guess the answer is around 3 and a half years. There was a stage after about one year when I thought I was doing really well - I'd been giving myself space to grieve, getting help and support, etc and I was feeling stronger. Then I went to pieces and realised I was only just starting to get over it. Now I can talk about my dad happily and laugh at old stories, but I do still have a good cry once in a while, when something reminds me. But it's not the same heart-rending suffering as it was before. Stay strong.
  • I know it would take me a whole eternity. But I would survive, it's never the end of the world...
  • Losing someone you loved is never easy. However why does it seem like it's easier to get over the loss of a very close family member like a parent or sibling while losing a child or your spouse/partner seems to be more of a devastating loss. I wonder if it has something to do with death is part of life when it comes to everyone except your own child or partner. I wonder if we have this false image that our kids and partners are supposed to outlive us and that is why when they die it's so much harder to acceept that loss. Stormy only time can help heal old wounds but I think even with the passing of time there are still going to be moments where you will think of something related to that loved one that will cause tears to come to your eyes. I don't think the pain that comes from losing a loved one ever fully goes away.It just becomes easier to deal with as more time passes.
  • Im not entirely sure that you ever stop shedding the tears...My close friend (gary) was killed in a motorcycle incident 4 years ago aged 44. Whilst when im with friends and we may laugh at remebering Garys antics sometimes when in a more sombre mood we shed the odd tear too.It can be a joy and a heartbreak when remembering late loved ones. My grandmother died 4 years ago too I miss her like crazy and I still cry when I think about how much I miss her. I guess in answer to your question it just depends on your mood at the time...time definately reduces the amount of tears shed but I think there will always be those odd days x
  • My experience has been that it can vary with the individual. There are stages to the grief process and we all move through them at a different rate of speed. As a general observation, if the mood hasn't changed in a few years, I would begin to get concerned.
  • the worst should be over in 6 months, but it may vary,try to think of how happy the person made you and the funny side of them, keep smiling and talk to that person when your on your own. .
  • In my case never. Some kinds of hurt never go away as long as you got a brain to think with.
  • In my experiences, about a year. After that it kind of turns into a sweet sorrow and I can manage to hear their name without tearing up.
  • For me it never really happens. But I do get to the point to where their memory makes me smile...yet other times it makes me break down....I guess it all depends on the day, situation, and my mood.
  • Come back in a year. Maybe I'll finally be able to stop crying when I hit year two since I haven't at year one.

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