For one thing you just sent him a mixed message. You can't tell him it's okay so long as he doesn't leave it on the computer because nothing is ever fully erased on a computer. If you're going to have this in your sex life as a couple, even if you're not watching it, then you're going to have to deal with it being on your computer and in your bedroom. So you need to make up your mind and reapproach the subject. The fact that you are on here looking for advice about how to handle this situation tells me you are not alright with it deep down inside and you need to be honest with him and let him know the truth so you can work on this together as a couple. Just remember no subject is ever fully closed in a relationship and there is no harm in admitting you made a mistake and want something to change because your mind on it has. If he realy loves and respects you he will understand and stop. If he doesn't stop then you have a long road ahead of you.

Cancel the internet service til he grows up.

My wifes and my solution was for me to save up my own money and get a low end or used computer for porn. That way the main one doesn't run the chance of getting a virus and I get to look at all the porn I want worry free. If he doesn't like that then set up a child block.

Men, like any human being, will always want what they can't have. He wouldn't be at the computer if you two had a healthy sex life, but sadly, as a result of the effects of either his or your upbringing, and the terrible problems some religious teachings bring to our lives, the man has resorted to harmless masturbation as a way of living out his fantasies. Now this may not have anything to do with you, it may be that he loves and respects you and feels if he asked you to participate in the kinds of things us blokes can fantasise about, it may be degrading to you, and as it's important he be seen as acceptable in your eyes, and because he loves and respects you, he's chosen not to say anything, and is getting his jollies via the net. Everything man has interfered with on this planet, he has stuffed up. Religions and societies alleged standards have been shoved down our throats since we were children, they have achieved nothing other than to completely confuse everyone, with each individual having his or her interpretation of those teachings. Add to all of this, everyday life and it's extreme demands, and it's a wonder any of us were ever born, let alone ever find to time to have a good relationship, what with all the confusion, and our range of interpretations. You both need to talk openly and honestly. If you go into any conversation with a closed or unaccepting mind, your problems will only escalate, a wall will be put between you, and the trust you need will be severely damaged, because you'll leave him or her feeling humiliated, this is why these problems start in the first place. If you love each other, there should be nothing each of you would not do for the other if you believed it would make your partner happy, as long as it wasn't something detrimental to your health, in all fairness, there has to be a line drawn somewhere, because we all have our limits. He won't be able to open up immediately, he'll feel uncomfortable, he'll fear you won't understand, he'll worry you'll see him as some kind of deviate, this is why it's critical you handle this with love and understanding and if you feel you may not understand, perhaps you'll handle this better through a sex counselor. If you get all offended, all you'll do is bury this problem, and the end result of that will be one very miserable and humiliated partner, who will always be uncomfortable in your presence.

You don't have a "long road ahead of you", and if he doesn't stop it's not a sign that he doesn't love you. Excessive pornography consumption can be a indication of an addiction to it. As certain people become immersed in porn their taste for it can become greater and more extreme, both in volume and subject matter; just as a junkie needs more to have the same high. There are 12 step programs for this (slaa). He may need help. Or, he may have a minor or moderate appetite for porn. If he's not spending everyday, and hours at a time, it may not be a problem and instead, a harmless hobby. Is he throwing it in your face? Flaunting it? Or do you go looking for it, sleuthing out his tracks? Maybe it's not about him, and it's about you, and your having an unspoken feeling of not being sexy or good enough for him. This may or may not be true. Talk about it; act upon it. Explore you sexual dynamic. The medicine here; book: Mating In Captivity