Sounds like the sooner you put distance between him and you, the better. Please take kids and pets with you, if any. Doesn't sound like he has been willing to change for anyone, so it could only get worse.

Get out of there now. If your friends and family know about this then have them help you get a restraining order against him. If he comes around, don't be afraid to call the police. Just get out because it will never get better, only worse.

(((HUGS))) I know your fear and feeling of hopelessness. You are going to start writing a journal on the abuse and keep it in a safe place! You will make phone calls or visit women shelters in your area, you will stash away whatever money you can get your hands on, you will tell someone you trust about the abuse and ask for their help & have them keep a log of the abuse also. You will contact a woman's advocate in any agency where you live. In our area we have an organization called Unity House. They are a wonderful place for women to contact. They will give you a safe place to stay until you can find a place to live, with their help. They can assist you with legal matter, rent, they will guide you to other places to get help with food, clothes, medical insurance. They can help you get furniture for your new place. They have many support groups to help you in so many aspects to move you forward in your new life. You will contact the police the next time the abuse occurs! You will stand up and take that power away from that creep! Once an abuser, always an abuser!! I want you to know there is so much help out there for you if you reach out! There is hope for a wonderful and happy life ahead of you!! PLEASE PLEASE start taking the steps to get the hell out of there ASAP!! Do NOT let his threats prevent you from doing this for yourself!! There will be protection for you!! All abusers threaten to kill or hurt family's...but that is to control you!! PLEASE take this informaton and use it!!! (((HUGS))) I know you are scared and feel so lost...but that won't last.

Ditto to all previous answers. Seek professional counseling as soon as possible.

Contact the local battered women's shelter. The putting away money part advice is very good. The shelter should help you with lawyers, etc. You will want a restraining order against him, at the very least. That way he can be jailed for coming near you. You need to get out as soon as possible. It isn't going to change, he hasn't changed even after losing relationships, and you are in very real danger.

I am in the same situation as you. I have been married for two years. My husband has left countless bruises on me, threatened to kill me with an axe and tried to choke me. I was born and raised in Ireland so I have no family over here. I want to leave him so bad. Four days after my birthday in December we got into an argument and it ended with me being thrown across the room and my leg and ankle getting badly hurt. I was born missing a limb and when I didn't get hired for a job he said that he knew I should have hid the truth about my prosthesis. My Grandmother died very suddenly in June 2006 and he got fired from his job because he had to take time off work to help me get home. I fear that he will snap one day and kill me. I want to move home to Ireland but he says that I am leaving him in hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of debt. I really don't know what to do.

I am also in the same place. We have been married for 5 1/2 years. He is getting better but now it is on a two month cycle. We have been to counseling and our counselors talk. My counselor says he claims to be the victim. I can't believe that. He has tied me up, choked me, rape and said he would kill me over and over. He even has asked me how I want to die. I want to leave but I am afraid. I think he would come after me and kill me. It is hard to think when you are so afraid. No one know unless they have been there. GOD BLESS YOU!

this type of person lives on your fear...leave him...very simple...go to your friends or family...get the police involved...if he will come to your job, tell your employer the situation...get a restraining order, file a police report...usually these type of people will stop this stupid behavior once they see that you have the law and lots of witnesses on your side stop wasting time on AB...leave him NOW

There are safe houses when the threat of violence is possible; plus they can counsel for your best advice and options. Please, don´t be afraid, or ashamed; they certainly do understand, and are ready to help. Look it up, and leave desceetly.

Get to a telephone and call Womens Aid. Men with these problems are hard-wired to destroy. They cannot ever change, some can get control of their tempers after many years of counselling/therapy, but it can not work unless he feels he is in the wrong. This type lie like we breathe and take delight in manipulating you with fear. Take up self-defence, learn assertiveness, learn kick-boxing- and try to discover why you are with someone and staying a victim? If you have childrem, they could be taken from you, given to HIM, as 'victim mentality' is frowned upon in family courts. Get out of there, he is nothing but a sick animal, sorry but it's true.

well i am pretty sure there is some type of womens abussive protection service so maybe you should call and it is most likely none of my business but did you know about his anger and abuse and if so why did you marry him was there to strong of a connection cause if that is possibe i dont think you should leave him is say do counsling for a while if nothing is to change it is your turn to make some change happen