Do you think it is inappropriate for me to stay overnight at the guys house that I am seeing, since I have a 15 year old daughter & I won't let him stay here? I don't want to give my daughter the wrong impression of me, but I'm really crazy about him?
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PS- This is the first guy that I have dated in over a decade because my mom dated when I was a kid & I hated it but she's getting older now
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It might not be a good idea just yet. Maybe you should carry a can of mace or something. I'm just looking out for your safety even if I'm miles away. This guy might try something and could only do it by gaining your trust first. I just get bad vibes from this guy. Be friggen careful.
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I don't see anything wrong with it. Have fun.
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My mom was a single parent and VERY rarely dated, and I still hated it, so I have a bit of experience w/this deal... I think it would be more appropriate if he stayed at your home. Your daughter is a bit older and can understand these things better... I think if you stay at his house it seems like you're trying to hide something in a weird way. If you're really into him, you should go about everything as comfortably as you feel... I think I would feel worse if MY mom went off to her bfs house than to have him stay over... but that's just me
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i would say at 15 she should be old enough to stay home alone. I was at fine at 14, and my mum was going out with friends as normal after tgar. i suppose it entirely depends on the person she is and how much you trust her but you shouldn't let it stop you from finding love :-) I'm suprised that at teenage shes not begging for u to be out for a night or 2 at a time! lol. u know what teenagers are like today!
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Have fun, your daughter will have to accept that parents do have relationships, and yes, even sex. However I would strongly advise you against letting him stay at your house, teenagers tend to get...angry when they feel someone is coming into their house and even attempting to exert authority on them. (The first time my step father came over we got into a rather heated argument that culminated in my fist meeting his face. I was very lucky he didn't call the cops, and keep in mind this is a stand up guy that I respect very much now and consider a very important part of my life. That could be me, but from observational experience it tends to be all teens, regardless of gender.)
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Hi, Lisa...RosieG here. Is this a new guy? Or is this the one that scared your daughter with his yelling that you broke up with?
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one good thing about staying home is,he cannot kick you out of there.guys think less of a woman that follows him to his house for....
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i wouldn't stay the night because you said you've only been dating him a month and you wouldnt want your daughter to spend the night with every guy she dates for a month...there are a lot of months in a life time...:) good luck my dear its tough being a single mommy and wanting to date...i would assume
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you are grown and your daughter is 15.....is it really necessary to share everything with her? as a mom, i know it's really hard to be mom vs friend sometimes but the bottom line is that she has no experience with what you're going through so there is no way she can understand (good or bad) talk to your friends and maybe there can be an occasion when your daughter has other plans and you can have yours.....
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So it's back on? I think that you should talk to your daughter and mum about it, they might prefer that you stay at his place, particularly if the sex is noisy :) Anyway as others have said you are the adult in the situation and you need to feel OK about what you are doing. Your daughter won't be alone at home and you do need to have a social life.
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Before you stay over, think about what kind of example that sets for your duaghter, who is 15. Do you want to encourage her to believe that it's OK to saty at a boyfriend's house overnight, knowing that she's old enough to undestand what that means? She's only three years away from going away to college.
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yes do try and keep the peace babe but your lil girl is 15 she should be able to cope try doing things 2gether as a unit to show her you no wot hes actually a nice guy. its hard because nothing comes before your kids and thats totally right but they dont stay at home forever and then what are you left with. go have fun... let your daughter have a friend over for the night, pizza ect. and go enjoy yourself.
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I think its fine to stay overnight with your bf as long as your daughter is in a safe place and she can reach you if need be. I think that as long as you are in a committed, stable relationship with the man then you are not giving your daughter the wrong impression. If you were to give in to sex too lightly then you might no want to give her that impression. You describe the man as "someone you are seeing" which makes me wonder. I am not judging you at all. I am simply responding to your question in regard to your daughter.
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You’re a grown women right…You’re the mother and she is the child correct? Why are you asking this? If you choose to spend the night out. Go ahead. Do not let YOUR CHILD dictate what you do. She is YOUR CHILD. You are not hers. Tell her no your little boyfriend can’t spend the night…. ever. When you get your own house and you pay your own bills you do as you please. My house, my rules. No more discussion You drive her to her girl friends house on the way to your mans house and you have a good time.
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Put your daughter first, not last behind every guy you meet. You are supposed to be the grown up, so control yourself, regardless of how "crazy you are" about this one. You may try to rationalize that she "just has to accept it", but the real messages you are sending include "you are not important", "sex is how to get my attention", and "you should become sexually active - its more important than family". Terrible message for a 15 year old girl.
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