Well, all men/boys have porn (well, 90% of them anyway). He was probably just embarrassed by it. How old is he? From my own personal experience I never got used to being caught with porn until I was in my 20's. But now I see no reason to hide it from the misses.

Maybe because he thought you were suspicous of him and him thinking u wernt trusting him. Or he could just be embarresed.

I would take his advice and leave. He is trying to shift the blame from himself to you and you should not have to take it.

Why would you "bring it to his attention?" He already knew it was there. Unless you two have a policy of "No porn" for either one of you, I think you should have just left it alone. But, he did overreact. The whole thing will probably blow over.

Mabey he was embarrased. If it doesnt bother you tell him this. Or he may have thought you were snooping depending on how you brought this to his attention. How old is he?

Christina, Like it or not, most guys have a stash of porn somewhere. It's usually at the back of their closet, under a bunch of old clothes or under their bed, or at the bottom of one of their dresser drawers (not that I'm a snoop). It doesn't mean he is not sexually attracted to you. Men like looking at naked women. (stop the presses!). The only time porn would be a problem is if he is spending a lot of time on-line with it, which can lead to cyber-sex and worse. That's where I'd draw the line, because it indicates a real problem. Did you tell him that you found it by changing the bed skirt? Because if not, he probably thought you were snooping around, which would anger any person, male or female. Also, I don't think you needed to bring it to his attention. You basically embarrassed him and started a confrontation about something he has every right to own. Those are personal items and he naturally doesn't want you to see them, especially if he suspected you'd react this way and you did. I'd only be concerned if the nature of the porn were very hardcore. On the one hand I think you should let it go, however, I do think that his reaction to you was VERY extreme and would cause me concern. If he really was verbally abusive, I'd dump him. Of course, we don't know the details, or what you said to him, so it's hard to judge. But, In any case, if you are looking for a man who does not enjoy a little porn, you will be a little lonely woman. Sorry for the long answer.

Ignore those ridiculous answers. You are correct in having a problem with this. There ARE good guys out there. The answer saying you will be a "lonely little women" especially disgusts me. Don't give into pressure and give up hope on finding a GOOD man who treats you right. You are worth so much more than that.