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  • No. Very bad saying. Maybe useful for young children, but there's no way that could be adopted for anything beyond pragmatism.
  • I try not to say anything bad to anybody but at times it is very difficult.
  • Absolutely not. If you say nothing but nice things to people, you'll either end up being very quiet, or a liar.
  • As long as no one asks my opinion and no one is getting hurt, I try to keep my opinion to myself. But you HAD to ask didn't you?
  • Nope, sometimes verbal smackdown is necessary, however, my own general saying goes something like so... "If you don't have something useful to say, say something funny."
  • I have been known to not practice what I preach and not very proud of myself because I believe that saying but have failed miserably many times. I need to work on that.
  • Most of the time I do, especially on AB. I just don't see the need to be mean or even criticize if the need isn't there. I think many people spend time bickering over petty issues, issues that will never have a solid answer, issues that they will never meet eye to eye on with their adversary..etc. If you are going to fight for something, it should be a worthy cause that benefits everyone.
  • Usually but sometimes I go by the saying that if you are afraid to say what's on your mind then you will be consumed with being afraid to speak what's on your mind. I don't start trouble but I don't take flack without dishing something out. It's about standing up for yourself and maintaining your respect. I'd rather have someone I don't like respect me than like me; after all this is not my kind of person to start with.
  • I try. Sometimes I fail, but I keep it as gentle as I can.
  • Kind of. If the "nothing nice" is not important, I won't say anything. If it is, I will, but as kindly as possible.
  • GOTTA remember to be that way. I'm such a blabbermouth that I forget to shut up.
  • I try to.
  • Yes. Unless someone is abusive or verbally offensive.
  • I do try to, but sometimes it's just gotta be said even if it's not nice.
  • Generally, but it depends on if the "not nice" thing needs to be said or not.
  • It contains a lot of wisdom. Certainly when it comes to gossipping. I remember when I started as assistant pastor's wife at a particular church, and from day one, there was this guy who hated the pastor's wife. He decided to try and get me on side, so he came up complaining that she wouldn't do this or that. I stopped him dead and said "Excuse me, but do not criticise her. She is a lovely lady. She has four small children and has recently had a still birth. If she doesn't feel up to doing this task, that is her choice, and, if you need someone, I'll gladly do it." He never criticised her to me again. That being the case, I know I have failed in this area myself.
  • Nope, I believe in the first amendment :)
  • **** NO if someone said something first its a battle intill i get to beat the crap out of them if they didnt do anything wrong then its an ok saying
  • Ohh hell no..LOL..If I have something to say..nice or not..I say it :D
  • Hell no!
  • No, it's facile.
  • sometimes I can't help myself saying things.
  • No, I rather prefer Alice Roosevelt's saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, come sit by me."
  • no... if i went by that i'd be a mute.lol
  • not always but I do try my best to be nice. It's hard when some people are just well you know...
  • sometimes, i just can't.. because those things that ive heard that are not "so nice" are one of the reasons why i am what i am right now... also, there are certain instances that we have to stop being nice... and start being true.. not just to other people... but also to our self... >>>>>never say sorry for saying what you feel... coz its like saying sorry for being real...
  • Where would this leave constructive criticism?
  • Sometimes its too hard to hold back.
  • I think it's hard for people to keep in mind the saying that we are taught when we are very upset, it's even hard for professionals to do it. It takes a lot of patience and personal control to be able to control "saying nothing at all", it is something that I continue to work on daily..

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