Righteous people would never allow you to feel that way they would go out of their way to make you feel welcome.

If these people have a click at church, they are no that righteous at all. I would react by finding a different church where those type of people don't go or are only there in very small numbers. It will probbaly hurt your feelings no matter what you do, these people are being mean so hurt feelings are going to be the result. Inferior? Don't dare feel that way! Snotty people leaving out others is no reason to feel inferior! You are just as good as they are and if they were as close to God as they claim they would not be leaving you out.

Remember that we all have our own weaknesses. None of us are perfect. This applies especially to those that have their own "'righteous people only" cliques. Just don't let them get to you and make friends with some of the other people at church.

This is a tough question to answer as there is a very fine line to be walked in judging people for who they chose to interact with and under what conditions. I will rather eschew that issue as immaterial to the essence of your question. You asked how you should react and how to guard your feelings. This most clearly correct answer is that you should work hard to continue to improve yourself. The best thing to do when wanting to be more fully integrated into your ward, is to serve your ward. Some general things that anyone can do are: Stay to help clean up after activities. Come early to set up. Volunteer to help in as many of the service projects as you reasonably can. Your efforts will be noticed by many grateful leaders and other ward members. Try to smile (some advice which, perhaps, I could use right now, but I don't give it without having tried it). Learn people's names. (When I first moved out on my own, I mad a name list and studied it.) Take an interest in what others are doing and know that other people generally can talk about themselves more easily than they can talk about you (they know more about the subject). Make conversation easy on others by asking about them and then asking more based on their answers. That's how I would recommend reacting. Another thought: Make sure that you are where you are supposed to be. Wards have boundaries. Stick to them. Do not cross over. Ask to see the ward's boundaries. I've seen those posted in clerk's offices, or in the library. I recommend asking a clerk if you don't know. There are blessings you miss out on if you're not where you're supposed to be, so get there. I personally feel the young single adults belong in a singles ward when there is one, but I couldn't give a solid basis for that feeling. Just take it as my recommendation. (Don't know if that applies.) How do you guard your feelings? Well, if you do the above, your feelings should become much more secure, as your situation will probably change. However, in case it doesn't, here are some thoughts: Smiling can sometimes help you to feel better in spite of your situation. Find a constructive hobby to engage yourself with. Doing something constructive and enjoyable is a powerful aid to feeling good about one's self. Follow the commandments and utilize study and prayer to know where you stand before God. You're always welcome in his clique.