Why is it a bad idea to get involved romantically with a co-worker?
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mizuiislife
ANSWERS: 64
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Because if it doesn't work out and ends on a bad note, it creates tension within the work place.
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AS they say, "don't dip the pen in the company ink" so to speak... should there be a breakup it could be the worst place to work..
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.....and the fish was 100ft long people talk about things that they think is true, can you imagine how big the fish would get if they knew the truth. you have heard of the game of phone, right. true story, she dated a co-worker, got engaged and then got preggo apparently they were only getting married because she was pregnant. so i say dont tell anyone.
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i think its ok well for now as im currently in a relationship with a co-worker and all is good and couldnt be more interesting!!!
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One of my co-workers is my husband so I don't think it's a bad idea. However, if the romance doesn't work out, you still have to work with that person every day and it might be a little uncomfortable.
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Think of how awkward it is to break up with someone and just run into them for 5 minutes at the grocery store (or somewhere else). Now take that, but you end up seeing them every day at work for 8 or more hours a day. It creates tension, it could be difficult to concentrate, and the rumor mill will be going, so you would probably get lots of questions from co-workers. Also, some companies have policies against it, especially if one person has more power (higher position). It could possibly come across as a way to gain power, or for the person higher up to "play favorites". Again, with the rumor mill. Sure, some people meet their life mates at work, and that's fantastic. More often than not though, it doesn't work out.
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it's a formula for disaster but even if it works out it's just too inconvenient. being tired of eachother at the end of the day, loosing work as a conversation topic, alligations of favoritism, not paying attention to work and just the general grab-ass factor are a few of the thinks that immediately come to mind.
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It isnt provided it not just a fling or somthing that isnt going to last long. I work with my other half and couldnt be happier. Just know where to draw the line with regards to where work starts and ends!
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Well I met a very great man from work, the attraction was there immediatly,and I knew even the first day that this man would effect my life forever, We worked great together and everyday I loved seeing him walk into the plant,not sure how it all got started, I guess it was because we worked 12 hours a day and 7 days a week and all we had was work. I dated men even when we were freinds and many failure realationships too,and he was always there to pick me up,and a sholder to cry on and he gave great advice,and then I learned I was wasting my time dating for my best friend and co worker ,was the one I was ment to be with forever,We dont work together now but I still love the way he lights up a room as he comes home, Good luck in your decision !!
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As long as both of you can handle the inevitable break-up with grace, there's nothing wrong with it.
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One of the loves of my life was a co-worker and it was just fine. Things didn't work out but we were mature about it.
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I loved my married boss, and had an affair with him, we knew it wasn't to go anywhere, we were just very good friends who slept together, I know he loved me and I'll never be sorry for our relationship.
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You can let it affect your work and feel very ackward around them while working with others around.
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Its not always a bad thing!I myself have found the love of my life there.Of course there are company policies that say not to and I can see why.It depends on how serious you want to get with this person. We have been together for almost three years now .Next year we plan on getting married.And well of course if any relationship doesnt work out at work then maybe its time to move to a different shift or something.
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Jealous gossiping.
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because if things dont work out it gets really uncomfortable...trust me, i know.
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It is not bad idea at all. My 2 wives were co-workers originally. And my best lovers were also from my work place. But that is true, my work place is unique a little, because that is a research laboratory.
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mostly in work place you may not know the true colour of people as they would behave professionallly. So romantic freaks don;t get misguided from the behaviour of co worker in office
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I married mine 14 years ago. It'll be 15 this July.
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reasons y its bad: IF the co workers break up it can be rather messy and others may feel you favour your partner and let them get away with things or vice versa i met my fiance at work and things were great. we had to stay proffesional and did not let our relationship affect the way we worked or how others work
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I did it and it has worked out for the most part. Most of the time though it doesnt work out and it makes it an uncomfortable place to be.
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Please put every back into place on my desk when you do it. Thanks!
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When that co-worker is your SISTER! LOL
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The possibility of breaking up can be uncomfortable if you have the see the person you loved and broke up with every day. GOTTA stay professional at work... No flirting (with the s/o or anyone else!), no "suggestiive or 'love ya' gestures"... If one is higher in rank/seniority/whatever, there can be jealousy if the s/o is percceived to be treated differently... and if peers get together, they may not work as hard unless they're in different departments, or areas of the company. Gotta watch out for the "sexual harrassment" and "uncomfortable workplace" lawsuites (both after a breakup and by fellow employees. All that said, I see no problem if the couple work in different departments, are professional, and keep their "play" and most of their talking away from the workplace. ;-)
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I don't think it's a bad idea.^_^
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Gossip destroys msot of the time it happens in close-quarters, is it the boss and a co-worker, is he/she you married, if so, rumors can spread to the partner, kids in school, neighbors. Sex is not just "recreational" but implies a commitment and who gets hurt the most when it is time to say bye-bye and you are still working in the same space, then someone else likes your or her/him, so the Green-Eyed Monster, jealousy rears up. Physcial attarctiuon is more common in close working relationships and that is not the best criterion to use for getting "intimate." Men are less inclinded ot get emotionaly involved, so the female is often badly hurt. Exceptions may exist but affairs and short-term relationships are more likely than "no fault/no pain" break-ups or a romance that elads to marriage or living together!
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People could do whatever they want in the office as long as that paycheck shows up on my desk every week. LOL
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only if you guys are jealous!
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sometimes it is and sometimes it is not think about akward break ups... now think about having to see that person at work everyday... and how it would affect ur job.. if u work at mc doanlds go for it that job is repalceable... u get my point
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its not bad
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Every relationship has two potentials, one for the best thing that ever happened to you - the other is the worst. Give life a chance, take a risk, I think the odds are better that 50/50 you'll come through it okay, probably have some great memories or better yet meet the person to share a lifetime with. Go for it.
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There are a few risks you have to keep in mind when dating a co-worker, especially if you work in close proximity or are often part of a team (If you work in a large corporation in different departments then it's not such a big deal). For one thing, if you have a bad break up, you still have to see each other every day. You have to be sure that if the worst happened, the two of you are emotionally mature enough to put that aside. Or else it might result in one of you having to look for a new job. Furthermore, how does this co-worker "rank" in comparison to you? If they're an equal, then fine. But if a boss or a subordinate it adds an extra layer of emotional and possibly legal complexity.
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I don't think it is, I don't get all this stamina (for lack of a better word) over dating a coworker, why shouldn't you? Except maybe if the relationship ended badly then it might be awkward but only for a little while. Of course I could be slightly defensive of the subject because I want to go out with a co-worker.
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Usually, yes. Mixing work with pleasure is hardly ever without problems.
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Been there, done that, it is a bad idea, jealous people spread lies, rumours, and try their damness to break you apart.
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Cause you don't get your meat where you make your bread.
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Yes. It is very unprofessional. What happens when you break up? There is a vibe in the office that is very uneasy. There should be a strict ‘no fraternization rule’ enforced. However, who follows those?
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oh come on it is not bad but if you try to go beyond the limitation that is the time to say it is bad.. .. if you really love him/her then go.. who cares about it.. as long as you love him/her and prove to all that you are sincere in showing your love and respect to him/her.. .. love is all around... ^^
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It's a bad idea especially when you get dumped for another coworker or when he/she starts treating you like trash and you know it's a toxic relationship cause he lies like water flowing and yet you just can't seem to ignore him cause you are hurting. Answer 10 you are correct. People put so much effort into breaking you apart and when it happens and you did nothing wrong you really feel like a fool when you warned the coworker not to fool with your heart. Someone please tell me how to stop thinking of him or how to ignore him.
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You shouldn't because you may not be able to concentrate at work. You may get fired, if the two of you break up one may say bad things about the other. You don't want things to go around the office. On the other hand of both are mature and professional than there may not be that problem.
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It's just totally bad and I feel like a fool as I thought I would.
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I guess the break up and living with that whole drama at work after it's over is the part that gets me.
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People will say they're in love.
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It's just a bad idea. Lets say it doesn't work out and it's a nasty break up. He cheated on you, you cheated on him, whatever. Well, every day, you'll have to go to work and be around that person. I'm sure other co workers will hear about it too and have an opinion.
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Because if it doesn't work out, you still see them every day.
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It is ,coz it lead to disrespecting .
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Because if it goes bad, which it usually does it is difficult to continue to work with the person. Also even if it goes good, at some point others find out that you two are involved and they become jealous or try and sabotage what you have.
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you cannot work comfortably when you get involved with a co-worker.you cant draw a border between personal and work life..you cant completely concentrate with what you are doing..
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Its only a bad idea if your going to ruin it. Me and my girl met at work, worked together, dated, and have been together for 2 years now. It'll only be a bad idea if either one of you is married. Duh
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Dragging drama into the workplace.
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It's a bad idea.. Cause most of the time it's like your dating... just while your at work. & when you go home, that person doesnt exist anymore.
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BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD very bad, listen that co worker can spread sexual rumors about you...People will look at you funny, you will loose respect from other co-workers..Suppose that person dumps you and dates another in the office, can you imagine the hurt..Not a good thing, stay away not good..Do not shit where you eat....
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Well, that depends, it's not always bad. Can it ruin your career? What will you loose by getting involved? I worked at a place that sells video games and started getting really close to one of the managers. We started secretly dating and in the process of trying to figure out what we we're going to do, we got caught. I was going to quite anyway since I was moving in the him, but he almost lost his job because we didn't tell them when we started sleeping together lol. But I quit and all was fine once they were convinced it was of my own free will. So, I met the love of my life because I got involved with a co-worker.
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My dad always told me don't get your meat where you get your bread!
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Because if it gets screwed up you still have to see eachother every day at work.
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I wont say that its a bad idea...cause I actually met my boyfriend at my previous job, but what I would say is that if two mature persons in a work place decide to get sexually or romantically involve is to be very carefully of the other workers...some of them might be jealous and will say anything to either of u to end it. The other thing is that if the relationship happens to go bad please dont bring the drama to the work environment. What u do in ur personal life is ur personal business and should be left there. Work relationships have a great potential to work out but it have to have two mature persons in the relationship who knows excatly what they want out of the relationship.
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Because your work performance will get affected. Think about this scenario: You work together and love each other. Your love lasts for a year or more, and all of a sudden, you break up. How would you feel if you HAVE TO spend 40+ hours a week by the side of someone you love that is possibly flirting with other co-workers or other persons, and you can't do anything about it but to keep working? All of a sudden, either you quit or she quits the job, because the pressure is very hard to take.
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Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Been there done that and it was ugly when it ended. And then office meetings later, not too pleasant.
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My dad always told me don't get your meat where you get your bread!
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You spend more waking hours at work then any other place in most cases and if you are dating someone there you will never have time away from that person. Work place romances mostly lead to someone having to leave for another to keep their job.
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Deine Kusine ist sehr gross. Sie ist die wellige Bahnhof aus mein Uhr. Denn sie ist mein lieber. Wach auf in der Stadt
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I wouldn't say it's a bad idea. What I would say is that some people you get involve with you just can't work with them. Years ago I worked with a guy I dated who later became my husband. We had the best working relationship because we did our work, we didn't go to lunch together everyday and we had our own friends at work. There were many times I didn't see him all day so it felt like we worked in two different companies. His cubicle was on the opposite side of me. On the other hand, I dated someone else that worked with me and it was horrible because the person was always in my cubicle constantly watching me and I felt like I couldn't be me. So the lesson here is that it may work once but a miracle if it works twice at work. Good Luck :)
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IT IS A BAD IDEA BECAUSE IF IT DOESNT WORK OUT IT CAN MAKE YOUR WORK LIFE A LIVING HELL...ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE TO WORK CLOSE TOGETHER OR IF YOU SEE EACH OTHER ALOT! I DID ONCE AND AT FIRST EVERYTHING WAS AWESOME...THE SECOND WE BROKE UP HE WANTED EVERYONE TO CHOOSE SIDES AND THAT PUT A STRAIN ON OUR MUTUAL FRIENDS...ESPECIALLY CLOSE ONES...AND THAT WASNT FAIR TO THEM...PLEASE JUST TAKE MY ADVICE!
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I have seen several situations where co-workers were romantically involved and then bitterly broke up. This poisoned the atmosphere of the workplace. In one case, the two had to be physically separated (assigned to different laboratories) to preserve the peace in the workplace. +3
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