Just because the relationship isn't great, it's no reason to terminate a viable life growing inside of you. Think long and hard about your options. Sometimes having a child has been an unxpected blessing for many women. Then again, if you can't fulfil the responsiblity of being a single mother, there are many loving couples who would love to adopt and nurture a newborn. Don't let anyone bully you around.

The child will stay with you forever, the father probably won't. Would you be able to live with the decision of taking your baby's life because the father wanted you to? Especially if he left shortly thereafter? If you decide that you can't handle raising a child on your own, you could ask family, friends, churches (if you're religious), and non-profit organizations (charities) for aid or put the child up for adoption. (I know that there are ads in Cosmo for adoption agencies. The internet holds plenty of resources as well.) I've known women who have been haunted for the rest of their lives from an abortion, but I've also known some who weren't affected in the least (at least that they'll admit to). This is a tough position for anyone to be in. Best of luck.

If you want it, you keep it. End of story. It doesn't sound like this man and you will love each other forever, but you and that baby will. So what if he doesn't want it? He doesn't have to have anything to do with it. It's your baby, it's inside your body, and even though he might've had a part in it's creation, the ultimate decision is yours. And if you want to keep it, then don't let anyone intimidate you into doing otherwise, because you WILL regret it if you let someone else make this choice for you.

Thanks... I went to the doctors today and the baby was so precious kicking and moving around... I'm petite and small, so I can already feel her... They did a sono today, and as far as they can see... it's a girl.. I have been praying for a girl.... I guess all in all I'm just scared, and a part of me is selfish.. but at the end of the day... I want my baby... I love her so much.... I try to stay in prayer about this... I know God is the giver of life and he doesn't make mistakes... so there is a purpose for my baby's life.. thanks for all the insight.

You have really answered your own question in your question -- Problems in the relationship and you want to keep your baby -- Do what you want to do and don't be around anyone that will cause you stress

If you want your baby keep your baby. It's yours; don't let anyone sway you to do something you will regret. Babies are a precious gift and many are not blessed with them. Don't abort it; you never know if this would be your only one. You will find a way to care for it. And four months ... four months you are half way through your pregnancy. All the best to you!

The baby comes first. Give it the chance your mother gave you.

I'm no anti-abortion zealot but you need to know these things: 1)At 16 weeks gestation, your baby is 5.5 inches tall and only six ounces in weight, eyebrows, eyelashes and fine hair appear. The child can grasp with his hands, kick, or even somersault. 2)An abortion this late will be in one of these methods: a) Dilation and Evacuation (D&E). This method is used up to 18 weeks' gestation. Instead of the loop-shaped knife used in D&C abortions, a pair of forceps is inserted into the womb to grasp part of the fetus. The teeth of the forceps twist and tear the bones of the unborn child. This process is repeated until the fetus is totally dismembered and removed. Usually the spine must be snapped and the skull crushed in order to remove them. b) Salt Poisoning (Saline Injection) Used after 16 weeks (four months) when enough fluid has accumulated. A long needle injects a strong salt solution through the mother's abdomen into the baby's sac. The baby swallows this fluid and is poisoned by it. It also acts as a corrosive, burning off the outer layer of skin. It normally takes somewhat over an hour for the baby to die from this. Within 24 hours, labor will usually set in and the mother will give birth to a dead or dying baby. (There have been many cases of these babies being born alive. They are usually left unattended to die. However, a few have survived and later been adopted.) I have children and cried as I read these descriptions. If you plan to do this to make some selfish man happy, you need to think about how you will feel when you've got children and look back at what could have been. I hope that whatever decision you make brings you peace. Please let us know how you are.

I hope you do keep her. I know someone that aborted to save a relationship, it didn't work. 12 years later she still cried when she talked about it. I also know someone that aborted at 16, then gave up two babies for adoption. She regrets the abortion, but not the adoptions. If you want that baby, keep her! If you're really not ready - allow yourself to be used by God to bring this blessing to a childless couple.

I would keep the baby. What if your baby turned out to cure cancer or HIV/AIDS in the future? We would never know because the baby was never born. It is your baby. If you want your baby then keep your baby. But if the father doesn't want the baby, tell him tough luck. You love the baby and you're going to keep it! :)

How about having it and if things don't work take it to a safe surrender site. It will do you and your baby good.

Thank you all for the comments... I just learned today tha my baby is perfectly health, after all the testing they did. I've looked at so many aborted babies photos, and I can't help but cry... I do not want that to be my child... I'm going to keep my baby... I keep remembering the sono the other day... and how she was kicking her legs... I'm so in love.... I realize, it's okay to be scared, and I'm not a bad mom for having these questions and thoughts.. But now, everytime I do.. I think of the poor babies that were dismembered and I can not allow that to happen. As for the father, he goes back and fourth as if he's having the mood swings... one minute he loves me... and wants to listen to my stomach and rub it.. if I tell him to stop.. he tells me that's my baby too... the next minute... he doesnt want a baby... it should just be us... It's stressful, but I am managing and learning to allievate the stress by taking myself out of the situation.. at this point we are not really speaking... it's one of his moods again that I'd rather not deal with... But he always comes back... I just wish he was solid... not so wishy wasgy..

Consider giving the baby to a loving couple who will be able to give the child a stable and loving home. There are 1000's of couples just waiting to pour endless amount of love on these "unwanted" children. Don't look at it as you are abandoning your baby but rather giving them a better opportunity then you can provide at this time.

Hi, would like encourage to if wanting to still be a part of the baby's life maybe look into open adoption. If, you feel it may be better not to be a part as a result of circumtances think of having the baby adopted. I have had a friend in whom has had an abortion and regrets doing it. Encouragement is to think thoroughly when you have time for yourself. Hope that helps!

True, you wouldn't have to raise a baby... but you also would never hear her sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star from the back seat of your car. Mine can't sing worth a crap, but she still sounds like an angel.

... If you want it keep it... The sun will shine. If you have a problem relationship leave it. Find yourself a good man

Don't abort your baby because things aren't working between you and your boyfriend. Tell your stupid boyfriend if he doesn't wants babies he should get castrated

just go on yahoo and find a picture of what your 4 month old baby looks like, then ask your self what is more important... YOUR child or a man you wants you to have to get rid of something so beautiful... he does not feel what you do, he does not have to go through the pain of losing something that is inside of him, if you ask me you are blessed.

If you want to keep your baby then i say do it you don't need him to be there.. you can do it ya its hard but it's worth it... and as for aborting it your baby is 16 weeks me myself would never it's a baby now.... Good Luck in whatever you decide