Would you be willing to change who you are if the love of your life asked you to?
by 
PerfectlyFlawed.
ANSWERS: 33
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No I wouldn't and he shouldn't want me to. I would, perhaps, make compromises, but if he wants to change who I am..he does not love me.
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No, not who I am...
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No !! Nor would anyone worth while expect us to change who we really are.
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No!!!!!! This person couldn't be the love of my life, if he wanted me to be someone or something else. I'm me good, bad, or indifferent!!!!So if you don't like it, make like a B and Buzz off!!!!!
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If he was truly the love of my life he should accept me and not want me to change. So no sorry he just have to love me for who I am and not who he wants me to be.
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If the change is for a good cause .... a little bit may be .....i too would feel happy for his interest in me :-)
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I might be willing to, but I'd never truly be *Able* to. I might be able to change my habits with effort, and that I'd be more than willing to do for the one I loved (Provided their request was reasonable), but in the end, I am who I am. No one can change who they are. And if the "Love of my life" couldn't understand that and accept me for who I am, then they'd hardly be worthy of the title.
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no because hes not the real love of my life. the love of my life would love me BECAUSE of who i am.
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Depends on what it was!
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Only if it is for the better , otherwise don't change who you are for anyone + 5
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depends if i was living dangerously and my lifestyle needed adjusting, regardless of this person's desires. there is a certain amount of accomodating we do naturally in order to be accepted by the ones we love. i love warm weather; would i move to a colder climate to be with the one i loved? absolutely. would i change who i am as a person until i became their puppet? i don't think that person could ever become the love of my life. change can be good as long as we don't lose who we are in the process.
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Maybe a little hopefully for the better but, I have learned the hard way that changing major parts of your self to please others only makes you miserable.
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No, because it only proves that they do not love you if they want you to change so drastically. Love me for a reason, let that reason be love!
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If they were the love of my life they won't want me to change!
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No way - I'm not going to be changing who I am for someone who cannot accept and love me as I am.
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She wouldn't be the love of my life if she asked me to change!
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no sorry ...its take me the way I am or leave me for someone who will
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If they wanted me to change something that was life threatening to both of us or something that would shorten my life then yes I may consider it. Other then that & only because it would be hurting my family
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I wouldn't be the love of her life if she wanted me to change. She would have fallen in love with the person she thought I was or wanted me to be - a fantasy figure, and not me. That would be incredibly sad. At least my wife accepts me warts and all, and none of us are perfect.
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Nope, as "Amanda is against downrating" said they should love you for who you are if they are really the love of your life.
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If they all of a sudden want to change me after they've been fine with me then it is time to consider whether this relationship is worth keeping.
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The love of my life wouldn't ask me to change. She'd accept me for who I am.
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A true love would never ask.
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I'm not about them, so no, I deal with myself anyway so I wouldn't need them to tell me if I "need" to or not. I wouldn't do it to them either. Livia
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If its been a part of me then absolutely not.
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No, because the love of your life should love you for what you are and not for what they want you to be.
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No way. I think it wouldn't be the love of my life as soon as he asked.
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No..
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Not unless the specific change was something I wanted to change about myself already. I tend to believe that when you start a relationship, you're going to gradually learn things about someone, and if anything you learn is so unacceptable it has to be changed, then maybe you shouldn't be with that person.
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I dunno why the love of my life would want me to change because i got a plan for life but if she did I would only if we were to get back together.
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how can this person be the love of your life, if they are asking you to change, and not accepting you for who you are. a true love between two people does not ask for change, rather acceptance. you can't change who you are, unless it's like drinking or drugs or something like that, something you have control over. but if it's anything else, they have no right to ask, and if they insist, how can they really love the real you. good luck in your relationship
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That would really depend on what it was. I have no problem leaving the toilet seat down or being sure the roll feeds from the top or any of those sort of things but I've learned that who you are is who you are and if someone wants you to be someone you're not, you could try but eventually it will come back like a freight train and there's nothing anyone can do about it. Little things, absolutely. Changing who you are, no. Take your time and find someone who you love entirely and love them for who they are.
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No, no one should ever ask you to change.
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