Why do men like to wait till their finacially secure to propose or get married? i think if you love someone why wait for the finances, i mean that may take a very long time to establish. or maybe men just used that as a excuse? what do you think?
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They're the leader of the pack. They feel it's their responsibility to provide, and provide well for their families (which I agree with, but women can do so as well). So if they feel that they can't do so, I think they'd prefer to wait until they feel that they can.
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I think some men really do think that way, (but look where it got Ebeneezer Scrooge!) Then again, they just may use it as an excuse. Either way, it's wrong.
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There are several reasons a man would want to be able to provide for his family, financially, before having one. There is a lot of pressure on men to provide financially, feeling inadequate in that department can make a man feel less manly. Arguments over finances cause relationships to break up. It may not be right, or pretty, but it is a fact of life. It's hard enough to build a life together without money problems much less so with them. It may be an excuse for him to not settle down. He may not be ready for that, yet. All of these reasons are valid. Forcing the issue will only cause trouble. If a guy is not ready, willing, or able to make a commitment, for whatever reason, the best course of action is to either wait until he is ready--or if you can't or don't want to wait--leave the relationship. I hope this helps.
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Marriage and family far outweigh money in the scheme of things.
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Perhaps because they want to be able to support a family. I take from your question that you would want to marry a guy and have children with him even though he may not be working or have any money? Love does not put bread on the table or diapers on the baby. Unless of course your idea of a happy marriage is living on Welfare and using food stamps.
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nope if he can't take care of himself how is he going to help me take care of our children. he won't know responsibility with money. and most likely he won't be mature enough in some areas. if he loves you and he's going to marry you, he ought to be able to take care of you or at least help you take care of yourself. and his love will not change for you in the mean time if that's true love. otherwise the man's an ass and you deserve somebody better anyways
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because a lot of females want the best of everything straight away ... big ring... big car ...big house ..etc and babies as well and if he is financially secure then he won't have to work is ring out and have the arse of his trousers hanging out to provide these things ... common sense really
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I, as a guy, think that it is very important to be financially stable. It's not an excuse at all but a security, if you will, to know that you can take care of your s/o because, I mean you ARE the male in the relationship.
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A) he's smart B) he's responsible C) he doesn't want to be a burden on anyone else when you guys can't pay the rent with warm and fuzzy feelings. D) he wants to provide the best life he can for YOU. E) he is living in the REAL world and knows if you don't have the money to purchase the BASICS, your love may not survive. F) he may believe if he can't afford a wife, he doesn't deserve one. But if this drags on for YEARS AND YEARS, then he has no intention of marrying you, and I would suspect it's an excuse.
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I think there are different kinds of waiting. There is waiting until you will reasonably be in a position to take care of a family, meaning children, too, in case they happen. And then there is waiting for things to get perfect financially. But neither of these is waiting if you both already live together as what's the difference? Guys who do that are avoiding commitment because they are already getting what they want without having to suffer the financial consequences if it doesn't work out.
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Look at the singles adds in the papers,on the net,or where ever.Usually the first or second requirement of a women on those things is financial security.And sometimes it'll get used as an excuse.
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Men need to consider that these days, many many women can and will, and want to take fine care of ourselves AND the kids financially- I am a thousand times more interested in a man who will provide household TEAMWORK, child rearing/child care teamwork, and emotional support. But, alas, I am a single mom business owner - what do I know??
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First of all. Financial security does NOT mean being wealthy. It just simply means that one is comfortable enough to be able to cover oneself if anything should happen. "Comfortable" is also subjective. Anyway... I think it is because of pride. And responsibility. It's a lot easier to get through life when you don't have to worry about financial security. It doesn't mean that you can't live life or be happy if you don't have money. It simply means that you have a safety net.
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its hard to afford an engagement ring with no money in the bank
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I think that men ideally don't need to wait and I'll tell you why. For me all though it's again a little idealistic. I needed the women to become successful, she's gone now but with her by my side with support and all, I became successful. That is why.
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It's a very smart thing to do. You can't live on love alone.
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It's not a man thing. I don't want to get married until I know that we as a couple can be financially stable enough to sustain a household and one day, children. There's nothing wrong with wanting to start a marriage on stable ground. Money is one of the top reasons for divorce. Debt causes stress, and most people don't want to start out in a stressful marriage. Peace.
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a good man wants to make sure he can provide and it gives him security to wait. thats it in a nutshell. :)
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Because most men think that women wouldn't want to marry someone who cant support them. Which is usually the case. It might not be the most important thing to consider when you're in a relationship with someone, but face it, if you're married and completely broke you're probably going to fight about it quite a bit, or you will at least not be as happy as you could be if you didn't constantly have to worry about money problems.
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