ANSWERS: 23
  • Yes. I confessed my feelings. All I could do, really.
  • Yes, I have. What did I do about it? I walked away......it was too painful because I knew he would never leave his s/o, and I told him I could never have an affair with a man that was married. He got mad- but it was for the best for everyone.
  • No.. never have.
  • I have and did nothing about it, but still got royally fucked in the end anyway.
  • i wouldn't call it love, but i did have a crush on a guy who had a girlfriend once, and i did nothing about it. i would never want somebody hurt another person just to be with me.
  • Yes. And backed away. Now they are both two of my best friends with three wonderful children & one grandchild.
  • Yes, I have. In fact, I married her. At the time, she had been with a guy for almost 2 years. A friend of hers told me she wasn't happy. But, I still waited. Then, about 6 months after their break-up, I asked her out, and the rest is history. It's been 27 and 1/2 years.
  • of course i have and of course i pursued them.
  • MOVE ON. It is very tacky and mean to pursue someone who is already in a relationship. You wouldn't want someone to do that to you.
  • Moved on..
  • no i have not. I never liked people who were already spoken for. I dont find that attractive and I dont want to be that girl who trys to get someone else's man. ITS NOT RIGHT.
  • Yes, I think this happens to people more than they are freely willing to disclose it to others. I would always look forward to the times that I spend around this person in social settings but I would never disclose my true feelings to this person out of a fear of disrupting a marriage and losing friends.
  • Yes I have and very recently as a matter of fact. She was a beautiful one too,but I could never break up her marriage. The only thing I could do was move on.
  • Yes, I have. Quite recently in fact. I didn't share my feelings with him, or anyone else...and as long as he is taken, I never will. Although, I'm not "waiting" for him either. That is just as ridiculous as telling him!
  • I wouldn't say it was love but I had a HUGE crush on this guy from work who had a girlfriend at the time, years after they brok up he told me he liked me too! But nothing ever came out of it...
  • no I haven't. a person being 'taken" is a turn off for me.
  • I don't know that they were taken but they may have been into other girls. Really, the boy forgot I existed I think. After 2 1/2 years I finally moved on because I figured he was not interested in me. It took me a really long time to see he didn't care for me in that way.
  • Yeah and I kept her in my mind. I knew eventually she would break up with him (Almost all relationships eventually do dissolve, after all) and, then, I would have my chance.
  • Nope but a few women have and I felt bad for them because it was difficult for them to understand that I'm a stick to "one woman" kind of guy... :-)
  • Well, honestly, as I don't see love being something that just happens in a flash, why would anyone allow themselves to fall in love with someone who is already taken? I really think that you can actively control your feelings to the point where you can steer clear of excessive affection to someone that you can't have at the moment and make your life significantly easier. However, having a crush on someone that's already taken, I believe that almost everyone has, including me. Now, since it's clear that when someone's taken, you're out and you should respect that, the thing to do in the situation is either back off and do nothing, because in most cases, the initial contact will at some point lead to either permanent friendship (from which it is quite a trick to move on to being in a relationship, I'll say that much) or your feelings growing out of proportion and you blurting them out - which in turn will only make the other person's life less easy, and I'm sure they don't need that. So, it's all about respect, knowing to wait for your turn and acting when it's okay to do so. You'll get your turn eventually, and if you won't - you wouldn't have had any chance in the first place. Simple as that!
  • I can honestly say that I haven't. I would never allow myself to become involved, emotionally or otherwise, with someone's bf/spouse. Too much hurt all around.
  • 24 yrs ago....I moved away and that fixed that.
  • Yes I have but I never told them because I just did not think it was the right thing to do. I did not want to chance messing up her marriage over my feelings.

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