My boyfriend wants to have anal sex, but I don't. He says I'm not adventurous. What should I do?
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Stay strong. If you don't want to do it don't do it! There are other ways of making sex adventurous!
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Tell him NO. Tell him that anal sex is perverted and that you refuse to engage in pre-marital sexual intercourse because it's morally wrong. Statistics show that those who engage in pre-marital sexual intercourse tend to be more depressed and have more complications in their relationships. Sexual intercourse was not created outside a monogamous, married, normally-functioning relationship; hence, this is why you're having problems. Bottom line: Say NO to your boyfriend because anal sexual intercourse is unnatural, unsanitary, can lead to sexually-transmitted diseases and other health risks.
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He sounds like he's being very manipulative, trying to guilt trip you into something you don't want to do. However, he may not realise he's doing it- he might think he's just teasing, or that you're just nervous and will give in eventually. Your best bet is to sit down and have a talk with him, tell him that you felt quite hurt when he said that, that its really not something you're comfortable with doing and you feel like he's trying to manipulate you. Many women try anal sex and love it, his past girlfriends may have fallen into this category and now he expects it of you. But its not a requirement. If he continues to request that you do things you have made it clear you don't want or like, then you really need to question whether he's the right guy for you.
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Just remember never do anything that you dont want to do. And if really cares about you then he will respect that and understand it.
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Just have anal sex anyway but first eat some bad Chinese food so you poop all over his penis while he's doing it. That will cure his desire for anal sex, plus I'm sure it will give him a good laugh.
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You dont have to do anything you dont want to do and you should not be made to feel guilty for it from your boyfriend. Sex is not a one way trip just for the man. If you are not comfortable with it dont do it.
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Definately consider finding a new boyfriend. I'm sure in your opinion you are adventurous but fortunately you have a mind of your own in which anal sex is not in your short-term plans. Sex should be something that you and your partner want to freely participate in (no matter what type of sexual acts that may be). If he keeps pressuring you and this makes you feel guilty - move on and find someone who loves you and what you share with him. The adventure will evolve from there.
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It is ok for your bf to ask, it is not ok for him to push the issue once you have given an answer. He may just drop it, but if he does not, then I would certainly drop him!
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Tell him to shove it up his own @$$! Sideways and without lubricant!!! Look, it's your body and if you don't want to do that then he has no right to make you. It's just that simple. If he presses the issue, do you really want him for a boyfriend?
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Your boyfriend should respect you in every sense. If you ever feel uncomfortable in any part of your intimate relationship with anyone then its better to tell them. He should respect that and if he lays the guilt trip, Im sure you will find someone who is comfortable of accepting who you are as a person.
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If your boyfriend wants anal sex he can rob a bank. Bubba would be happy to oblige. Remind him that dropping the soap is a turn on.
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don't do anything you don't want to do, he's being selfish, sounds like.
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Your boyfriend should have more respect for your wishes and if you dont wish to engage in this sexual practice then dont and he of all people should accept that . However what i will say is that anal sex is not morally wrong in this modern day as sanitary issues can be dealt with unlike perhaps in biblical days where sanitary issues where a big problem . For all those so called moralists/fundamentalists out there stick to the log in your own eye without trying to take the speck out of anyone else
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write EXIT ONLY on your butt cheeks, maybe he'll get the picture. But really i agree with the one that said get a strap on & see how much of MAN he is. Get a big one & tell him if he's man enough to take all of it in, then you will too. Then tell him you have a belly ache(or eat laxitives the day before) & see how much he whines after he takes it all in. Most of all don't do anything you don't want to do, its your body not his. If he keeps trying to pressure you kick is A$$ to the curve.
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get him a rubber dick, and have him stick it in his ass, and then ask him how he likes it.
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There's so may gr8 answers here. I agree with the wait on marriage before sex, I am not judging anyone let's get that straight. We all have done things we weren't suppose to especially when sex was the issue. Now for the adults who can't seem to contain until marriage, what can one say accept to each is his own. Since this is not the case, your boyfriend should accept your answer and acknowledge your personal feeling about being asked. It is good that he was up front with you, instead of waiting until you were in a possibly compromising position. Being in this position have caused many to regret later.
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you ahould do the first answer that same thing hapened to me before and i di the first answer gave him all the sex he could take and i sat down and married hem
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Tell Him that if he wants ANAL, ok but that would be his last sex, and once done the relationship is over. and every time he asks you for anal after that, Ask him why he wants to break up with you...
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You may simply be incompatible. He may be controlling. You may be rigid. Ask yourself why he wants it (or ask him), and ask yourself why you don't want it. Read this post. It tells you everything you need to know about how to have anal sex the right way: http://mflife.wordpress.com/2006/10/12/anal-sex-101/
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you need to do what is right for you and maintains your self-respect
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that shit no punt intended but it sounds like it hurts. tell him jokingly to let you fuck him with a huge dido in his ass and if he doesnt he doesnt love you. jk do only what makes you comfortable and nothing more.
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NEVER let ANYONE talk you into doing ANYTHING Sexually that YOU do Not W A N T to do ... Period .... If he has to coax ... then that is tantamount to RAPE, in my opinion ... and depending on what state you live in could actually be ILLEGAL. Ask this loving boyfriend that IF you allow him to do anal on you ... IF you can get a nice big strap on / dildo and do him anally also .... ??? I'm interested in what he says ... LOL ... I believe that will put a stop to his "Adventureous" behavior ....
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i totally agree with all of the previous posts. I have struggled with this same situation with my boyfriend of 4 years, but im just not into that sort a thing. It doesnot turn me on to stick anything in my poop chute and i feel bad denying him but it is my body and my morals so if he dont like it ill find me a new man!
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As always stay true to yourself. You do not have to do anything that you are not comfortable doing no matter what! Your bf is trying to manipulate you into doing what he wants by saying you are not adventurous if you don't do what he wants. Don't buy it. Your bf needs to respect your feelings. I agree you need to have a calm talk with him about how feel when he tries to pressure you into anal sex or anything else for that matter that youa re uncomfortable with. Remember your bobdy belongs to you first and foremost and its your choice what is done to it and with it.
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As long as you use lots of lube, it shouldn't hurt him any if you're gentle. Maybe try to reach a compromise...tell him you'll agree to anal sex if he'll let you return the favor with a proportionate object of your choice.
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