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  • It sounds as if you're what some people might call "bi-curious." Simply put, you just haven't made up your mind. No, I don't advise sleeping around with either sex. You can decide your orientation without actually making out with the same sex, just as heterosexual virgins know they're straight even though they've not made out with the opposite sex. It might be helpful to realize that sometimes when a woman finds other women attractive, it's more of a role model thing than anything else--a "Gee, I'd like to look like that" thought as opposed to "Gee, I'd like to..." well, you know. In your place, I might just ask myself how sexual the thoughts are that I think about women, and whether I'd rather have a long term relationship with a man or with a woman.
  • I went through a "bi curious" phase when I was 18. And that was all it was, a phase. I was learning about my sexuality, trying to find out what I liked and who I was. I am now happily married with two daughters. If you have a crush on a guy, I would leave it at that. If you were to develop a crush on a particular girl than it may be different. But, you happen to have feelings for a guy right now. That's a good indication that you aren't gay. Possibly curious about your sexuality. I think it would be helpful to take some quiet time to fantasize about what turns you on and what you would like.
  • Why kill yourself with questions. Find out what you like and what you dont ;) sexuality means nothing, it does not make a person who they are.
  • I would say bi if ur attracted to both..
  • Just because you think about girls doesn't make you gay. You're simply 'curious' about what it would be like possibly but if you're attracted to men then thats an indication of your sexuality. Also, sexual fantazies don't define your sexuality it's who your naturally attracted to. For example, I'm a guy and i've had same sex fantazies, however, I am in no way gay and I have always had crushes on girls so it's just who you are naturally attracted to. Hope this helps, all the best.
  • I am having this same problem. It sucks a lot. I love my boyfriend but when i am masturbating i get off to only girls. I think we just got to accept it and move on with life and hopefully it is just a phase. I would not be catagorizing any of us. I believe what attracks us isnt what we really want
  • I hope you don't push yourself to be defined by simple thoughts and sexual feelings and arousement. In the States, most of us have been conditioned to have strong reactions to same sex situations and thoughts. You are young and it's healthy to have a fantasy life and explore your thoughts and feelings it doesn't necessarily mean anything, enjoy the person you are with, be true to yourself, and don't get caught up in titles, or labels. One way of looking at it is most people can only really enjoy one person/ relationship at a time, if you are mean't to be with another girl, trust me you will know and you will find out. In no way am I against same sex relations- I'm a Guy who happens to be gay myself, but love and sex are still love and sex no matter who you are with. The grass may be greener on the other side, but even it has to be mowed as well.. So if you happen to really be missing out you will absolutely know, but don't feel that you have to rush yourself. You will know, attraction is there way before you make out with anyone. Matt
  • A lot of people have wondered about that. You see, girls have more of a mind to see something as attractive than guys do. You might see a girl as attractive, but that definately does not label you as bi or gay.
  • I'm straight and I think about girls all the time (I am a girl). It doesn't make me bi. Or even bi-curious. It's just retarded hormones that everybody gets and some try to act on them, while others ignore them, and still others don't even feel them. I think that to follow them is wrong. You're better off being straight.
  • don't worry about labels, just go with the flow and watch out for stds

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