As hard as it may be, Leave him and tell him that you will come back when he stops drinking (set a time set a serious time period). Another good Idea would probably be to see if you could get him into a therapist. Alcohol addiction usually isn't caused because they like the drink so much, but the ability to be able to completely escape reality. A lot of alcoholics are that way because they started drinking to drown out their own thoughts, flashbacks, or voices. Not saying that this is necessarily the case, as other factors could be involved (genetics, environment) but this may be the case, so its good to make sure it isn't a symptom of another disorder.

(have to post here...comment won't work... replying to Chasingafter you..)Actually, both of his parents abuse alcohol, throughout almost all his childhood. They quit for about 10 years and about 2 yrs ago started drinking again. His dad is the main drinker, his mom follows. His parents coped with life by escaping from it with alcohol; they have taught their son to do the same thing. He doesn't think so though, he says it's his actions, his choices, and his parents have nothing to do with it. I see it differently; I think they taught him by example from very early on. He knows no other way, for he was not taught any other way. But he insists on taking all the baggage for himself. Although he is partly correct, I think he must also except that he was taught this behavior. Right now we are sort of separated w/in our household. We are not communicating well and are very distant from one another. I have fought, and stood by many battles against this problem. He seems to be losing the war (recently), I cannot fight anymore. So, I now stand off the battlefield and hope that he wins his own war and hopefully I’ll still be standing around when he does. He must first DECIDE to win the war and do everything needed to do it. When he is receptive, I will definitely give him the info you have given me. As for the therapist, I hope he gets one soon. He needs one… esp. because recently the law has stepped in and tried to enforce his road to recovery (probation, taking license, etc) and even that has not been a big enough wakeup call… I will say that it has shaken the boat a bit though. So who knows… I hope he gets through this… he’s an awesome guy when he’s not influenced by alcohol. I hope I’ll still be around when he does :(. I want to be, I'm just not so sure I can anymore :(. Thank you for listening and replying.

You have to make a sacrifice. Love or happiness. You could also benefit by going to Al-A-Non and talk with others in like situations. Hope you make the right choice .

(comment still not working for me.... so here I reply again ;S) Chasingafteryou... : You said that right. He does have the mood swings. I'm at a point in the relationship where I am so torn! I can no longer stand his drunkeness... it makes me want to run far from him. But, I love the sober man so much, I really don't want to leave him. It's so hard... I really just want to be rid of all this drunken BS! I just wish it didn't mean saying goodbye to him. It's been slowly, emotionally/mentally destroying me. I need it to stop. :( I can't believe I'm going to have to be the one to turn away from him, cuz he can't turn away from it. Heartbreak. I will do what I need to do and hope for the best. If it's meant to be, it will be. Hopefully, he'll change his destructive ways soon. Thank again for listening and replying :).