ANSWERS: 12
  • Hunny, if you are doubting marriage DON'T GET MARRIED. If you are fighting all the time now, it WILL get worse. If he is still being a ass to you now he isn't going to change. Don't ignore your gut.
  • Please don't marry him. Pleeeeease don't. I'm 21, and was recently in a quite similar situation that I'm still trying to get out of. If you need someone to talk to, my email is on my profile.
  • My mum always says to me if you are having doubts about something then dont do it! Seems to me this is a bit more than cold feet seems its been happening for a while! But at the end of the day only you can make this decision! Good luck anyway!
  • For now make it a looong engagement. Take a time-out from each other for at least a wk. See how you both feel and take it from there. You need to cherish each other, especially now. Rather that finding out who to point the finger at....take a break.
  • Why on earth would you marry or even consider having a relationship with someone you fight with all the time? Regardless who starts it. Marriage is suppose to be a lifetime committment. A life which you share and can grow old together. I suggest you end this toxic relationship and find someone you don't fight with. Have some respect for yourself, You deserve much better than your willing to settle for. No matter what happens around you, having such a relationship that is worth it takes time to find. Best of luck to you.
  • I agree with Blank's answer.
  • People don't change really, so if you don't like his behavior, please don't marry him.
  • If he's only been acting like this lately, maybe he's feeling pressured. I know he SAID he wanted to get married, but maybe now that it's a reality, he's just starting to feel pressured or, who knows, maybe his friends are telling him worst case marriage scenarios. If worst comes to worst, take some pressure off of him by putting off the wedding indefinitely. Tell him look, I know we want to get married and we love each other, but this isn't good for either of us to be fighting this way. Maybe we should wait to get married until we both feel comfortable with the idea. If he's still acting like a jerk, tell you need to be apart for a while. Then take that time to reevaluate whether or not you really want to be int his relationship with all of these uncertainties. Good luck.
  • if you fight all the time now..being married isnt the way out. it will never change..cold feet is a cop out.. think about this did you fight before you both decided to get married? if so then theres your answer to you question..it isnt a cold feet..i would put the wedding off for a bit longer and see if it helps..i doubt it..
  • If you don't like him for who he is, why are you even planning to marry him? What's the point?
  • I think you should slow down a bit, postpone getting married and let him know that you are concerned about your future. If you both really love, know and trust each other, it will work out for the best no matter if you get married or not.
  • Have you always fought, or has it just been now when you two got engaged? If it's always been like this, then the answer is obvious. But if it began when you two got engaged, this could be one or both of your ways of saying "I love you but I think getting married is a pretty bad idea right now." Humans are funny creatures, instead of just saying that, you argue endlessly about nonsense. Postpone the wedding and take some time off from one another. If you two do decide that you're happier together than apart, then take it very slowly and get your emotional ducks in a row before thinking about marriage again.

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