Is all fair in love and war?

In war, if you ask me - everything's fair.

But in Love, I can't say the same... but that's because I've just had my heart broken, so I'm tottaly biased. =P

No I do not believe that. Sin is not fair in anything.

Yup. War is not meant to be pretty, and there are no rules in it. If you get to that extreme, you can't afford to hold back. Love is the same way, although there are some rules that if you break you are much less likely to find love, as it is the most important thing in life.

There are established rules for warfare.

Love is trickier, but love itself dictates loving behavior.

No I do not believe so.
It is easy to say yes in war but then we truly only believe that it is fair if it is OUR side.

In love everything cannot be fair that indicates that being dishonest is fair and no relationship can be built without trust. Love is important but so is our integrity

False. Love and war have nothing in common.

Come on, nothing is fair. You can't measure love and you only have win and lose in war.

Nothing is fair in war......

The saying is actually "All's fair in love and war." It is quite plainly not true. Murder remains a capital offense, even if you bump off a rival in love, and the fact that we have the Geneva Convention indicates that even in war there are moral imperatives.

All's fair in Love only.There is no love when it comes to war.

True in love states.
False in war betrayal.

In love maybe, anil, but in war, almost everybody loses somehow.

false.....all is NOT fair, in love or war...

Love is not a matter of doing but being. War is all about doing and not being. Doing can do nothing for or against being and being doesn't care at all about doing!!!

Yes......no limits.

No.

But all is not fair in anything else, either.

no i do not. love and war is what makes people sad and lonely. if you really think about it, can you think of a time where all is fair when you were in love..? i cant....

Yes. I belive that when you choose to fight for something, you commit to destroy that which stands in your way.

Even if I didn't, I'd have to beware of those who do...!

General William Tecumseh Sherman would have certainly subscribed to that thought during the US Civil War.

Sadly, I agree with that statement.

Depands about, u r in love or in war.

true

Spoken like a woman seeking permission to pursue a married man. Hope I'm wrong.

NO- all is not fair. Do unto others as you would have.... because what goes around comes around.

My answer is yes, all IS fair in love and war. Look what we are fighting for?

No. Unethical behavior is unethical behavior.

False. It suggests that love and war are circumstances which somehow suspend the normal rules of ethical conduct and values. Basically, its a way to justify I'm-going-to-do-whatever-I-feel-like-doing. Bad stuff.

No. None of it is fair. When is War fair? When is love! NO! It just ain't fair!

----FAIR, FAIR, FAIR, FAIR--YOU ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY OR MORE CRAZY ----

False. In war, a low percentage of civilian casualties is acceptable when fighting. When fighting while in love, it is unacceptable for you to kill others. So all is not fair.

"Fair" is a human concept. Fairness does not exist, except in the human mind.

War is never fair, because destruction and domination are very poor ways to resolve a difference of opinion. Very few wars can be considered anything but a foolish waste of human life. Love has nothing to do with our concept of fairness. If you were fair in love, you could find yourself in love with everyone. That would make your house more than a little crowded.

The term "all fair in love and war" is generally used by those whom the rest of us would consider anything but fair.

depends... do you want to win?

I believe love is something that we must let happen, war is something we make happen. We can compel others to comply or submit through war, but we can't force love. Any aggressive, dishonest, or deceitful act to obtain the affections of another is not love.

Yes, but if you use chemical weapons on your spouse, it might mean sleeping on the couch

Well...I don't know about war...

False, usually only one side takes that position.

TRUE, to a degree of course

Damn right.

In "love"? Most likely not...would you murder someone for love?

In "war", yes - you can do anything in war - and people have done just that.....it doesn't make it right to do - but at least you have a good excuse for doing so.

No. In war it is never fair. One side will have more reiforcements and stuff. And love isn't fair eather.Someone will get in the way because of luck and unluck for you. And along time ago the father of a princess would tell her who to marrie.

some may see it that way ...some don't....depends on the person's character....

Everybody in a war loves what they are fighting for.

sort of?

Indeedee :)

No, there are so many unfair situations in Love and in war.You can lose both battles in a heartbeat...and that's not fair!

Only if your naked for both : )

Most of the time,all is unfair for me!

Actually, all's FAIR in love and war.

I think it's true to an extent, but it's more of a clever saying than anything else. Really doesn't have any huge significant meaning to it, except for those who like to cheat and do devious things.

Yes True, all is fare in love and war. Do what you must to obtain what you want, but remeber there is usually a cost accociated with war. Love makes people murders, liars, blind, stupid, depressed, happy,etc. There is no one word to describe love and some people will go through great lenghts earn to hold on to it.

Hmmm...No.

Honour

"Honour or Honor is the evaluation of a person's trustworthiness and social status based on that individual's espousals and actions. Honour is deemed exactly what determines a person's character: whether or not the person reflects honesty, respect, integrity, or fairness."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honour

Honour Code

"An honor code or honor system is a set of rules or principles governing a community based on a set of rules or ideals that define what constitutes honorable behavior within that community. The use of an honor code depends on the idea that people (at least within the community) can be trusted to act honorably. Those who are in violation of the honor code can be subject to various sanctions, including expulsion from the institution."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honour_code

Ethical Code

"An ethical code is adopted by an organization in an attempt to assist those in the organization called upon to make a decision (usually most, if not all) understand the difference between 'right' and 'wrong' and to apply this understanding to their decision."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethical_code

Warrior Code

"In many societies in which a specialized warrior class exists, specific codes of conduct (ethical codes) are instituted in order to ensure that the warrior class is not corrupted or otherwise dangerous to the rest of society. Warrior codes often have common features and usually value honour in the forms of faith, loyalty and courage. Examples include the Nine Noble Virtues of Germanic folklore, medieval knights' code of chivalry, the Kshatriya code of Dharma in India, the system of values of ancient Armenian army or Japan's samurai class which uses a warrior code known as Bushido (The Way Of The Warrior) and xiá in China. See also noblesse oblige.

Warriors' honor is dependent on following the code. Common virtues in warrior code are mercy, courage and loyalty."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Warrior_Code#Warrior_code

Chivalry

"Chivalry is a term related to the medieval institution of knighthood. It is usually associated with ideals of knightly virtues, honor and courtly love."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chivalry

Bushido

"Bushidō (武士道?), roughly translated as "the way of the warrior," is a Japanese code of conduct and way of samurai life, loosely analogous to the concept of chivalry. As part of the samurai philosophy, Bushidō stresses loyalty, frugality, the mastery of martial arts, and "honor unto death." Born of two main influences, philosophy and swordsmanship, the violent existence of the samurai was tempered by the wisdom and serenity of Japanese Shinto and Buddhism."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bushido

Rules of Engagement

"In military or police operations, the rules of engagement (ROE) determine when, where, and how force shall be used. Such rules are both general and specific, and there have been large variations between cultures throughout history. The rules may be made public, as in a martial law or curfew situation, but are typically only fully known to the force that intends to use them. The ROE should comply with the generally accepted martial law."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rules_of_engagement