What would you do if an ex-friend publicly announced confidential information about you for the sole purpose of hurting you? What's your opinion of someone who would do that?
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Jodie44
ANSWERS: 15
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Is this question just for me? I would think I did something to really piss him off and or he is very cold.
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I could honestly say I've never known anybody who hasn't done that to somebody at one time or another for any ol' reason.
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Hey Jod- Clear why they are an ex-friend, for sure...not cool at all
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I would be a little curious as to why they did that. To me it's a very big form of betrayal. The only time that confidential information should be released is if someone is a danger to others or to themselves. In any other situation I feel it is completely unethical to do so. I equate this to my going to therapy and having a therapist release all of my psychological issues to the public. I would feel ultimately betrayed, because not only have I invested time into building a foundation with this person, I've also invested trust and part of myself. This is the very reason therapists and clinicians are NOT allowed to release confidential information. I probably wouldn't speak to my "friend" again. At that point, they've shown where their loyalties lie and obviously they don't lie with me. Friends are people who trust one another and don't betray that trust.
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I would hope my current friend emails me their name if the person who did this is also my 'friend'. What a SHITFULL thing to do - NO_ONE needs a friend like that. That really sux BIG TIME !!!
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What would I do after the punching a hole in something and breaking my hand, you mean? Of course I'd be hurt and angry. The terrible thing about this kind of trust being broken is that you start to question your ability to understand a person's character. You feel like you can't trust your own judgment. In other words, you blame yourself! My opinion of someone who would commit that kind of betrayal is they will end up friendless and alone, and never understand why. And I would move on, quickly.
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I would be angry, to say the least. Maybe I'd confront the person, but I sort of doubt it. If this person is doing something just to hurt me, I don't imagine they care what I have to say. I'd have to trust that my current friends are more loyal than this creep. Which I'm sure is the case with you, Jodie. I'm so sorry that happened to you. How appalling to be have a confidence betrayed. Note: your question made me think of this, one of my favorite scenes from The Producers. I hope it brings you a smile. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-WRypGiNpY
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My opinion of someone who would do that is this..the friendship wasn't a real friendship..it must have been contingent on something or another..there must have been strings attached about which you were unaware..relationships ebb and flow..grow and wilt..it's normal. Betraying a trust inadvertently is bad enough..but on purpose..it's a terrible thing to do to another person. You couldn't put the egg back in the cracked shell, so there is nothing I can think of that I would do, except realize I had been duped and try to do a better job choosing my "friends" in the future. :)
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I'd say they fit somewhere between used car salesmen and the proverbial slime of humanity. (someone did that to me once. Now, I'm more cautious and careful.)
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I'd be pissed! I'd probably go to them and tell them that I do not appreciate this and that it was pretty immature of them and let them know that even though we are not friends still they they do not need to be doing stuff like that and ask them how they would feel if I was to do that to them!
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Must not have been a real friend in the 1st place. Good ridance to bad rubbish.
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I would first thank my lucky stars that our friendship was over. I would hold my head high and be the bigger person, I wouldn't respond by doing the same thing back. My opinion of such a person is that they are pathetic and probably in need of therapy.
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This would be pretty brutal to me. It would be massive betrayal even though they still were not my friend. I'm not that sure as to what I would do. I would probably not talk to that person who spilled the information. They don't deserved to be talked to. I would do various depending on what the information related to. My opinion of that person would be that he/she is just an attention seeker, and that they are pretty messed up because they would want to hurt me. Those kind of people would be shunned from me.
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I would think that they would be a horrible human being, trying to make themselves look good at others expense. This is just being nice,here.
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If what you described happened to me, I would probably do likewise, but I would also MAKE UP "confidential information" that was much more damaging to my ex-friend, than what s/he told about me. As I've said before, you don't fuck with ME, unless you have a vagina.
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