Why do people set a defined age for when you can and cannot have true love?(will comment to clarify if needed).
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Oddjob
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I need a comment for clarification. Who said you have to be a certain age?
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Because of narrow mindedness. They think because they were unable to sooner, that means no one else can understand it sooner. It's just like setting a age for anything. It's not possible. Some people aren't ready for love until 20s some even 30s or later. And yet, some teenagers are very aware of what it is. People also assume that there is one definition of love. That because that is how they felt in love, means that's how it feels for everyone. The term love is so abstract, so beyond human comprehension, that there is no way only one version of love is the right way. As for age again, saying teens or young adults can't love is the same as saying homosexuals cant' love the same sex, or that you can't love outside your race. It's very shallow.
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They're bloody idiots, that's why. I'm only 14, and yet when I was just a year younger... I though I'd found the other side of my very soul, I thought I'd found my Immortal Beloved as it were...
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I think true love is possible once you are old enough to understand what defines true love as opposed to say, a crush or lust. Not a specific age, per say, but rather a level of maturity.
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It is a truth the younger you are the less your thoughts on the world have solidified. That doesn't mean you can't carry the same beliefs from childhood into adulthood and I think this includes 'true love'. A person changes throughout their lifetime, and if a couple continue to grow together it doesn't matter at what age they meet and decide they are in love. So, I do not agree there is a defined age you can have true love, but I do agree when you are younger it's harder to be able to evaluate if this is a lasting love based on meaningful criteria.
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Even though you could be in love at a very young age, it's unlikely. Love is more than wanting to be around someone or being intimate or feeling butterflies in your stomach. Love is knowing someone completely, good and bad sides, and still loving them. How can you know someone completely and they don't even know who they are yet? Also love is wanting to sacrifice for that person. Being young is all about being able to be selfish without feeling sorry for it. Even if they thought they were in love at a young age, 10 years later, people always say "Wow, I didn't even know what love was".
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I'm guessing a lot of people set a defined age for when you can and cannot have true love because they don't think 'young people' can experience love. However, I think it depends on the person. There are 80 year olds who haven't found true love, and people under 30 who probably have. Age doesn't determine love. Love is what determines love.
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Because they judge on their own experience of NOT being in love before a particular age... so they think it's impossible.
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I don't think there is a set age, but there's just a...knowing. I think that most younger people can't discern the difference between love and infatuation and lust and all those interlinked things. It just takes time to learn all that, and I know when I was 13 and 14, I just hadn't yet. Around 15 i was staring to get it, same with 16 and now at 17, I'm still not quite there I don't think. But very close.
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For the same reasons people set any limits on themselves. It is based on their attitudes, their experiences, their upbringing, their belief systems. I think many people set a minimum age because, in most common and practical cicumtsances, most of us do not find true love when we are very young. We may think we have, but we are usually proven wrong. It is not impossible, but not likely. Some people may set a maximum age because, at a certain stage in life, they want to focus on other aspects of living and not on the search for love. It can be hard to adapt ones lifestyle and daily routines and it may be easier to deal with rejection if you just chalk it up to being too old. There is no "real limit" on when a person can find true love, but there are some parameters that are common to most of us.
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What "people"? I have never heard of such a thing. I found true love at 59..having had several bouts at it when I was younger. If you mean why do you do it, then I cannot answer for you. If you mean why do others do it, who cares what others think? When you're 20 you may think 60 is old..when you reach 60 you discover what a lie that was! :)
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I don't think there is a 'defined' age for true love. I've known people who have been together since grade school, and also people who have found each other at an older age. My step-dad is an example of the latter: he and his high school sweetheart reconnected just 3 years ago. They are 81.
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There is no defined age to fall in love. Nobody can tell you how you feel about another person its an emotionally feeling that comes from with in you. Love comes with a level of maturity and level of understanding.Its just that these days kids define the word love wrong its more deeper than they think it is. If your like 5 years old and your saying you love some boy or girl that is different but im about to be 18 in one month and i have been in love with the same guy since i was 16 years old and its true love despite the feact that my parents believe that i an to young to now what true love really is.
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True love happens at any stage in life no matter what anybody says!
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true love happens when ever the heck you find it for instance my moms best friend and her husband met when they were four and they started dating in like second grade now look their married with two kids
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I don't think there is ONE set age, but I think there is a point in your life that changes how you define love. If you haven't reached that point yet, you can't have "true love." I should also add that it's possible to feel love without having "true love," and that your feelings for someone can carry over to the new way you define love.
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