My boyfriend works from 3pm to 11pm but doesn't get home until after midnight. It shouldn't take him this long to get home. Is he cheating?
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Seems to me like there is trust issues. If he has cheated in the past, then it's acceptable to doubt him but if he hasn't, then there issues that are needed to work out. I say trust him for now in the meantime, if there really are no evidence to him cheating.
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Not necessarily. Maybe he's out shopping, or drinking with his buds. Who knows? Only he knows the answer to your question. However, if you discover that he's cheating, then you definitely need to DUMP him like yesterday's caviar. Now, you go girl and do the right thing! Good luck!
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You can't tell for sure...but maybe yes! Is this happens all the time or just started lately? Any other wigns he is cheating on you? http://www.squidoo.com/Catch-Your-Man-Cheating
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being late it doesn't mean that he is cheating... you just don't know maybe he is having fun with his friends... if you can't trust yor b.f then your relationship wont last long...
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its likely hes stopped off for a quick pint lots of people both genders do this to unwind from work
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WOW..an hour late don't you do things after work are you home straight after work all the time? maybe pick something up...all in all just ask him say it is no big big but, just wondering why it takes so long to get home after work.
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First off, no, I don't think he's cheating. When I work 3p-11p there's no WAY I can walk out the door at 11 on the dot. If he works in any kind of health facility, you can forget leaving on time. You didn't say what kind of work he does, but I would imagine it would take him at least 15 mins. to get his stuff together, etc. walk to the car and get moving. Does he have to wait for someone to take his place before he can go? Maybe that person is holding him up. Secondly, I think it's really crappy to analyze someone else's time away from you minute by minute, and expect them to account for it. I've had that done to me in a relationship before, and it absolutely borders on emotional abuse. If you have that many trust issues with your BF then you need to break it off.
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Meet him at the door in a flimsy for about 5 nights in a row. See if he's ready to go. A few nights of this might give you a good idea. Maybe you'll start something that will keep you together.
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even though there is a slight chance he is cheating you have to take into account traffic if he drives, distance of his job to home, and theres even a chance that he just moves slow.
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Of course not...he has one hour. He is unwinding from his shift...perhaps having a coffe/drink/smoke/chat with others who are getting off shift. You need to relax a bit. But...keep that up and you will drive him away.
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What is his mode of transport? Does he have to travel very far? Is this just a one off or is he frequently late?
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I honestly dont think so... i work 3-11 and i usally dont get home until almost midnight... and i live only 10 minutes away!...
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Talk to him? I think the only thing worse than cheating is my g/f suspecting me of cheating when I'm really not. Don't let this eat at you too long before you do something about it.
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You can't have much of an affair in an hour minus packing up from work and drive time.
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Ahh the paranoia... If he is, is the master of the quickie!! This is going to sound callous and asshole-ish, but if it were me and you were counting the minutes until I got home your ass would get dumped with the quickness!! Nobody needs that shit
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take into consideration what his job is. is it always a given that he is going to walk out the door at exactly 11pm? in most cases, probably not. how far away is your house? how long after midnight is it? and also, truly happy dogs don't stray. if you make him happy, give it a rest. unless you have better inklings. i'll say what the others said. this frame of mind you have is unhealthy. maybe you should stop over analyzing things.
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