If you were raised by loud, screaming, violent alcoholics, are you destined to be one?
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Wild One
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you have got good chances, since they say alcoholism is genetic..
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My opinion only - I would say 'prone to' rather than 'destined to' I wish you every good fortune, hang in there.
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Absolutely not. I was raised like that, and I am not one. I don't drink at all. What you become is in large part up to you. If you want to be a failure and blame it on your parents. that's your choice. I chose to be a success and I am.
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NO GODDAMMIT!
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No, you don't have to follow that lifestyle... you can always build something better for yourself!
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It can happen and does but always ? no. I do believe we are products of our enviorments but I also have friendships with a couple of people who are from those types of homes .. and they could not be more different. It really depends and on what.. I am not sure? So many things could contribute to turning away from that type of learned behavior.. counseling.. someone or others who were there to help stabilize you emotionally throughout your life.
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You are not destined to become one by any means. I grew up in the same situation that you described, and I am in a great relationship, have a great carreer, and I graduated college with two majors in four years. Only you decide how your future will turn out. Your past may infuence those decisions. For me, I didn't dwell on the bad things that happened to me growing up, I used all of it as an experience to learn from. Hopefully whomever you are speaking of above can do the same.
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I was never raised by alcoholics but I was raised by dysfunctional parents just the same and fortunately I'm maybe the only one in my family with some common sense and the desire to rise above that and be better than that.
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Not necessarily. I've seen some pretty amazing children come out of some pretty screwed up adults. But I guess it can work out any way really.
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You've described my upbringing, quite accurately, and the answer is, definitively...No. But really, you have to want to escape that kind of life, first. You really have to be determined to not become the thing that you hate, which may mean avoiding certain activities, or at the very least, knowing your limits. It's not easy, but it can be done, and everyone has the inner strength to do it...
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