Do you think that the "spark" of love begins as a physical, emotional, or intellectual attraction?
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Wow, that is interesting. I'm going to have to say emotional because it is easy to have a physical relationship and not love someone. It is easy to have an intellectual bond with someone yet not love, maybe like, but that's it. I'm putting all my money on emotion.
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Emotional and intellectual...
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To really feel the "spark", speaking from a female perspective (I don't know about how men feel), it all has to be going at once. You may realize the physical first but the realization that it is love comes when all things fall into place.
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Physical - that's what attracts you to a person initially. Great question - +5
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It sparks as physical and the desire to know more about the person.
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The spark begins at physical because that is the first thing you notice about the person then it grows into emotional and intellectual.
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I think it's different everytime. You may like what you see, but then the person opens their mouth, and that's it. Or the other way around.
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For me it's intellectual attraction first. If I am not attracted to the person intellectually I will rarely pursue anything more than friendship.
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The strongest love I've ever had for anyone is for my girlfriend - there are simply no more precedents. The first time I looked at her, before I even spoke to her, the alarm bells went off in my head. I'm not sure I can classify that as physical attraction because she was simply not my 'type': tall, hunky, male... lol. But then again, she was also dark-haired, Eurasian and goodlooking, which is all my type. So I don't know... I've met ALOT of people like that but very few affected me like she had those first few minutes, without opening their mouths. And then when she did, I was done for. She looked at me, saw through me and knew exactly which buttons to push, and pushed them all. And after that I could not look at her without panting. :P
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the spark of Love starts with the emotional...the spark of interest would be physical
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Possibly physical because you normally see someone before you talk to them. When you talk you get an even stronger bond.
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its a combination of the three. though i must say the physical tends to be the one that changes the most.
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i think the spark of Love usually starts with the physical part of the person but not allways i think many times it well starts with the emotional attraction because the first thing tht attracted me 2 my bf was his eyes but more importnt thn that the way he spoke with me the way he treats you so sweet or watever and if you trust each othr that creates a big bond between two people
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physical is interest, emotional and intellectual make up love. emotional and intellectual go hand in hand.
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For me it's emotional attraction first. But if it's just an infatuation it's physical. No one has ever been able to attract me emotionally until I met this girl and now I can't stop thinking about her.
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I would say all these together, but after that 100% of guys want sex or anything physical to continue. If im wrong someone tells me the truth, or respond to me.
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I personally feel that it is deffinetly an emotinal attracion. When me and my boyfriend first started dating, i got soo many feeling for him, and i started crying because i just felt so happy that i've found someone so speical,i felt so emotinally happy with him. It was amazaing. But there are other sorts of attrattions with people, speaically physical sometimes because often alot of people's first impressions are physical, cuz apperiance matters to alot of ppl most of the time
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As horrible as this sounds, I think it BEGINS as physical. At least for me (I'm sure it's different for everyone). However, if physical is the only thing involved, the spark will fizzle in about five minutes. Intellectual is definitely what gets me hooked.
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i guess it's intellectual...then emotional...it's part and parcel of true love...:)
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all of the above, at once.
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bahaha, I dunno, he's pretty slow, and way not my type, so Imma go with emotional.
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Emotional, that's the friendship key and the bedrock for always being able to support and comfort and listen/talk to each other. All 3 pieces are needed to complete the puzzle , but emotional is #1
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Everything starts with the mind, as far as I am concerned. I can't get emotional about someone whom I barely know. But I can laugh at his subtle humor..I can share his insights into life's vagaries..I can agree with his views or have a spirited conversation about our differences...I can admire his mental agility, acuity and cleverness...I can appreciate how he moves through his life..what kind of work he does..how he feels about those less fortunate..how he perceives himself. All of that comes from conversation, the brain, the mind, the thought processes. For me, emotion follows all of that! :)
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For me, attraction begins at an intellectual level. If you don't have anything substantial to bring to the table - stimulating conversation, life experience and maturity - then I don't have time for you. In 99% of my relationships, I have been friends with my partner before beginning a sexual relationship with them. I guess it could be construed as emotional as well since I tend to care more over time. I've always said the way to my pants is through my head and I am very blessed that I found a man who stimulates me on ALL three levels.
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physical
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I believe it is pure chemistry in the beginning. It's a combination of physical, that sets off the emotional, that then sets off the intellectual. Like for example, I have seen people that are very attractive, and then when they speak, the attraction goes out the window. Megan Fox and Alexis Bledel are good examples of this phenomenon. In still photos they are extraordinary to look at, but when they speak......mmm...not so much... (just my opinion)
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Each one is intertwined with another. The spark starts the flame that starts the fire in each. How you interpret each attraction and take yourself beyond to the next level is up to you and your partner.
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Each one is intertwined and the spark ignites the other consequentially as the relationship develops.
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From my point of view, all 3 very much come into play. Someone that stimulates me on all 3 levels has got it made with me!
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Depends on the situation. Usually for me its intellectual - I love a sharp wit.
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