Meaning... Your husband has not told you that he masterbates? ...and by not telling you he has insulted you because he was not honest with you, therefore you feel insulted because of his dishonesty? Or, Your husband masterbates instead of having sex with you, which you have interpreted as him not "being comfortable with you" sexually, so now you feel insulted or offended (threatened) that you are not good enough ...assuming that if "you were good enough" he would not be masterbating? If it is the second option of my inquiry into your question, Your husband has the right to masterbate because you do not own him, nor does he own you. You can masterbate, too, if you wish to do so. In so doing, there is NOTHING connected to your value or your worth as a spouse, a lover, or your ability to satisfy him sexually. You wrote: "...now I < feel > like I am not good enough." I would like to re-phrase this for you: "...now I think that I am not good enough and I feel sad and hurt." You are dealing with your own low self-esteem in this dilemma. Your husbands masterbating is perfectly OK for him to do so. You truly need to discontinue your attempts to interpret or internalize his masterbating as being a statement "about" you. If your self-esteem were higher you would KNOW that you ARE "good enough" and none of this would be an issue, then. I would like to suggest, thoughtfully and respectfully, that you seek therapy to overcome your low self-esteem, as well as reading self-help books on overcoming Co-dependency. I wish you the best!

Is your question about you masturbating him? If it is, i can tell you from a mans perspective that often people masturbating us can be quite uncomfortable. Its so much nicer when we do it ourselves. You could get him to teach you how he likes it maybe?

You need talk to your husband there could be more going on there what meet the eye.

One night suggest that you both masturbate together. You might also think about getting some KY and giving him a nice slow hand job. Openness is part of the real intimacy of a close relationship between husband and wife.

I would talk to him and see is ther more going on then meet the eye. My husband love when I masturbate. He says it turn him on.

Masturbation = SELF LOVE,if someone else does it for you,then it's even better,and if you do it for them it's wonderful,but if you both do it for each other......well you can imagine!!!