its the whole damned of you do and damned if you dont. my choise to not live with a person

unfortunately, yes. my best friends husband has a wandering eye(and hands)and likes to pretend he is not a husband and a father. she is aware of his infedilities. she knows the truth in her heart. i have sat with her so many times as she has cried, yet she still prefers to blame the other woman. for years, she asked me to tell her immediately if he ever tried anything with me. she said if he ever did, she would finally leave him. well that is exactly what happened on christmas eve a few years ago. my friend, her children and my husband where wrapping last minute gifts in the kitchen at the time. that scumbag told me if i ever spoke of what had happened he would blame it all on me and it would be the end of my relationship and my friendship with his wife. i told my husband who believed me immediately, for this mans reputation proceeds him. i didnt want to tell my friend because i knew she would blame me just as her husband had said, and just as she had done with so many other women in the past. also, i didnt want to be the person who broke up a family on christmas eve with three small children in the house. however my husband felt she should know. so he tried to tell her, in the hope she would finally see sense like she so often said she would. guess what? she wouldnt listen. that was four years ago now. she is still married to that man and i miss her terribly.

unfortunately, yes. my best friends husband has a wandering eye(and hands)and likes to pretend he is not a husband and a father. she is aware of his infedilities. she knows the truth in her heart. i have sat with her so many times as she has cried, yet she still prefers to blame the other woman. for years, she asked me to tell her immediately if he ever tried anything with me. she said if he ever did, she would finally leave him. well that is exactly what happened on christmas eve a few years ago. my friend, her children and my husband where wrapping last minute gifts in the kitchen at the time. that scumbag told me if i ever spoke of what had happened he would blame it all on me and it would be the end of my relationship and my friendship with his wife. i told my husband who believed me immediately, for this mans reputation proceeds him. i didnt want to tell my friend because i knew she would blame me just as her husband had said, and just as she had done with so many other women in the past. also, i didnt want to be the person who broke up a family on christmas eve with three small children in the house. however my husband felt she should know. so he tried to tell her, in the hope she would finally see sense like she so often said she would. guess what? she wouldnt listen. that was four years ago now. she is still married to that man and i miss her terribly.