First of all, relationships should be three fold. In other words, every good relationship has 3 levels. The first level should be intellectual, though obviously, the physical has a little to do with it, as most people aren't blind and are a little superficial. If you two connect intellectually, and are able to discuss things and have similar views (religion especially), you two might have something. The second phase is emotional, as you two need to be sensitive to each other's needs, and no, that doesn't mean that you should get busy when you feel like it. Emotional needs involve being alone together and romantic things like cuddling and hand holding. Last but not least, you need to be there for him when he is done and when he is feeling good, as that is key. Also, emotional ties go hand in hand with spiritual ties. If you two share your religious beliefs (both Christian or something else), the emotional might border on spiritual, and that adds to it, which is even better thing. Thirdly, there is the physical, which should be very light at first. Hugging, cuddling on the couch, hand holding and such, but the key here is comfort and not passion, for the passion should be reserved for the wedding night, so wait until then and GO CRAZY.

You will only learn to settle for less than you deserve.

i TRIED THAT AND I DID NOT WORK SO NOT TO SOUND HARSH BUT DONT WASTE YOUR TIME.

No. What will happen is that you'll eventually get tired of trying so hard and they will end up hurt.

Truth is Im gay. I once tried to cover it up by dating a girl who had a crush on me. Thinking that if I spent enough time around her I would become attatched. It did not work out. We barely talked, and the closest physical contact we ever had was a handshake greeting. I am now stuck with the situation of breaking it to her that I dont like her, and I'm terribly afraid that I will hurt her. She had a rough past life with a dishonourable mother and was raised by a single fatgher. I know that I will have to do it sometime and that it will hurt us both. I just pray the Lord save her the pain because it was not her fault. But mabye her pain is to be my punishment...... Anyways basically it does not work out. But you did say you can be really attracted to him sometimes, my situation may be different as I was only a desperate boy scratching at any options that came by. IMO he may be right for you, but sometimes you can get annoyed at him. The fact that you can be really attracted to him says something though, but if you stretch out your relationship in a facade it will only hurt you both more when you realize the truth. Find it in your heart to do what is right. And god bless you.

I have been with my guy for 2 and a half years, I once used to doubt if he was the man for me, I no longer doubt it.

Chemistry is either there or it's not. It can't be created.

Not necessarily. You should like him before he becomes your boyfriend. If you don't like him, let him go. If you stay with someone you don't like, its called holding on until something better comes along...unethical.

Why on earth are you going out with someone you're not attracted to? Will you eventually get to like him? Geez, where's my crystal ball when I need it?

Sometimes one must grow into an attraction. You could eventually like a person once you get to know them, talk with them, find out more about them. Liking someone is more than surface. Ever hear of the phrase, "...has the face only a mother could love"?

Well there has to always be that spark or you'll always be unsatisfied and unsure if the relationship is going to work and if that spark is going off/on then you need to talk with him and tell him to improve his look or spice things up a bit. Because you don't want to leave him for another guy cause you were bored that will hurt way more then the truth.