No, most people just assume I'm straight...that, can be a disadvantage at times. +4 to counter the -1

I'm not the most "girlie" girl you'll ever meet. I used to wear dresses and skirts, but I haven't for ages. Practical reasons and comfort, mainly. Pantyhose and heels were invented by sadists, I think. I wear my hair short because it's easier to take care of, and short nails because they get in the way on a computer keyboard...which I'm on all day at work. BUT, most people don't look at me and automatically assume I'm lesbian, either.

My ex-girlfriend and I used to plait each other's hair and then have pillow fights while wearing skimpy lingerie.

Although I am technically bisexual, I generally feel a stronger attractions towards women--at least most of the time. (I'd say for me it's around sixty to sixty-five per cent women and around fifty per cent men, most of the time). I think that the greatest of the negative stereotypes that bisexuals face is that of the image of being perverse and sexually promiscuous. I can honestly say that in the eighteen years of my existence, I have never been a 'promiscous' person and at all, and in fact, monogamy and commitment is something that I believe that I truly value in absolutely any relationship and I am very particular about who I want intimacy with. (Actually, believe it or not, I haven't really been with very many women or men for that matter!) Another stereotype that they face is that of being notorious 'fence sitters' and/or that they are forever in a chronic state of denial over being either one way or the other. For example, one might assume that because I admit to a higher attraction towards most women on average that I should really 'come out of the closet' and identify as lesbian rather than bisexual. (Thats complicated--even for myself! Well, if I indentified as either one way or the other, I would simply be in denial of the fluidity of my attractions, and although I'm not sure that I could (or even could) date a man and a woman at the same time, I believe that it is the person who matters, not only the gender of the person. Also, I tend to experience attractions to men and women quite differently and to varying degrees.

I'm like both you and DA BEN: sometimes limp-wristed and rather prissy when at home alone, apparently much less so in public. Many are surprised to find out I'm gay, while I'm surprised to find out they're surprised.