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by Yeux on September 3rd, 2007
In my opinion 13 years olds are still children. Children should not be having sex.
by Highlander is semi-retired from AB on September 4th, 2007
Unless your old enough to raise a child, your too young to have sex. No age limit; your choice.
by Shopping Sheryl - home from the hospital on September 3rd, 2007
Yes, I do. 13 year olds are still children. Some of them have not even fully reached puberty at that age.
I do not understand the hurry to want to rush into having sex. Sure, it seems like fun. But, sex is also a huge responsibility. It carries with it the possibility of pregnancy and serious disease.
I hope kids learn to enjoy each age and stage of their lives.
There is plenty of time for sex and relationships in the next few years. And remember, you're an adult for a very, VERY long time.
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on September 4th, 2007
I don't think that 13 year olds have enough emotional maturity to deal with the flood of emotions that can accompany sex. That said, I realize that that isn't going to stop them. The best I can do is try to ensure that they play safely.
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on September 3rd, 2007
it is shocking that 13 year olds even entertain the idea of having intercourse.... i am glad i don't have kids
by Anonymous on September 3rd, 2007
Well, I lost my virginity at 13, but now that I'm a parent, I can't imagine my kids getting involved in those kinds of activities at that age. It just seems too young. My childhood was different, though. My parent's weren't exactly the perfect example, and as a result, I did things that weren't necessarily right. I'm not sure I regret it, but certainly looking back, I can see how some people would think that it's too young.
by Sam Bickles on December 31st, 2007
Anyone who is ready for sexual activities in every way,
is ready.
Does emotional maturity occur at 2:17pm on the day of your 13th birthday? No. There is no definite moment that someone "bing!" acquires maturity and responsibility.
So when someone genuinely feels they are ready, and they want to, then they are ready.
by Sheepingly needs no handy men only hugs on September 4th, 2007
Yes. It's correct 50 years ago and it will be correct 1 billion years from now.
by Hazel07 on September 3rd, 2007
Yes i do i think you should wait if you are considering it
by Portlandia on December 31st, 2007
I believe it is incorrect to label and restrict people based on a number.
by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on September 4th, 2007
Yes it's too young. Before you should have sex for the first time, you should be emotionally mature enough to handle it. If not, you can damage yourself emotionally (and mentally) for years to come.
by ezhammer on September 3rd, 2007
i am a guy, when i was 13 i thought it was a year too late. if i had kids though, especially a daughter, it is way to young. Advice to my kids about sex: "Son, there is a time and a place for everything...it's called college"..."Daughter, there is a time and a place for everything...it's called marriage"
by Charlie17 on December 31st, 2007
Romeo and Juliet were 12-13 years old.
If they were old enough to die for each other, are they old enough to love, care, and have an intimate relationship with each other?
Also, why does your belief matter? Your life is up to you, and other people's life is up to them. Would you ever in a million years place your private, personal belief onto somebody else?
by calypso on September 4th, 2007
I think 13 is definitely too young.
by CathyS on December 31st, 2007
It depends on the individual.
A lot of 13-year-olds are more mature and capable than people in their 20's and 30's.
And then a lot of 13-year-olds will always be infantile and irresponsible, no matter what age they grow to be.
by Zandalee.Lonely.Lunatic.3yrs-here on September 27th, 2007
Way too young.
I was 19. I cannot imagine what my sister went through starting at 15.... she cried for days it was a mistake, she knows she was too young. My other sister started at 17 and just recently miscarried, it was extremely hard on her, not to mention the guy turned out to be a complete loser, and a pathological liar.
They didn't deal well with the complications of sex at 15 and 17. They both had miscarriages before they were 18. One at six months along, the other at 3 months. It is psychologigically disparaging. Especially for someone so young. I think the complications would be nearly indemnifying for someone younger.
I do know a girl who became a mother at a younger age. She was 11 when she had a baby. She wasn't doing well last I heard. CPS was threatning to take the baby, she had to quit school, she was living in a run down apartment and her boyfriend ( the child's dad) was beating her and everything. I don't think anyone should have to deal with such things.
I know that as young as she was that things were harder on her than they would've been for someone older who had finished school (could work a job to support herself)and who's psychological and emotional evelopment were further along.
I really think that people should wait at least until they are 18, or married. Anything earlier than 17 is just asking for it.
Thirteen is way too young. It is my opinion and I derive this opinion from first hand observations.
by loveisonly4letters on September 17th, 2007
13 is unbelievably tooo young to even think of sexual related activities!! i'm 16 and i still think i'm too young!!! it puts a huge strain on you, and your partner and at 13 you shouldnt even have someone that you are that serious with!!! be a kid, dont try to grow up to fast. i'm 16 and have many guy friends, and i love hanging out with them, but none of them nor am i mature enough for that kind of jump, neither is a 13 year old.
by L Anon has a Blank spot in her heart on September 4th, 2007
The way people are raised these days, yes it is too young. Teenagers are supposed to have 'fun' and having a child at that age is not fun - which can be the end result.
Back in the day when children stopped going to school before they were aged double digits and only living to the ripe old average age of 45 then that might have been the norm.
Now people are living much longer and you can't even decide at the 'adult' age of 18 whether or not you can buy a beer. A teen who is 13 is in very few ways *mentally* ready for sexual related activities.
I would hope the average 13 year old would not have to pray their sexual partner was not pregnant or have an STD, have to 'plan' on being a parent/adoption/etc. or have to take pills the rest of their life to deal with a disease. If a person is not ready to deal with these potential problems they are too young for sexually related activities.
It's a shame many kids are not taught realistically what to expect as adults. The innocence of childhood is celebrated for too long, I think for many it's the 'ignorance' of childhood. You can be realistic without losing the wonder of the world.
I'm sorry that sounds a bit cynical, but I was raised in the 'happily ever after' world and feel a bit dashed it's nowhere near how my life turned out. My new motto is 'hope for the best, plan for the worst'. :)
by Blink on September 3rd, 2007
i think if you can try it but be careful have protection thats what i would do. and for everyone saying 13 is too young they shouldnt know about sex yet and stuff... these days 9 year olds know about sex everyone knows about it, its just a fact of knowing how to handle it
by christie on November 3rd, 2007
Of course 13 is too young to have sex or any sexualy related activities.
I think that if your mature enough to deal with the consequences.... as in have the $$ and brains to raise a kid, then ok.
I dont know anyone under the age of 20 with the brains of $$ to do that, so why put yourself in risk?
At 13 years of age, your still a child, with little sence of consequences, little life experince, no understanding of finacial trouble, no knowledge of sexuality transmitted diseases... etc.
13 years old having sex is just plain stupid.
by QuinnFan on September 27th, 2007
I really think that people should wait until they are 18 and have graduated high school, once you are out of school, I think you are classified as an adult, and then you can screw up your life by having sex and getting pregnant.
by Mini_kilt on September 4th, 2007
Well, I'll voice the unpopular opinion and say no. While I think a 13 year old shouldn't be having sexual intercourse, I don't think it's too young for sexual related activities. Masturbation for instance, is something that starts in toddlerhood and I don't think it's healthy to be discouraging a teen to continue to explore thier own body, I think it sends the wrong message that sexual pleasure is bad and wrong, which it is not. Also some might consider sexual education a sex related activity, after all when I was in high school we passed around all sorts of contraceptives, put condoms on Bananas and other things and had a real "hands on" education (so to speak).
All of the above things I consider Sexual related activites and none I consider wrong for a 13 to participate in. I also think it's important for a 13 year old to be able to talk openly about sex and sexuality with trusted people, such as parents, and no 13 will do so if they are constantly told that sex is bad, they are too young and to leave it alone.
by Anonymous on September 4th, 2007
Yes I think this is correct. The only reason why a 13 yr old would even be interested in sexual related activities is cos of peer pressure. No 13 yr old would even think of doing stuff like that without being influenced. When I was 13 I was interested in dolls etc. Sex never even entered my head!!!
by ChelseaMark on September 4th, 2007
Of course it bloody is , what is happening to this World ?????????????
by Capt. Jack Sparrow GALCIY on April 8th, 2008
Yes, however I lost my virginity at 14 to a 15 year old.
Thankfully it wasn't catastrophic, but I sure don't condone it.
by LeeLee Chickybabe Avenger SLAB on January 19th, 2008
YES!!! Jeez isn't that when kids, especially girls just START to develop?? That's like babies trying to have babies!
by clxxviii on December 9th, 2007
I definately think 13 is too young. I'm 16 and I think I'm too young. I don't think at 13 you can really understand what you're doing, or make a decision that big. Anyone you'd be having sex with at that age wouldn't be someone responsible enough to trust your feelings or your body with. I hate thinking that kids have sex so young. Some of my friends were pretty young, and they either alrady regret it or I can see them regreting it in the future.
by Doggie S on November 3rd, 2007
Way too young!!!
I think at that age people are not yet EMOTIONALLY ready to engage in such activities.
by anonguy on September 27th, 2007
i would simply like to point out that the age of puberty is different in every case and in some girls can start at 8. now i must redeem myself.
yes 13 is too young. i only started at 18 because of a bad situation that only got worse. i wish i hadnt started so soon.
and im a guy, i can only imagine what girls go through when they make the decision to start.
by Anonymous on September 27th, 2007
Yeah that's too young!
I lost my virginity when I was 23!
=)
by Seafaring Pirate on September 27th, 2007
Yes, the mind is still in development, puberty has just begun. Leave the sexual demons for later in life, when you can cognitively comprehend why it is you want to sleep with this person...
by Anonomous on September 18th, 2007
Of course it's too young. At 13 you are not ready for the consequences that could follow.......children!
by Da Azian Boi on September 4th, 2007
I believe 13 is a very young age for sexual related activities. When someone is 13 they are still growing. Sex isn't something that they should participate in. They are way too young.
by Chaysgirl24 on September 4th, 2007
I believe it is too young! They should still be out playing outside! Not between the sheets! Plus what would they do if the girl got pregnant?!
by Joeisme333 is a pastafarian on August 10th, 2008
technically, many are ready in the sense that they have matured physically, but most (I would not think) have reached the point mentally to deal with that in any way other than what their right hand can provide.
by lemonkc on March 30th, 2008
YES!!! Teen sexual activities are that main cause of depression, suicides, abuse, drug use, and teen pregnancies that may end in premature births and abortions.
by Zark424 on November 5th, 2007
Your only a kid for few years, be a kid before you turn into an adult. Live your young life first.
by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on November 3rd, 2007
Even by MEDIAEVAL law 13 is too young.
Granted, by 13 puberty has hit, and these kids are about the age where they discover all those yummy new feelings that make a previously dirt-crusted boy spend 45 minutes in the shower daily... but that does not by ANY means imply they should be sharing that amongst each other.
Sexuality takes time to develop. The space between 13 and adulthood (whenever that may hit) is too precious a span of time to lose -- it should be spent exploring oneself, and ones options and desires... and when adulthood has come, THEN the opportunity may arise.
by DRLAURAHATER on September 27th, 2007
I agre 1,000 percent that 13 is way to young to be even thinking about have sex. A 13 year old is still a child and children don't have sex.
by ChicChick on September 27th, 2007
I have to agree. 13 is too young. What's the hurry anyway?
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on September 27th, 2007
I sure do. A 13 year old is just entering puberty and they don't have the mental, emmotinal, pyshical, finacial, or social readiness to deal with all the asspects of sex including the consequences of it. In fact they don't even understand that there are any consequences.
by calova on September 27th, 2007
13 is absolutely an age where people should not be having sex anywhere, anytime.
by LadyLuck on September 4th, 2007
Thinking back to when I WAS thirteen, yes. I wasn't ready for it - I knew two girls who, by that age, had gotten abortions.
There's a lot involved with making a mature decision to have sex, and I honestly don't think that anyone at that age is ready to weigh out EVERYTHING (birth control, possible STD's, contraception, foreplay) without giggling first. Then again, kids these days are a lot more mature than we give them credit.
I plan on having the "talk" with my daughter long before she hits thirteen - hopefully honesty helps her make better decisions.
by Capt.Lizzie_pirate king_Swann on September 4th, 2007
I have to say I was 14 when I first had sex, and I had no idea what was actually going on. My boyfriend at the time(he was 14) managed to convince me of it, and I really didn't know what was happening until afterwards. Thirteen is definitely way too young. Sex isn't something anyone under the age of 18 should do, but it happens all the time.
by Phillip on September 4th, 2007
13 is way too young. I doubt that Id even let my daughter date until she is older than this.
Reason? At 13, its our job as parents to protect our children, not let them to dumb things that will permanantly scar or even ruin their lives.
At 13, they are not old enough or mature enough to make those kinds of descisions.
Sex is best left to marriage.
by ElinaRocks on December 2nd, 2008
God. The answer is simple.....13 Are you kidding me. When i was 13 i didnt even know what sex was. That is Way....Way to young to be messing around. I know that these day kids are doing it all the time but its way wronge,
by Mech675 on November 10th, 2008
!3 is way to young. I get the wanting to be adult part and the urges young people feel. But they are just kids and can wreck there whole life with one stupid mistake. Even if she was on the pill and he used a condom they can still birth a child. Only it will be born with body armor on.
by Anonymous on August 13th, 2008
THIRTEEN IS WAY TOO YOUNG FOR those kinds of activities. i am thirteen and have a boyfriend. i am going to break up with him. it makes me really uncomfortable thinking about these kind of thoughts. i cant even stand thinking about the fact that we are even a couple because it makes me very uncomfortable. dont think about this stuff. in my opinion thirteen year-olds shouldnt even have boyfriend and girlfriend relationships. trust me, i learned that having a bf and gf relationship at thirteen isnt worth it. i learned the hard way.
by Epistaxis on February 26th, 2008
I believe that 13 is too young to even consider sex. In today's society children seem to know more about sexual intercourse than most adults, which is sad.
Parenting skills have certainly taken a back seat since I was a child, In todays world parents rely too much on gadgets and technology to teach their children so they don't have to.....and if you leave it up to trial by error. Then your going to get a lot more errors with no one to blame but yourself. So the next time you sit on the phone for 45 minutes trying to figure out how to purchase that brand new car, or take that vacation that you and your wife or husband have been planning while leaving the kids with a baby sitter; how about pausing for a moment to tend to your kids.
by pinkroxii1020 on February 12th, 2008
i do believe that 13 is too young to have sex, because once you have sex your feelings get tied into a person and at 13 you're not really ready for relationship, and i believe that sex before marriage has certain percautions that you have to take and at 13 you just dont have the moindset to take all the right percautions.
i cheated on my boyfriend and now he always thinks i'm cheating on him. we been 2gether for 2 years. how do i get him to trust me?
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UM HUM U SHOLL IS RITE. IM 13 AND I KNOW I AINT HAVIN NO SEX!!! FIRST OF ALL.... U AINT MARRIED.....SECOND OF ALL U AINT GOT NO BUSINESS PULLIN YO PANTS DOWN N LETTIN SUM BOY GET UP IN U....THIRD OF ALL U CAN GET CIRVICAL CANCER BECAUSE AT DA AGE OF 13 UR NOT FULLY DEVELOPED.... YO VAGINA GONE BE LIKE WHAT DA HELL IS DIS.... IT MAY FEEL GOOD....I KNOW.....YO HORMONES MAY BE RAGIN AND DAT BOY IN FRONT OF U FINE AS I DONT KNOW WHAT....BUT STOP!!!!
by Maya on September 27th, 2007
It depends on the individual.
by Halskiisaklink on November 5th, 2007
amen
by Anonymous on November 21st, 2007
Yea I think it is too young, but I guess if your safe then thers no problem.
by Steviereno on December 25th, 2007
13 is very young for that. Still children. You must wait to the age of 18
by C-fighter on January 9th, 2008
Hah, BS. 18 indeed.
by Halskiisaklink on January 9th, 2008
Spin the Bottle is OUT! Seriously, it all depends on the 13 year old.
by centrator on February 12th, 2008
I say wait until 16. You know what you are doing by then and you know if you want a dick in your vag or not.Or if you want your dick in a vag
by Assassin on March 16th, 2008
Assassin, all 13 year old boys and older want their dick in a vag, it's the girl side that need to think about it.
by Christian on October 8th, 2008
Some 13 year-old boys are gay, others are just naturally celibate. It depends on who you talk to.
by Halskiisaklink on October 12th, 2008
Having sex at 13 years of age is absolutely way too young to be having sex! I don't care who blames who or whatever else is said why children have sex at such a young age. I am an extremely attractive, sexual female; and I waited until I was almost 20 years old and knew then what all the hype was about. I waited until I knew I was in love.
Even teens think they know at an early age that they are ready to have sex, because he or she loves Johnny or Jill so much. Well, I hate to burst their bubble, but all I have to say it SEX is not Love!! Children should be brought up to be kids as long as they can and allowed. Sex is an adult game with adult consequences if not careful.
by Honey7 on November 15th, 2008
I think people should just make the decisions for themselves. I know plenty of people who started having sex at a very young age and are more or less well-adjusted members of society. Just as long as you're wearing a decent brand of condom, you're pretty safe.
by Halskiisaklink on November 15th, 2008
yes i do think that is to young 13 you are only just a tennager not even developed yet!
by bubble on December 3rd, 2008
i think the same 13 is a very young age to experience sex.... think of it this way if it was your daughter will you tell her it's okay to experienced that?.... 13 yr old do not know wat love is and there is alot of consequences they will face such as getting pregnant and probably dropping out of school etc.... there too young they got a whole life ahead of them and sex should not be on their mind.
by Nena 23 on December 17th, 2008
if your child is having sex at that young of an age, she cant think for him or herself or they need more attention. I am a teenager and i know that this is very true.
by britt on December 17th, 2008
13 year olds need to be concentrating on school and sports, not sex.
by ICU says April is Autism Awareness Mo. on February 13th, 2009
Ask your parents..
But I will say this.. it means that you will get pregnant sooner and possibly get an std sooner..
and quite possibly be all used up by the time you are 20
ever hear the comment.. oh she was ridin hard and hung out to dry?
by Lauralaw on April 12th, 2009
Instead of saying they CAN'T do it, shouldn't we also be teaching them if they DO want to do it, how to be safe. See the thing is children that age do it. Whether we want them to or not. And most parents will NEVER know or find out until the girl gets pregnant. Which could have probably been avoided if we as parents were more "open" concerning it. Just a thought!
by Gone. on July 27th, 2009
Well, i lost my virginity at 12, i know that is WAYY to young but it just happened, i don't regret it, i jus wish i were a lil but older. But if a 13 yr old wants to have sex, let them. jus always know there are resonsibilitys if you get pregnant or get AIDS, STDS, or anything, you jus have to be ready for anything when you have sex.
by Lindsey D on August 13th, 2009
HEY ---- futzwaller
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The question is "Do you believe this is correct?" it is not about anyone have sex, it is about the questioners belief system. Remember the questioner started out "I believe ".
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You should address the question and not address whether a 13 year old girl or boy (gender is not specified) is age appropriate for sex.
by Macmedic and yet ... here I am on September 2nd, 2009
100 percent correct! 6+
by MRSHINYSHOES on September 12th, 2009
i agree 100percent with Yeux. I think theres still a long way to go when ur at age 13... i would still play with barbies at that age
by Mexican Barbie on October 21st, 2009
I don't think any 13 year old needs to have sex. If your not ready for parenting don't have sex. for girls, sex isn't really all that great the 1st time or the 2nd or the 3rd. It kinda sucks so just don't make your life complicated.
by Mrs.Garrett on October 27th, 2009
Sex is pretty damn awesome, more so after the 2nd or 3rd time.
by Halskiisaklink on October 28th, 2009