I live in NYC and am an attractive brown skinned Latina. Well my question is why don't white guys seem to be attracted to Latina and Black Women? I like white guys but they never seem to approach me and my friends unless we're w/white girls.. Insight plz
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I can't give you any one answer because there is a million reasons why they might not approach you and none of them have to do with not liking black or latina women I personally would have no problem dating either one if I was attracted to their personality I myself don't approach women of any race but that is only because I am very shy until I get to know and feel comfortable
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I can't give you any one answer because there is a million reasons why they might not approach you and none of them have to do with not liking black or latina women I personally would have no problem dating either one if I was attracted to their personality I myself don't approach women of any race but that is only because I am very shy until I get to know and feel comfortable around someone If these guys are flirting only with the white girls ask them why maybe it is cause they were taught to marry within their own race and though I agree it is racist maybe they haven't gotten to a maturity level to see how wrong that is I was in a beautiful loving relationship for almost 3 years with a puerto rican girl she was my world til the tragic day some sick animals took her from me and my love for her had nothing to do with her being puerto rican it was because she was a beautiful person inside and out
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*this is the poster commenting* thanks.. but wat i find interesting is that alot of the guys approach white girls (and like i said, they approach my friends and i if we're with other white girls) so obviously some of them arent shy... any anwsers would be appreciated.. thanks again
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I am from the South, and I know there is still lots of preduduce there. But things have gotten better. If you were in the south, I might say that it might be a preduduce problem. I now live in Idaho and there is lots of predjuduce here as well. No idea what its like in NYC. This may or may not be the issue. I know that for me, Im not that way. Im white, but I have never been attracted to a black woman. But I do think that Latinos and quite attractice. Its really hard to say what the problem might be but from what you say, it might well be some prejeduce.
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Well its the same reason why spanish guys don't approach black women, or the same reason why white women would appraoch a group of black men...its a stereo type that we wouldn't be interested because there not the same race. I'm a black man thats live in Bronx half my life and now live in north jersey which means im 15 minutes away. Now I notice when I go out with my black freinds...we only get approach by black women only..now when I got out with my spanish or white friends I get approach by all types. I think thats because if they see another person of a different race, they would feel more comfortable.
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latinas are hot.i dont no what ur talkin bout
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I find it good that you seem to be sure to be attractive. It shows some self confidence. However, there are other things to consider as just attractiveness. For instance a positive aura, some education, manners, smartness, sympathy etc. Maybe you should go to other places with other people. Consider also that many people prefer the company of their like.
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I am a white guy and I love Latin and black women. You can't stereotype all of us because you have not been approached by a white guy. If you do like them, you should approach them. I am sure you will not be turned down, especially if you are an attractive brown skinned Latina. In my opinion, that sounds gorgeous!
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I am the biggest sucker ever for Latina women and I am white. I grew up in an area with a lot of white, Latino, black, you name it. For some reason Latino men would get crazy possessive and territorial when a white dude would try to talk to one of "their" women. Bugged me out, so for years I just didn't even think about it. Now, though, when I'm free to react to what draws it out of me, it's all about color. Latinas have passion, darkness, attitude, the top, the bottom, anything a man could ever want. It's too bad, though, that a lot of white men have been pre-conditioned to look right past this incredibly beautiful aspect of the human condition we call Latin women.
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sometimes white guys go out with japanese because they say there more educated not true latins are really educated and nice, white guys just dont like latinas i love white guys there sweet and im latina but some white guys dont like latinas maybe their racism i dont know only i couls be wrong few of my friends have gone out with a white guys...Ita sad but i just have to say in my mind i will never marry a white guy but life goes on...
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Probably because they either are racists or they think your black. Trust me I've been there done that. I'm a dark skinned Latina, about 98% of white people , rather than asking me, take it upon themsleves to pigeon whole me as a black girl. I love my tanned skin, and if they want to continue to make ass' out of themselves rather than asking me. Go ahead. I think white male/black female relationships are super hot! I wish I could see more couples like this. It ended well for me. I married a white man. But when I was out there trying to date. You could forget about it, white guys looked right thru me as if I was even there! I'm a hottie too! LOL Good luck finding one who has balls to come and talk to you!
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Wow! you are not around the right people. My current s/o is dominican and is the most beautiful woman i have ever met. Even before her i like the latina look, but now i will never change.....
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I have had Black African, latina - Brazillian girlfriends,... (married one) and just luv the difference. Go get them white guys girl, they'll luv ya.
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I think people assume that you want to date someone of your race. They're afraid you're going to turn them down.
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Hi, i am told i am a beautiful Latina myself. I have always dated white guys, am only attracted to white guys and nothing else, since i can remember. Perhaps because i didnt grow up traditionally hispanic. My family are of third generation and some members were very privillaged in arts and politics etc. However, i think white guys are insecure of other women from other races soemtimes. So you have to let them know that you ARE interested by making subtle eye contact, smile and conversation, otherwise, believe me, they won't have a clue. Because they think we reject them. And yes they do like us. I know that some of my white boyfriends have only dated and preferred women of colour and have whittnessed them reject white girls complaining that they are too pasty, boring etc. But i must warn you white guys prefer women with a bit of class, so they arent really always keen on the ghetto culture thing, so do keep that in mind.
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Maybe they do like you, but they think you wouldn't. A lot of 'em are real liberal, like I am.
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i think its coincidence because i've met countless men who have specifically said they love women of color...also, i know that guys generally love anyone who's attracted to THEM...don't we all?
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Intimidation mostly I think. I think it's harder to approach someone of a different race. You don't know what they're thinking of you or what they find attractive, whereas within you're own, you tend to assume they do think you're attractive if you are. Like for me, when I go down south, I know that black men think I'm attractive. I always notice it. Many latino ones as well. I have somewhat mixed features (brown skin, green eyes, etc.), but very few white men ever speak to me or show interest the way minorities do, even if I see them looking. I think it's just because their afraid of women that are exotic to them. It's nothing about you. I'm sure many of them do think you're the bomb and are just afraid to say so. You can always make the first move! I lucked out that my Irish bf only likes brown girls, but if I hadn't known that, I'd still have made a move!
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you need to get together with the person who asked this question: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/646540
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Have you thought that maybe it's the places you're going? I've met some really cool white guys at art shows. I've also met some really closed minded ones that only date white women and asian girls because they are submissive. Who would even want those guys? You girls can keep em! I know there are cool ones out there so don't sweat the dumb ones that can't see how beautiful you are. Sometimes they might, but are too chicken to say anything. In that case why would you want to be with the type of guy that can't even grow a set and approach you? Life is too short...just smile and move on. I live in CA and 99% of guys that approach me are white.
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OP. I have a white friend named Scott who only dates brown skinned black and latina women. Want an introduction? lolz Seriously though, its just that you have not met any white men who are attracted to you. Try changing your social venues to see if you have more luck in different places. Try making the first approach to a white guy who you find attractive.
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The problem isn't with them not being attracted to Latina or Black Women because lots of White Guys are, its more than likely they aren't sure whether you would be opened to them or not. Guys of all races hate rejection. If you find situations where White Guys approach only if you're with White Women then the guys are probably thinking "hey, she has some white female friends, so she's probably be at least OK with me talking to her" whereas if you're along the same guy might think "she's cute, but she might not be into white guys and its best not to take the chance and make her feel uncomfortable."
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