Keep it to myself & let it pass. We all get small crushes I think sometimes but its not worth bringing hell to my family & kids all because I had a nice feeling for someone.

Have your fantasies and leave it there. The grass is not greener on the other side. You have something special and if you mess it up over "lust?" you lose everything.

I'd venture a guess that it's not truly love, but a fantasy on your part. I sure hope you're not cheating. Perhaps it's a sign that you need to improve something in your marriage relationship.

OH PLEASE listen to babycakes. She really knows what she's talking about. The grass is NEVER greener on the other side

By stating "spouse isn't aware of whats going on inside" I assume this is not physical. One thing I'd have to step out side to evaluate if it was me and ask would I want someone that would be sexually envolved or persue a married person? I'd also have to evaluate why I was thinking this tordge someone else versus my spouse and what needs to be done to change that. Realistically the thrill and mystery tordge someone else is attractive and alot of that was the fire that feed you to persue what has become a marriage in the first place. Another question is what kind of relationship could you have with a guy you had to be a cheater to be with? Is trust important to you?

My answer is probably going to offend some people here...my answers usually do. (^-^) You are unsatisfied about something in your marriage. Did you marry at a young age? Due to cultural pressure? Family pressure? Convenience? Yes - it does happen and I think you should heed your instincts and your heart - follow your heart b/c at the very least - you will not have any regrets. You need to get some "balls" (don't mean to offend here. :)) and know what you really want in your life. If it means to first admit it to yourself and then take action upon it - do it! If you've fallen in love with someone else (true love doesn't come by often...)then your marriage is already missing one of the most crucial things - being 'in love' with your spouse... Hope this helps.

If you felt that you "never knew what love was" until you met this person, why the HELL did you get married?

I know that right now you think you feel that way. I think what you are feeling is either lust or infatuation. That is only a guess though since I am not you and don't know what is going on in your head. If I were you I would avoid this guy like the plague and sit down with my spouse and discuss the things I feel are lacking in our relationship. Then I would encourage them to go to counseling along with me so we can try to make things better. If after doing this and all else you can to make things better and you still feel as you do about this other guy then I would leave my spouse before things go beyond just feelings and end up as cheating. But I wouyld caution you to be very sure before making such a drastic choice to be sure you personally have done everything in your power to make your marriage work so when this other guy dumps you or cheats on you You won't have regrets about leaving such a good man for this loser. And yes that is exactly what I thinki he is if he is encourgging you in any way. Any decent respectable guy who knew someone who had an interest in them was married or in a relationship would do all he can to keep his distance from that person. Otherwise it just makes him a scumbag.

Think back to your wedding day! Remember those vows? In sickness and in health, better or worse, and all that jazz! Shame on you!

Not to put too fine a point on it, but if you have already cheated on your husband, then you need to come clean with him - especially if he is as good a man as you say he is. If you haven't cheated, then you should remove yourself from "someone else" for a while and decide what it is you find so appealing. I think you may find it is some aspect of the other person more than the other person himself. There is nothing wrong with sitting your husband down and telling him straight up that he's not doing it for you anymore (also be open to the possibility that you're not doing it for him either) and if you two can't get this sorted out, there is only one way this is going to end. Maybe not immediately in divorce, but you'll probably be cheating on him before long if you don't address the problem - at the very least you will both eventually be miserable. He's probably not as unaware as you may think he is.

Who do you want , love and know is good.is it a passing thought or will you never be able to live in the relationship youre in because of it.obviously you think the one your with is good but do you love him?