ANSWERS: 13
  • Its not his fault he was raped. It was being in the wrong place at the wrong time sure, but I can't blame the victim.
  • i would be outraged.... my opinion of my husband would not change... after all, he's not gay and most certainly did not enjoy what happened... good lord, a question like this will give me nightmares...
  • Why would ANYONE blame a guy who was gang-raped or hold it against him? Yes, I would treat him the same, and probably better. I would also be there for him if he needed a shoulder to lean on. This is a horrible question. Just the thought gives me chills. Do you know someone in this situation? If so, I feel for the guy, and he has my thoughts and prayers.
  • i would treat him the same but honestly i would also look at him and say to myself this man got raped by other man....I don't he's gay or any thing but if you look at a lady who was rape thw thought would go through your head...but i would never judge that person because of it.
  • wrong box
  • I will help him as much as I can both physically and spritually
  • Give me strength, of course I wouldn't look at him differently. Why do I think it is you who this has happened to, and if I am right, you should not be feeling any shame. Regardless of the fact that you are gay or straight is irreseptive of what happened to you. Talk to someone, I think you will find most decent human beings will actually respond to you in a positive manner. I wish you all the best for the future, regardless of whether you are the person it happened to or not. Jamesiree
  • Why would I look at them differently?
  • yeah in the sense that this is inconceiveable. why? why did this happen would i admonish my friend - absolutely never try to find the rapists - yes i would bathe my man and hold him for dear life if this ever happened to him and then go kick some fucking ass
  • Hey! my street isn't the wrong street, it's juuust right.
  • Well, everytime I look at him I would feel sad for him.
  • I would look at you the same for the simple fact that I understand what you are going through and I also would look at you the same because it is simply not your fault. If somebody else wants to harm you in that kind of way then that is their fault not yours. If it were me that were raped which I was then I wouldn't want anybody to see me any differently. Some girls would see you different but I would see you as a stronger man for the simple fact that you have been able to endure such a horrible thing.
  • Boyfriends, husbands, even parents often look differently at women who have been raped. All too many people suspect that a woman "deserved" it because of the way she dressed or the way she acted. All too many people accuse a female rape victim of lying about the attack in order to cover up some consensual encounter. It's all despicable. So it is understandable that some would "suspect" the voracity of a man's story, or think that he deserved what happened. But that is equally despicable. So would I look at him the same? In terms of respecting him as a man, yes. In terms of seeking to maintain his friendship or love, yes. But there would be one change: I would look at him with greater compassion than before, and with that, greater understanding of the changes that might occur in his personality, his desires, or in his view of himself.

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