If a man is hitting a woman, and he is being physically abusive, should I feel bad about physically stopping him? (I punched a guy tonight to stop him from beating a woman, and I feel a bit bad about using violence)
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Nelson - Jetpacking from bed
ANSWERS: 33
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If he was hitting a woman then imo you were justified.
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Don't feel bad , you did the right thing - man to man is a lot better than a man hitting a women , and thankfully you were there + 5
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You shouldn't feel bad about it. My colleague & her husband intervened when a man was beating a woman last weekend & both of them are still in hospital. My colleague has a broken jaw & arm.
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Nope. I've done the same in the past. No reason to feel bad. It's just not something some people can walk away from. And, I'm glad I'm not the type to just continue walking. You should be glad you aren't either.
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You shouldn't feel bad. Sometimes, violence is the only way to stop something that is even worse. I'm glad you did stop it. There are still decent people in the world and you're one of them. That makes me feel better.
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Nelson, think about it - what else could you have done that would have effectively stopped the guy besides incapacitate him in some way, shape, form or fashion? I wouldn't feel bad about it if I were you. It's easy to second guess yourself after the fact. Sounds to me like you did the right thing. YAY, Nelson!!
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Good job.
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No, you definitely did the right thing. Violence was probably the only way to stop him. Fortunately, you were there to stop the man. Good Job, Nelson!
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Oh heck no - you shouldn't feel bad at all. In fact, you should be *proud* - you could have saved the woman's life.
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Nelson you did the right thing and should not feel bad I wish I had your guts to do what you did the best I ever did in a situation like that was call 911 but you know how that goes unless it is one of their own being attacked they take their sweet time in coming because a domestic dispute is not a very high priority for a cop and btw in this one case they actually did show up pretty fast a miracle in itself and after it was all over the woman didn't want to press charges and came over to me spit in my face and told me to mind my own business the next time I was so angry with her for that reaction that I said something I didn't really mean I told her that I hope he puts her in the hospital next time
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I can relate with you as I have been in the same position and later I thought perhaps I could have handled it in a different non-violent way. However, you reacted to an unjustice and ended an abuse which shows compassion for someone being harmed and like others have stated you did the right thing. I just hope the woman takes it a step further and brings to police into it and has the man arrested so he can be dealt with and perhaps learn it is wrong to do what he was doing.
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no, you shouldn't feel bad. in stopping this guy, you surely helped this woman from being seriously hurt...or worse!
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I think you did the right thing. A few years ago this happened to my son and the guy he hit fell against the window, breaking it, of the Chinese takeaway it all happened. He was barred from the Chinese, but a bit of a local folk hero for a while.
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Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire, as the saying goes. Now maybe he'll think twice about what he did. Good job.
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I will have to disagree with you here, an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind! Ghandi Violence is never the answer in my opinion.
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I understand that feeling of guilt, but in the end what you did was right. I would have done the same, if not almost killed him ;-) If there was a non-violent alternative that could have helped immedietly, it might have been better. I have seen situations where a woman who was being abused, turned around and had the person who came to her defense arrested for assaulting her husband/boyfriend.
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There is no reason you should feel bad, because you did nothing wrong. Violence is the only way to end crueltry, various atrocities, and other violence, sometimes. The very best example I can think of is World War II - violence / war was the only way to address the Nazis. The European Union would now be the Third Reich / German Federation, and tens of millions of other people would have been killed, had it not been for violence. I've done what you did myself, and I'm proud of it. You should be too!
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I wouldn't feel bad! If he wants to fight let him fight a man! NOt a woman! Good job! LOL
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If it had been me being beaten and you stepped in to stop it, I'd be eternally grateful. As it is, I'm grateful for the existence of people like you. Don't feel bad. You did right.
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Dont feel guilty i personally think you are a very caring brave man :)
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No Man or Woman should ever use violence unless it is a life threatening situation.
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Consider yourself very lucky. Lots of times the person interveening ends up getting beat on by the woman and the man who originally assulted her.
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I wish you didn't feel bad because it makes it harder for me to enjoy saying... YES!!! Good for you
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Ya done good. be happy. Now go back and pop him again for making you feel bad. :-)
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Hey, if he's not dead or paralyzed from the neck down, props for showing restraint. Unfortunately he'll do it again, though.
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Well, if you did all you could to stop him, before you hit him... then he made a choice to continue. I think it was probably better to stop him (or have the police do it) right away, rather than call 911 and stand by while he batters her. For all you know, your punch meant the difference between life and death for her. The problem with this situation is, many times the woman will defend the abuser, and feel sorry for them because "YOU HIT HIM!" It's so sad to watch these women go back to the abuser time and time again.
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i wouldnt feel too bad. the guy had it comeing. you could have stopped it another way without violence, but if he was really hurting her, i think it was best he stopped. good for you
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I commend you for standing up to the abuser. Thank God for your intervention or the woman might of been killed.
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YOU PROBABLY FEEL BAD ABOUT IT BECAUSE MAYBE YOU COULD HAVE GONE A DIFFERENT ROUTE IN THIS SITUATION (IN STOPING HIM) PUNCHING ISNT THE BEST WAY OF STOPING IT. YOU CANT BURN OUT A FIRE USING FIRE, IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. BUT IT IS GOOD THAT YOU STOOD UP FOR HER.gOOD JOB MR.
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Well it depends don't it? the woman could of said some right hurtful things or even threatened his family and then here you come with a punch to the back of this guys head which I think is cowardly and this is probably how you did it I bet. If women want equal rights then they need to learn that men won't take crap from them if there being abusive or threatening because I doubt this man just started beating on her for no reason. If a man gets beat on by a woman everyone laughs and thinks it's a joke but when the man fights back everyone is on the womans side, it's damn hypocritical and if a woman assaulted me you better believe I would defend myself with extreme force.
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Well, since the man that is hit in such a situation is the aggressor, I think that such an action would be justified.
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No don't feel bad. And legally you wouldn't be in trouble I don't think.
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I wish there were more men like you.
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