What does your wife think about that program? She agreed ?

That all depends on you guys!

Would she be OK with you bringing another girl into the bed?

On rare occassions, things are OK but on the whole, this is akin to opening Pandora's Box - you are inviting a 3rd party into your relationship and this has the potential to destroy your marriage and relationship. It really is a minefield. For example, what would you do if you brought this guy in and you both had sex with your wife and she found him more attractive that she did you? Would you be standing watching thinking, "she's not like that with me". See what I mean, pandora's box is it not?

I will answer your question with a question: Is the strength of your relationship built on sex, or is it deeper than that?

"forsaking all others". I think people tend to forget that vow (if you said it).

Sure, people do it all the time. I just takes trust, and the ability to communicate properly. Yuo can't be petulant about it, and you have to remember that it's an experience. Don't get jealous, and if anyone is uncomfortable with it, it needs to stop. If either partner is doing it JUST for the other person and doesn't really want to do it, it should NOT be done. Otherwise it WILL breed resentment, and could essentially break down your marriage. I suggest talking it over as many times as possible, and getting EVERY concern, idea, thought, etc out on the table. Both, and even the third party needs to be comfortable with this idea. Good luck.

I would caution anyone considering this to STOP and think it through thoroughly. Even then, I don't believe there can EVER be a positive outcome. Marriage is difficult by itself. It takes an ongoing participation and commitment from both partners. It's intended to be a monogamous union. I would suggest that when one or both partners are entertaining the idea of bringing in another person, something is lacking in their sex life and the marriage isn't as strong as they had thought. THAT would indicate a higher level of awareness in the marriage needs to be sought. Bringing in another partner is only a temporary solution for sexual satisfaction. Actually it's very much like having an affair, even though your partner is there participating. It's temporary! And here's another thing about bringing in others..... while it may be agreed upon at the moment, and may occur many, many times, at some point human nature will take over. Watching someone you love kissing and making love to someone else is going to have a mental effect eventually. Thoughts will creep in and begin to erode and corrupt the trust. It may happen in a few days, or it may take months, or even years. It's not because you ARE untrustworthy, that really has nothing to do with it. When you're married sex isn't just sex, it's intimacy. It's a confirmation of your love for one another. With multiple partners our brains perception of what is going on will cause the lines between sex and true love to become blurred. And once this mind set occurs, AND IT WILL, the damage has already been done. Telling your partner, "You agreed. We decided to do this together." won't have any effect on the perception. Next what follows is a long period of rebuilding what was already a questionably strong relationship to begin with. Or even worse, it could lead to divorce.

Marriage is hard by itself so I would say No if you are having doubts but if you know you and your wife are truly cool with it then I would say go ahead and have fun while you doing it

uh...no.

too many cooks spoil the soup

No.

yes it is and it will bring a new side to your sexual relations ... open it up and it will allow the both of you to explore and enjoy your sexuality BUT you can only do this if you have a strong relationship to begin with and if your in the least little bit jealous (either of you) then DON'T because it will kill your relationship dead and it means that the relationship wasn't strong enough in the first place and thats the biggest mistake people make and that is its going to fix up a relationship ...it won't but it can enhance one if your open and honest with each other to begin with

Why would you want to have a 3some with a GUY and your wife? Why not just each agree to find another partner,like a swinger type deal?

That is for you and your wife to decide , not us

It is possible, but highly unlikly. Why chance it? There are so many other things to keep a sex life great. I would strongly advise finding another method.

Yes, it is very possible. My husband of almost 25 years knew this was a fantasy of mine. We have been talking about it for at least 8 years. We happened upon the right other guy - well, we did actively, casually but not fanatically, look. The timing was right; we had met him outside the bedroom many times; we had a very exciting and hot evening. My loving and sexy husband and I still talk about it in a very positive way. He knows I thoroughly enjoy sex. He knows I am committed to our relationship. How does he explain it? He says he loves and adores me and nothing gets him off more than seeing me get off. This occurred alomost a year ago. There have been no more encounters at this time, but who knows what the future holds. By the way, to other comments - Yes, we have had another woman in our bed, probably seven or so years ago. That was equally as gratifying. My husband and I expect to be married, in love, forever, regardless of whether we ever again share ourselves withs others.

i guess it depends on your point of view. do you like the situation? i mean, does the threesome do it for you? does it make your wife feel more attractive, and do you feel that way about her also? if all's yes, i don't see why not. :) if not, and it makes you feel inferior|jealous, i suggest you stop immediately and talk about it. figure where you both really want to go with your relationship. but then i'm only 28 and not married, hahaha. hth.

Yes. The wife and I are closer than we have ever been. We are very particular in our choice of partners because we feel this is not something that should be entered into lightly. Don't force it and be open with your wife about everything and it can be a beautiful experience.

I say take your wife out one night, and tell her that this night is the night, go to a bar or what ever and build up the situation and see how she reacts to it then say ....you know what honey lets give it another night, and see how bad or how fast she is willing to go for it. For a man a thought of it is a turn on..but it takes a strong stomach to swallow. I think you should pretend for awhile and keep getting closer to the break point.

her idea??? are you okay with another man having sex with your wife? and i know this question was posted in august. im curious to know if you actually went through with it or not.

you are now embarking in the realm of swinging... and there are relationships that endure it.

Who with? The other guy or your slut wife?

Yeah its one of things it will either work out or break you up its too hard to say But if you both have a 100% strong emotional connection and 100% trust and very little jealously then yes it can work